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Stalkers.........

 

A victim should say " no " once and only once. And then, never say

anything to him again. If a stalker can't have his victim's love,

he'll take her hatred. The worst thing in the world for him is to be

ignored. Think of little children: If they're not getting the

attention they want, they'll act out and misbehave because even

negative attention is better than none at all. Former intimate partner

stalkers have their entire sense of self-worth caught up in the fact

that, " she loves me. " Therefore, any evidence to the contrary is seen

as merely an inconvenience to overcome. Since giving up his victim

means giving up his self-worth, he is very unlikely to do so. Don't

help him hang on.

 

Delusional stalkers frequently have had little, if any, contact with

their victims. They may have major mental illnesses like

schizophrenia, manic-depression or erotomania. What they all have in

common is some false belief that keeps them tied to their victims. In

erotomania, the stalker's delusional belief is that the victim loves

him. This type of stalker actually believes that he is having a

relationship with his victim, even though they might never have met.

The woman stalking David Letterman, the stalker who killed actress

Rebecca Schaeffer and the man who stalked Madonna are all examples of

erotomanic stalkers.

 

Another type of delusional stalker might believe that he is destined

to be with someone, and that if he only pursues her hard enough and

long enough, she will come to love him as he loves her. These stalkers

know they are not having a relationship with their victims, but firmly

believe that they will some day. John Hinckley Jr.'s obsession with

Jodi Foster is an example of this type of stalker.

 

The typical profile of delusional stalkers is that of an unmarried and

socially immature loner, who is unable to establish or sustain close

relationships with others. They rarely date and have had few, if any,

sexual relationships. Since at the same time they are both threatened

by and yearn for closeness, they often pick victims who are

unattainable in some way; perhaps she is married, or has been the

stalker's therapist, clergyman, doctor or teacher. Those in the

helping professions are particularly vulnerable to delusional

stalkers, because for someone who already has difficulty separating

reality from fantasy, the kindness shown by the soon-to-be victim, the

only person who has ever treated the stalker with warmth, is blown out

of proportion into a delusion of intimacy. What these stalkers cannot

attain in reality is achieved through fantasy and it is for this

reason that the delusion seems to be so difficult to relinquish: Even

an imaginary love is better than no love at all.

 

These delusional stalkers have almost always come from a background

which was either emotionally barren or severely abusive. They grow up

having a very poor sense of their own identities. This, coupled with a

predisposition toward psychosis, leads them to strive for satisfaction

through another, yearning to merge with someone who is almost always

perceived to be of a higher status (doctors, lawyers, teachers) or

very socially desirable (celebrities). It is as if this stalker says,

" Gee. If she loves me, I must not be so bad. " As Dean Martin

compellingly crooned what could be considered the delusional stalker's

anthem: " You're Nobody `Til Somebody Loves You. " It is not unusual for

this type of stalker to " hear " the soothing voice of his victim, or

believe that she is sending him cryptic messages through others.

 

Some studies show that delusional stalkers are the most tenacious of

all. Erotomanic delusions themselves last an average of ten years. How

is this possible when the stalker has had little if any contact with

his victim? As if drawn from the National Organ Donor Registry, the

victim becomes the perfect match, with the potential to save the

stalker's life. When the victim says " no, " he rationalizes it away,

believing that, " her husband made her get that restraining order, she

really loves me, " or " her agent told her it would be bad for her

career if we dated, but she really loves me. " Therefore, as with every

type of stalker, it is imperative that victims have no contact.

 

The final category of stalker is not lovelorn. He is the vengeful

stalker. These stalkers become angry with their victims over some

slight, real or imagined. Politicians, for example, get many of these

types of stalkers who become angry over some piece of legislation or

program the official sponsors. But, disgruntled ex-employees can also

stalk, whether targeting their former bosses, co-workers or the entire

company. Some of these angry stalkers are psychopaths, i.e. people

without conscience or remorse. Some are delusional, (most often

paranoid), and believe that they, in fact, are the victims. They all

stalk to " get even. "

 

Former intimate partner stalkers and delusional stalkers can become

vengeful for a variety of reasons. For example, when their victims get

restraining orders, or marry. Why a stalker's anger is a very bad sign

is described under what to do.

 

In general, for any type of stalker, the less of a relationship that

actually existed prior to the stalking, the more mentally disturbed

the stalker.

 

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<Roberibus111 wrote:

>

> Stalkers.........

