Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 i would hesitate to act on the advice of a doctor who without seeing me would prescribe a potent medication. encouraging another that you don`t know to dive into a dark place could easily destroy them. i would not like to think that my immaturity, however well- intended caused another to commit suicide. service of another in love and acceptance of them and their situation is all that can be offered in this instance. i wish you well. -- In Nisargadatta , " anabebe57 " <kailashana wrote: > > Nisargadatta , " Johan " <yohansky@> wrote: > > > > Nisargadatta , " adithya_comming " > > <adithya_comming@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > One of my dear friend was recently (about a > > > month back) diagnsoed with stage 2-3 > > > breas cancer. She is about 33 years of age and > > > she has just had an adorable baby girl (her > > > second child). > > > > > > Her breasts are removed and now, according > > > to doctors she has to through chemotherapy > > > (and possibly even worse) for about 2-4 years. > > > > > > She told me that she feels very depressed > > > at times and is looking for a way out. She > > > asked me for suggestions. > > > > > > She has no background in " work " , spirituality > > > or psychology. > > > > > > She used to be very cheerful, lively, positive > > > and fun-loving person and her husband is a great > > > guy - very positive and full of energy, optimism > > > and enthusiasm. > > > > > > What would be your advive? > > > > > > > > > > > > My advice to my friend would be simply to STOP > > > " resisting " 'depression'! > > > > > > Allow 'depression' to completely and 'willingly' > > > overtake you. Welcome it with open arms. Expereince > > > it, see it, feel all of it, every bit of it. This > > > is a wonderful opportunity! Whon knows, when again > > > you will get 'depressed'! Who knows when again you > > > will have opportunity to see 'depression' this closely, > > > feel it this intricately! See it, see all its fibers, > > > all its fabrics... > > > > > > Do it at least for half an hour. Do it without > > > 'mentaly' 'commenting'. Just see how it looks > > > without you trying to 'itrepret' it. Once you > > > do that then please let me know... exactly what it > > > is! > > > > > > > > > There is absolutely no reason to 'resist' it! > > > > > > It is Absoultely Fine to be 'depressed'! > > > > > > And, it is absolutely fine to curse God... > > > just do it Whole Heartedly, FULLY, Completely, > > > All Out... and, then tell me how it feels... > > > > > > > > > There is NO reason to try to 'escape' > > > 'depression'... > > > > > > Allow yourself to be Depressed All Over... > > > just do it 'willingly', stay fully 'conscious' > > > while you do it... and, see where it takes you! > > > > > > > > > You might be in for a Suprise! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > **** > > > > > > > > > When there is No Way Out... > > > Turn Within... > > > > > > [and, you might 'pass thru'!] > > > > > > > > > > > > **** > > > > > > Thru my severe 'no acceptance', I found > > > my way to Acceptance! > > > > > > > Dear Adithiya, Just be there for her, you as you are, and give > advice > > when advice is aked for. I don't know how close you are to your > > friend, but IMHO there's no better opportunity to give service to a > > dear one who is facing one of human's greatest challenges. > > > > > My mother was diagnosed with stomach cancer years ago. She was the > last 'one' standing in a small group of patients who had their > stomachs removed. She also was the eldest. In the year between her > diagnosis and her death. She lived. She lived and learned. > > She also taught me how to die with dignity and how there is nothing > but love, really. > > I would say Arvind, if you stay open to all of it, your friend will > give you much more than you can ever return. One thing I know for > sure. > > Love, > Anna > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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