Guest guest Posted April 21, 2007 Report Share Posted April 21, 2007 GuruRatings , " adithya_comming " <adithya_comming wrote: > > > > I know three modes of listening. > > Mode one, which also is most common, > most frequent mode, is the mode of > resistance and competition. In this > mode, I hear everything with > skepticism, resistance, suspicion, > doubt and mistrust. > > > This happens when > my trust in somebody has been > broken. It happens when listening to > public speech of politicians like > George Bush, Dick Cheney, Paul Wolfowitz, > Gonzales; media men like Bill O Reilly, > Michael Savage, some corporate executives > and also many gurus in > the areas varying from psychology and > management to spirituality and enlightenment. > I realize that: - trusting is far easier than doubting. All trusting requires is an initial agreement and belief; rest of it is free and effortless. Whereas, doubting, skepticism, suspicion requires constant mental work and energy expenditure. It makes psyche weak and it feels like pain. - Being a friend is far easier than remaining an enemy. Again just an agreement is required to be a friend whereas being an enemy, a competitor requires constant mental work and energy expenditure. It makes psyche weak and it feels like pain. Do you know of a better way of listening??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2007 Report Share Posted April 21, 2007 Second mode of listening is based on trust and friendship. In this mode, we trust that the inner intentions of the speakers are noble. We trust that the attitude of the speaker is genuinely kind, compassionate, respectful and loving. IOW. . . we think that the speaker a real friend and is genuine. Once in this mode, we are very receptive, open, welcoming, kind, accommodating, compassionate, grateful and forgiving. We forgive our friends for many things, for many errors and we generally get their meaning in spite of the errors that might exist in communication. This is more a state of connecting than of communicating. Here, we communicate our intention far more than our words. We share our love far more than any external communication. This is very smooth, nurturing, enriching and easy way of listening, connecting, learning and sharing. Words lose their significance here and the shared noble intentions and love becomes far more important. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2007 Report Share Posted April 21, 2007 Third mode of listening can be called surrendered listening. In this mode, no judgments are mode and no mental commentary is done while listening. Here we listen with all our heart, our body and with a totally open mind. Mind so open that we don't even realize that it is there. Both distrust and trust are suspended here and listening becomes the only thing happening. This state feels like losing identity and initially we might feel extremely vulnerable in this mode. Very soon, we realize that there is no distinct listener, neither there is a distinct speaker. The difference between you and me disappears and It all becomes One. In this mode, no attempt is made to 'understand' or 'process' what we hear. If any processing takes place, it takes place in the background and in our unconscious. We just stay there, full present, full alive, fully Available. . . in Love, as Love. This is a moment of Grace! But, is it really the right way of listening??? Is it really the right way of being? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2007 Report Share Posted April 22, 2007 Nisargadatta , " adithya_comming " <adithya_comming wrote: > > > I know three modes of listening. > > Mode one, which also is most common, > most frequent mode, is the mode of > resistance and competition. In this > mode, I hear everything with > skepticism, resistance, suspicion, > doubt and mistrust. > > This happens when trust > that I have with somebody has been > broken. In listening to public speech > of politicians like George Bush, Dick > Cheney, Paul Wolfowitz, Gonzales; media > men like Bill O Reilly, Michael Savage > and also many gurus in the areas > varying from psychology and management > to spirituality and enlightenment. > > > I realize that my trust for most of > them is broken because of many > instances of lies and deceit and in some > cases simply because two sides talk of > two totally different stories and only > one of them can be true. > > > In personal life too this happens > though same process when trust that I > had in somebody has been violated > enough number of times. My trust is > other human has been based on him/her > being honest, truthful, fair as well as > genuinely kind and compassionate - all > of which are based on the person's > ability to rise above petty selfishness > and in being able to consistently > choose principles over limited self > interest. When that basis gets violated > enough number of times, I lose trust in > that person. > > > > However, I have realized that > listening in this mode is one kind of > pain and it makes me internally weak. > > > In this mode, as if I internally build > psychic walls myself and try to protect > myself from what might come. Further, > many times, when I listen in this mode, > as if I am internally trying to build > own verbal arsenal (arguments) by > which, I can 'defeat' what I hear. It > is as state of low mental war and > unease and sometimes of inner ridicule, > mockery and derision. All of which are > just some form of. . . Pain because all > of these are state Away from Love, > Compassion and Acceptance! > > > > Do you know of a better way of > listening??? > *** Good description, good question, Arvind. Perhaps there's no 'way' to listen. Maybe intent precludes actually listening, or hearing? Another point might be that 'Love, Compassion and Acceptance,' as you put it, are not remedies. They can't be established by any intent. You could say they're already present, in open listening. Anyway, we can only be intimately aware of our own intent and meaning. It's just right there, when it is. Nothing to do but understand its implications, how it's constructed, what's being attempted, etc. Often it manifests as assumptions and constructions about the meaning and intent (open or surreptitious) of others. But since there aren't any others (or 'self')-- except by convention, it all comes back home! Ken Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2007 Report Share Posted April 22, 2007 Nisargadatta , " adithya_comming " <adithya_comming wrote: > > Third mode of listening can be called > surrendered listening. In this mode, no > judgments are mode and no mental > commentary is done while listening. > Here we listen with all our heart, our > body and with a totally open mind. Mind > so open that we don't even realize that > it is there. > > Both distrust and trust are suspended > here and listening becomes the only > thing happening. This state feels like > losing identity and initially we might > feel extremely vulnerable in this mode. > > Very soon, we realize that there is no > distinct listener, neither there is a > distinct speaker. The difference between > you and me disappears and It all becomes One. > > > > In this mode, > no attempt is made to 'understand' or > 'process' what we hear. If any > processing takes place, it takes place > in the background and in our > unconscious. We just stay there, full > present, full alive, fully Available. . . in Love, as Love. > This is a moment of Grace! > > > But, is it really the right way of > listening??? > > > Is it really the right way of being? > *** Ha, good story. Can't wait for the next chapter. Is everyone noticing the ever-expanding awareness? ;-) Thanks, Arvind Ken Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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