>

> A victim should say " no " once and only once. And then, never say

> anything to him again. If a stalker can't have his victim's love,

> he'll take her hatred. The worst thing in the world for him is to be

> ignored. Think of little children: If they're not getting the

> attention they want, they'll act out and misbehave because even

> negative attention is better than none at all. Former intimate partner

> stalkers have their entire sense of self-worth caught up in the fact

> that, " she loves me. " Therefore, any evidence to the contrary is seen

> as merely an inconvenience to overcome. Since giving up his victim

> means giving up his self-worth, he is very unlikely to do so. Don't

> help him hang on.

>

> Delusional stalkers frequently have had little, if any, contact with

> their victims. They may have major mental illnesses like

> schizophrenia, manic-depression or erotomania. What they all have in

> common is some false belief that keeps them tied to their victims. In

> erotomania, the stalker's delusional belief is that the victim loves

> him. This type of stalker actually believes that he is having a

> relationship with his victim, even though they might never have met.

> The woman stalking David Letterman, the stalker who killed actress

> Rebecca Schaeffer and the man who stalked Madonna are all examples of

> erotomanic stalkers.

>

> Another type of delusional stalker might believe that he is destined

> to be with someone, and that if he only pursues her hard enough and

> long enough, she will come to love him as he loves her. These stalkers

> know they are not having a relationship with their victims, but firmly

> believe that they will some day. John Hinckley Jr.'s obsession with

> Jodi Foster is an example of this type of stalker.

>

> The typical profile of delusional stalkers is that of an unmarried and

> socially immature loner, who is unable to establish or sustain close

> relationships with others. They rarely date and have had few, if any,

> sexual relationships. Since at the same time they are both threatened

> by and yearn for closeness, they often pick victims who are

> unattainable in some way; perhaps she is married, or has been the

> stalker's therapist, clergyman, doctor or teacher. Those in the

> helping professions are particularly vulnerable to delusional

> stalkers, because for someone who already has difficulty separating

> reality from fantasy, the kindness shown by the soon-to-be victim, the

> only person who has ever treated the stalker with warmth, is blown out

> of proportion into a delusion of intimacy. What these stalkers cannot

> attain in reality is achieved through fantasy and it is for this

> reason that the delusion seems to be so difficult to relinquish: Even

> an imaginary love is better than no love at all.

>

> These delusional stalkers have almost always come from a background

> which was either emotionally barren or severely abusive. They grow up

> having a very poor sense of their own identities. This, coupled with a

> predisposition toward psychosis, leads them to strive for satisfaction

> through another, yearning to merge with someone who is almost always

> perceived to be of a higher status (doctors, lawyers, teachers) or

> very socially desirable (celebrities). It is as if this stalker says,

> " Gee. If she loves me, I must not be so bad. " As Dean Martin

> compellingly crooned what could be considered the delusional stalker's

> anthem: " You're Nobody `Til Somebody Loves You. " It is not unusual for

> this type of stalker to " hear " the soothing voice of his victim, or

> believe that she is sending him cryptic messages through others.

>

> Some studies show that delusional stalkers are the most tenacious of

> all. Erotomanic delusions themselves last an average of ten years. How

> is this possible when the stalker has had little if any contact with

> his victim? As if drawn from the National Organ Donor Registry, the

> victim becomes the perfect match, with the potential to save the

> stalker's life. When the victim says " no, " he rationalizes it away,

> believing that, " her husband made her get that restraining order, she

> really loves me, " or " her agent told her it would be bad for her

> career if we dated, but she really loves me. " Therefore, as with every

> type of stalker, it is imperative that victims have no contact.

>

> The final category of stalker is not lovelorn. He is the vengeful

> stalker. These stalkers become angry with their victims over some

> slight, real or imagined. Politicians, for example, get many of these

> types of stalkers who become angry over some piece of legislation or

> program the official sponsors. But, disgruntled ex-employees can also

> stalk, whether targeting their former bosses, co-workers or the entire

> company. Some of these angry stalkers are psychopaths, i.e. people

> without conscience or remorse. Some are delusional, (most often

> paranoid), and believe that they, in fact, are the victims. They all

> stalk to " get even. "

>

> Former intimate partner stalkers and delusional stalkers can become

> vengeful for a variety of reasons. For example, when their victims get

> restraining orders, or marry. Why a stalker's anger is a very bad sign

> is described under what to do.

>

> In general, for any type of stalker, the less of a relationship that

> actually existed prior to the stalking, the more mentally disturbed

> the stalker.

>

> from the Internet.

>

> this is beautiful!

>

> ROFLMAO!

>

> .b b.b.

>

 

 

 

 

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