endorphins - change of behavior.

[Guest guest]

To understand if people [and I] seem to

enact same kind of behavior again and

again in spite of it seeming

irrational, illogical or counter-

productive on the surface. The real

reason and the real " pay off " is taking

place 'within' - it is producing the

hormones that the body has become

" addicted " to.

 

 

To understand that just like a drug addiction ;

getting rid of it is quite hard. It

it requires strong will and significant

sustained effort and that extremely few

people can do it alone. That early childhood,

early schooling and parenting defines

[set pattern for] our later behavior even more

than what I had thought before.

 

 

To understand that to not try to change

a behavior even when it seems

irrational on surface or try to change

and to fail again and again to do so -

are both natural and expected - it is

just like trying to fight a deeply

ingrained addiction. And, that the

sacrifice/surrender of instant

gratification and pleasure and full

willingness to accept pain and hardship

might be only way out of it - the in

built hormone can and will " punish " any

effort to change a long-standing

pattern.

 

However, once a old behavior

pattern is totally replaced with a new

behavior pattern - the same in built

mechanism will now start rewarding and

protecting this new pattern and will

insure that it lasts for long time. So

what seems like a foe when trying to

change an existing pattern; acts like a

great friend to protect the new one we

have learned.