please help me ..My mind is restless...I am dying..

September 25, 2008

Sakthi,

good u said it is ur 2nd post as many don't and u have not changed ur subject

line, last time also i said it is sick to read though we understand and asking

for help is a beter way.

always realise the strenght inborn in everyone is there all it needs is to

awaken and tap it, that is my intention

and when u already have many inputs u must know it by now what is in store. we

can't change the course or force the course of what is waid, waitfor its course

to happen u will know it is happened or not then post afres

right now patience is important save ur job as long as it lasts in the ecconomy

slow down u said

about filing a case if u want to there r NEW laws . the new DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

BILL of nov 2006 can cover ur case well that is abuse, threats, emotinal

blackmail etc can be covered under it it can be anyone FIL, MIL, SIL, or a maid

servant abused at hme or a mistress, 2nd or 3rd wife etc....

it is said such laws exist as they r more misused than used as sometimes

helpless old in-laws are sent to jail on mere lodging of a case under this law

or the older one 498a.

so keep worjing and this is itself a relief, with no job and no marriage it is

double worry and more depressing work is a medicine in itself

and if u do file a case there is NO WAY ur husband will come back to u as no one

likes to be dragged into court esp their parents and after that is only a

one-way ticket, it is no USA where pppl even after seperating meet amicably,

children move from both parents in turns, we Indians treat them as criminlas,

demons once seperated loose all human values no harm if the children try to

mingle with the other parent someday they can reconcile

in urcase I know this is not there now

follow ur readings last time all u said who read urs. I remember I had also

best wishes

prashant

sakthi <sakthim

Thursday, September 25, 2008 10:35:49 AM

please help me ..My mind is restless...I am dying..

Hi,

I am Sakthi.This is my second post in the forum regarding my

troublesome marriage life.I am in US right now.me and my husband have

been seperated for nearly 1 year and we have been married for 1

year.I have got lots of guidance from our learned astrologers

regarding this issue .My sincere thanks to all of them.My father-in-

law is trying hard to get divorce.since I am not ready to give

divorce,they started giving me mental tortures by speaking horrible

words and false blamings in the recent days through phone.They play

some mind game and push me in depression and ultimately wanted me to

give divorce.Being lonely i am suffering a lot.So i wanted to travel

back to India to my parents and wanted to fight against my inlaws and

my husband to save my marriage life by being in India.But everywhere

i am facing troubles. I am not getting immediate release in my

project.They told me to wait for some days to find a suitable

replacement. But i cannot wait.i feel very restless.I am not able to

concentrate in my career too. i feel like sitting on fire.Why my mind

is highly fluctuating and always depressed nowadays though i pray

like how our astrologers guided?why my problems getting worsen after

i do believe in god and started praying him?this makes me to loose

confidence again.when will I go back to India and when will i

overcome all these troubles completely?My father met a spiritual guy

somedays before.He said 99% of our reunion is not possible and my

husband is a sadist and he likes to make others cry..he will born as

dog in the next jenma something he told.after hearing to these,my

parents are quite upset.but i am the only one who still believe some

miracle will happen and my husband will understand my love and will

come back to me.For me he is not very bad and only his family members

are very cruel.but these mental depressions blows out me completely.

My details:

DOB:March 9,1982

Time:5.50 PM

lagnam:Simmam

moon sign:Simmam

natchatharam: pooram

place of Birth Dharmapuri/ Tamilnadu/ India

please someone help me in predicting when will i go back to India and

will i win if i file case in family court against my inlaws abt the

tortures they gave (and giving)and get back my husband?i want to live

with my husband..I desperately want to go back to India to do the

remedies suggested by our esteemed astrologers too.My mind is

restless in US.i feel i will get peace of mind only in India.But Due

to economical crisis in US,lots of people are loosing their job

including my friends currently.but my position is stable.but i want

to break it up and go back.I am in confusion like am i doing

something wrong.I am not able to stand strong in my decisions too.i

hate my feeble mind..i feel like i am not worth to live with this

weak mind.

September 25, 2008

Hare Rama Krishna

Shakti,

hi.

dont let any holy man or spiritual guy (i'm quoting you) clutter your

brain. it doesnt serve any purpose. from his words, it looks as if the

spiritual person your dad spoke to has some unresolved anger and

personal issues towards dogs. dogs are adorable, intelligent and

affectionate creatures. being born a dog isnt that miserable an option

either :-)

let's get serious now.

you'll have to honestly ask yourself one thing- are you feeling so

troubled in the marriage because your in-laws & /or husband are

ill-treating you or is it because you're feeling desperately homesick?

and what kind of ill-treatment are you refering to- physical or

emotional?

during our practice, we have seen some really sadistic men and the

things they do to their wives. had your husband been really bad, you

wouldnt even be in a position to type this mail or go to work.

the unfortunate truth is that single-kid families have made parents so

dsperately possessive about their daughters that sometimes they end up

destroying the latter's marriage because they want to keep their

children wiht them for as long as possible. another sorry fact is that

equal number of women end up misusing the family law previleges and

sec 498A that indian legal system gives them.

do your inlaws live with you in the US? or are they harassing you over

the phone? i'm a rank amateur in studying charts, but your chart

indicates that you had lot of expectations from the marriage but are

disappointed by it. go easy on your husband. obviously, he isnt

enjoying the fact that he is stuck in a miserable marriage. from your

mail it looks as if you have a personal vendetta against your

father-in-law.

divorcing someone is very easy. you'll get your " freedom " , your lawyer

will make 30% of the divorce settlement that your husband gives. your

parents are going to be happy that they have thier daughter back. ,

but what exactly is that going to accomplish to you?

