Guest guest Posted March 21, 2008 Report Share Posted March 21, 2008 Pranams, A question was posed to me on my blog, about how one deals with emotional hurt, which prompted me to pen some thoughts about " Emotional Pain " . http://poornamadam.blogspot.com/2008/03/hurt-is-form-of-emotional-pain.html Hari OM Shri Gurubhyoh namah Shyam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2008 Report Share Posted March 21, 2008 advaitin , " shyam_md " <shyam_md wrote: > > Pranams, > A question was posed to me on my blog, about how one deals with > emotional hurt, which prompted me to pen some thoughts about > " Emotional Pain " . > > http://poornamadam.blogspot.com/2008/03/hurt-is-form-of-emotional-pain.html > > > Hari OM > Shri Gurubhyoh namah > Shyam Nama Shivaya Shyamji, Recently I had the great good fortune to be with Swami Dayanandaji in Australia. We were able to spend a lot of time with Swamiji, often when there were very few people present. A young man arrived one day somewhat agitated. He told Swamiji that he was experiencing overwhelming fear. Fear of what, he did not articulate. Swamiji told him, " You welcome fear. You say to yourself, 'I welcome fear. I am not afraid of fear.' " " What about other emotions, Swamiji? " someone asked. " You do the same, " Swamiji replied. From my perspective, I'm not sure that I find this an easy thing to do, to welcome an emotion which might be considered 'negative,' and yet I do accept that all emotion, is part of Ishwara's order. In our class we often deal with the arising of negative emotion in this way. We make our mind, (our buddhi), our friend, philosopher and guide. We know that despite whatever emotion is arising in the mind, (and the most difficult may be those which have long been suppressed) that there is a 'good mother' part of our mind. The one that is there for a friend, a child, a pet, that one can be there for the part of the mind that is suffering as well. So, Swamiji says 'Welcome the emotion,' and my teacher says, 'Hold it with love,' So this is what we try and do. And what is the source of that love? It is my very own Self. I don't think these topics are outside the scope of Vedanta. In Shankara's time, because the society of the students which he taught was more cohesive and family backgrounds more supportive, I believe that it was held that 'emotional pain' in the form of 'kasayahs' could be observed to arise during meditation and then pass away. These days we may need a bit more help than that. So these words and advice of my teachers I have found helpful. Pranams, Durga Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2008 Report Share Posted March 21, 2008 Hello, " You welcome fear. You say to yourself, 'I welcome fear. I am not afraid of fear.' " This is daily practice. I sit with whatever emotion/mental state/affect that arises. I see them all as visitors. " Here is anxiety. I see you. I will look at you. I will not run away. Anxiety, welcome to my table. Here is worry. Hello, worry. Sit at my table. " I don't try to make them leave. I see them as visitors, maybe as dirty, hungry children from within who need my attention and need MY acceptance of them...surely, in this wonderful universe everything we experience, " internally " and " externally " must have some value and meaning since it exists. " Here is resentment. Here is anger. Here is jealousy. " Seeing these without repressing, denying, or hating them, I've found that without my wanting them to leave, they stay with me for awhile and then depart on their own. I feel maybe a compassion on both sides. Compassion from my side because I don't deny or disown them. Compassion from their side because they don't overstay their welcome once I've accepted them....best wishes. ______________________________\ ____ Never miss a thing. Make your home page. http://www./r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2008 Report Share Posted March 21, 2008 advaitin , " shyam_md " <shyam_md wrote: > > Pranams, > A question was posed to me on my blog, about how one deals with > emotional hurt, which prompted me to pen some thoughts about > " Emotional Pain " . > > http://poornamadam.blogspot.com/2008/03/hurt-is-form-of-emotional- pain.html Hari OM! Beautiful and reflective writeup on " emotional pain " . Even at physical level, why do we cut a finger while cutting onions? Cutting finger was neither the intention nor the goal. How come finger got cut when it was only about onion-cutting? Simply, lack of alertness. So too, it seems for emotional pain. Nothing wrong with the cutting knife, but the wielding hand and the guiding mind alone need alertness and vigilance. Nothing wrong with the world outside, but our interaction with it causes pain or joy. All so called accidents are merely those whose causes are ignored or not seen clearly by lack of alertness. How to stay alert then? Watching both inside and outside. Merely watching outside and ignoring our actions,words and thoughts is like cutting onion ignoring where holding fingers are resting. Merely watching within, our own actions, words, thoughts but ignoring outside is like watching only hand fingers, but ignoring where onion is! What cutting can that do! Skillful in watching inside and outside - samatvam yoga ucyate. No wonder spirituality is compared to walking on razor's edge! - Hari OM -Srinivas Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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