Fwd: Being 'On Time' and ... Stress

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Loving-what-is , " adithya_comming "

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Loving-what-is , " adithya_comming "

<adithya_comming@> wrote:

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> > >>and most don't know that some of us just do not

> > have the capacity to be consistently on time (without ungodly

> amounts of stress or drugs like Ritalin).

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Are you sure that those who get

ready on time and reach their

destination on time, do it without any

stress ?;)

 

It is my experience that even when I

get ready on time and reach on time;

there is a stress. But, this is a

'managed stress' and it is stress which

is distributed over a period of time

opposite to other kind of stress which

occurs when I am late or very close to

being late.

 

In this second mode, my

stress has 'peaks'! In this mode, for a

period of time, I am stress free and am

coolly taking long showers, day-

dreaming, sleeping, watching TV,

sipping my cup of tea, getting dressed

ever slowly (and admiring my body )

and then, suddenly I realize I am

getting late and... my stress PEAKS!

 

 

There is also another way. In this

way, I " choose " to pick 'discipline',

'focus', 'clear thinking',

'responsibility', 'duty' over " day

dreaming " , " idle thinking " , " long

showers " and being " being stress-

free " ! I say, I am fully willing to

embrace stress, tension; pain in order

to do what I believe is the RIGHT thing

to do!

 

I say I am willing to gladly

sacrifice my personal pleasure, my

'freedom from stress' in order to do

what I 'consciously' KNOW is the right

thing to do! In this way, I have no

inner struggle because I know I have

willingly " chosen " to do exactly what I

am doing and to experience exactly what

I am experiencing!

 

 

Inner struggle comes

only when I think I am a 'victim'! It

comes and stays only as long as I

believe that there is something I am

being " forced " to do against my will.

Once I become a 'conscious' willing

participant in doing what I am doing,

in experiencing [and understanding]

what I am experiencing; the 'victim-

hood' goes away and so does the inner

struggle!

 

 

Regards,

ac

 

 

 

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PS1: Someone whom I greatly admire also had

an issue with being late for a long

time but, then, he changed and built a

reputation for being punctual and on

time.

 

He said, he had discovered that

he was frequently getting late because

he was always trying to be " on time " !

He gave up that habit and started

trying to be 'early' by at least

fifteen minutes wherever he was

supposed to be! And, that transformed

him from being late to being on time

and it also meant that he had less

stress while driving!

 

 

 

In my experience, stress comes only

when:

 

- I believe I need to do something.

 

And, I also believe that:

 

- I am not fully prepared to do it!

 

i.e. stress comes only when I suspect

I am not prepared to do what I believe

I " need " to do!

 

If I drop that " need... stress goes away!

Or, if I 'consciously'

prepare in advance and KNOW that I am

prepared; then, too stress goes away!

 

 

Stress is simply a 'reminder' a 'time

clock' that's all it 'ticks' only as

long as I believe I need it! When I

know I am TRULY prepared to do what I

think I " need " to do, it stops ticking!

 

 

 

PS2: It is my experience that pretty much

none of us are born with these skills

[like how to cope with traffic ]!

But, some of us are lucky to have

parents who are good 'examples' and

aprents who are skilled and patient to 'drill'

some good 'habits' in us!

 

But, in all

other aspects, we are still let to

'learn' and 'master' it on our own…

and, still fail from time to time!

Which is fine, because, if nothing

else, our 'failure' at least can teach

us to be 'tolerant', 'understanding'

and 'compassionate' towards other's

failures!

 

It is also my experience that our

tendency to 'avoid stress' is among the

BIGGEST block on the way of learning!

Way of 'learning' often passes through

'stress' and 'resistance' and only by

saying YES to it, only by being open to

willingly embrace and endure it we

become TRULU ready to 'learn'! As long

as we remain afraid of 'stress'... we

remain 'stuck'!