use of Fear.

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>> A mistaken thought is

the cause of your painful feelings so lets explore that in some

depth. For example, if I have the stressful thought " I am going to

die of cancer. " Just asking is it true or even can I absolutely know

that it is true will not take me very far, because a " yes " , " no "

or " I don't know " does not explore the nature of the error in the

thought. That thought " I am going to die of cancer. " is an example

of a cognitive distortion known as fortune telling. It's as if I

have a crystal ball in front of me and I can clearly see myself

dying of cancer. I believe what I see so this makes me very afraid.

Now that I understand the error that I am making, asking " is it

true? " brings me back to reality. The truth is that I am not a

fortune teller and I have NO way of knowing how I am going to die.

Seeing this clearly makes it obvious that the original

thought is a lie. The reality is that I have no idea how I am going

to die!

 

 

 

A simple technique that I have seen work

in such scenarios is that of - inner " yes " ,

inner " acceptance " or as someone pointed out

of " allowing " !

 

 

 

Like:

 

I am fine having a fear of dying.

 

I am fine having a fear of dying of cancer.

 

I see no need to " not have " this fear of dying

of cancer!

 

In fact, I am glad that I have this fear of dying

of cancer and I can see how easily it can

be true.

 

And, I am " ok " with dying of cancer!

 

 

And, knowing fragile human body and health

can be, I am so glad and so entirely Grateful

that I am STILL Alive, I STILL have this

Wonderful Life! I am Still Healthy and STILL

so free of Cancer!

 

Thank you my lord, thank you my body,

thank you my mom, dad, my wife, my spouse,

children, my doctor, my company, my country,

the earth, the sky... Than you ALL who have

anyhow contributed to give me have this wonderful,

healthy and SUCH a BLESSED Life!

 

 

 

 

Just, try it once and see...

 

 

 

 

I fully acknowledge the possibility that I might

get cancer. I fully acknowledge the possibility that

I might die of cancer and I am fine having and knowing

of this possibility.

 

In one way, it is even good that I know this possibility:

 

1. It makes me Greatly Grateful of the wonderful life and

health that I have so far had.

 

2. It makes me greatly grateful of the wonderful life health that

I STILL have Today!

 

3. It makes me feel extremely grateful for the wonderful life and

and health that my loved one has so far HAD and STILL continue

to have!

 

 

And, I realize how fragile and how precious this life, health

and good fortune is!

 

I realize how 'quite powerless' I am against this cancer,

and, I Realize how little of this 'no cancer', 'good health',

'good fortune' has been due to my " efforts " and how much

of it has been due to PURE Grace and PURE Blessings!

 

Thank you O My Lord, thanking for SUCH a Wonderful

healthy and 'cancer free' Life that I have HAD so far without

making any " effort " of my own!

 

 

And, thank you O, my " fear of cancer " for 'reminding'

me of the Greatly Fortunate and BLESSED Existence

that I have HAD enjoyed and I STILL continue to Enjoy!!!

 

Thank you O My Lord!

 

Thank You!

 

Thank You!

 

Thank You!

 

 

 

 

Give me these " fears " from time to time so that,

I am reminded of the BLESSINGS that I have HAD!

 

Thank you!

 

Thank You!