Change.

[Guest guest]

Many times, when, I asked someone to

change, I remember that person feeling

very offended and fighting back. Some

other times, when the person being

spoken to, had trust and faith in me,

he/she would agree but, understand that -

I am really asking him/her to change

'what (s)he does' only and not 'who (s)he

really is'!

 

 

Anytime, someone asked me to change -

I got really puzzled and when, I

finally understood and agreed, it was

only when I understood that I was being

'requested' to consider changing the

way I think, act and behave only, and, not

'who I really am'.

 

 

Now I understand that the confusion

occurred because, in reality, it is

impossible to change 'who we are' and

everyone of us knows it - Absolutely.

 

Who I am, who you are - never changes -

it can not change - and everyone of us

knows it. That's why, we get confused

when someone talks about changing.

Yet, we frequently hear talks about

" changing " without any mention that we

are only considering changing the way

of thinking, acting and behaving and not

really 'who we are'.

 

Who we really are, is beyond any

change and beyond any need [or,

possibility] of change [and, yes,

everyone of us, intrinsically knows it

because all of us essentially same.]

But, 'how we think', 'what we do with

what we think' and 'how we act' - yes,

that, as is frequently demonstrated -

can be quite easily changed - and, in fact,

is the very basis of human learning and

adapting - and, how a kid bcomes an adult.

And, that is the only change anyone

has ever talked about.