the concepts of next janma and karma are a bit too lopsided and it is

one way of justifying our sufferings and pacifying ourselves. if

nothing goes right, blame it on past karma. you really dont ahev to

come all teh way back to india to perform the remedies. God is

everywhere and He isnt particular about the geographical location.

you could try praying to Lord Muruga or Nrisimha to give you a clear

mind. They'll come to your rescue and start the healing process. (i'm

saying this from your chart). Nrisimha was someone who sprang out of a

stone pillar to rescue His devotee. coming to the US to get you out of

your confused state of mind wouldnt be a problem for Him. ditto with

Lord Muruga. The Guy went around teh entire universe on His Mayil

vaahanam. US is no big deal for Him.

but you'll have to decide what the actual problem is-

is your marriage really that bad?

or are you desperately missing your parents?

or are you somehow trying to separate your husband from his parents?

remember- coming back to india isnt going to change a thing if the

problem is in your head. separating your husband from his parents isnt

going to earn his goodwill either. marriage is a union of two people

and two families.

you might think this is a bitter mail, but if this helps put things in

right perspective and save your mariage from ending in a divorce, then

i'd consider this as a risk worth taking. stop looking at the past and

learn to look into the future. marriage is a relationship you ahve to

work on. you are not doing a big favor on your spouse by making a few

sacrifices and adjustments here adn there. Let go of the past. i hope

you understand what i'm refering to.

but agreed that at teh end, you are the one who has to decide if the

adjustments and compromises are worth it. we dont know the magnitude

of your problems. so, only you can decide.

with warm regards and a genuine concern to avoid a broken marriage...

Sindhu Madhusudan

On 9/25/08, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar wrote:

> Sakthi,

>

> good u said it is ur 2nd post as many don't and u have not changed ur

> subject line, last time also i said it is sick to read though we understand

> and asking for help is a beter way.

>

> always realise the strenght inborn in everyone is there all it needs is to

> awaken and tap it, that is my intention

>

> and when u already have many inputs u must know it by now what is in store.

> we can't change the course or force the course of what is waid, waitfor its

> course to happen u will know it is happened or not then post afres

>

> right now patience is important save ur job as long as it lasts in the

> ecconomy slow down u said

>

> about filing a case if u want to there r NEW laws . the new DOMESTIC

> VIOLENCE BILL of nov 2006 can cover ur case well that is abuse, threats,

> emotinal blackmail etc can be covered under it it can be anyone FIL, MIL,

> SIL, or a maid servant abused at hme or a mistress, 2nd or 3rd wife etc....

>

> it is said such laws exist as they r more misused than used as sometimes

> helpless old in-laws are sent to jail on mere lodging of a case under this

> law or the older one 498a.

>

> so keep worjing and this is itself a relief, with no job and no marriage it

> is double worry and more depressing work is a medicine in itself

>

> and if u do file a case there is NO WAY ur husband will come back to u as no

> one likes to be dragged into court esp their parents and after that is only

> a one-way ticket, it is no USA where pppl even after seperating meet

> amicably, children move from both parents in turns, we Indians treat them as

> criminlas, demons once seperated loose all human values no harm if the

> children try to mingle with the other parent someday they can reconcile

>

> in urcase I know this is not there now

>

> follow ur readings last time all u said who read urs. I remember I had also

>

> best wishes

>

> prashant

>

> sakthi <sakthim

>

> Thursday, September 25, 2008 10:35:49 AM

> please help me ..My mind is restless...I am dying..

>

> Hi,

>

> I am Sakthi.This is my second post in the forum regarding my

> troublesome marriage life.I am in US right now.me and my husband have

> been seperated for nearly 1 year and we have been married for 1

> year.I have got lots of guidance from our learned astrologers

> regarding this issue .My sincere thanks to all of them.My father-in-

> law is trying hard to get divorce.since I am not ready to give

> divorce,they started giving me mental tortures by speaking horrible

> words and false blamings in the recent days through phone.They play

> some mind game and push me in depression and ultimately wanted me to

> give divorce.Being lonely i am suffering a lot.So i wanted to travel

> back to India to my parents and wanted to fight against my inlaws and

> my husband to save my marriage life by being in India.But everywhere

> i am facing troubles. I am not getting immediate release in my

> project.They told me to wait for some days to find a suitable

> replacement. But i cannot wait.i feel very restless.I am not able to

> concentrate in my career too. i feel like sitting on fire.Why my mind

> is highly fluctuating and always depressed nowadays though i pray

> like how our astrologers guided?why my problems getting worsen after

> i do believe in god and started praying him?this makes me to loose

> confidence again.when will I go back to India and when will i

> overcome all these troubles completely?My father met a spiritual guy

> somedays before.He said 99% of our reunion is not possible and my

> husband is a sadist and he likes to make others cry..he will born as

> dog in the next jenma something he told.after hearing to these,my

> parents are quite upset.but i am the only one who still believe some

> miracle will happen and my husband will understand my love and will

> come back to me.For me he is not very bad and only his family members

> are very cruel.but these mental depressions blows out me completely.

>

> My details:

>

> DOB:March 9,1982

> Time:5.50 PM

> lagnam:Simmam

> moon sign:Simmam

> natchatharam: pooram

> place of Birth Dharmapuri/ Tamilnadu/ India

>

> please someone help me in predicting when will i go back to India and

> will i win if i file case in family court against my inlaws abt the

> tortures they gave (and giving)and get back my husband?i want to live

> with my husband..I desperately want to go back to India to do the

> remedies suggested by our esteemed astrologers too.My mind is

> restless in US.i feel i will get peace of mind only in India.But Due

> to economical crisis in US,lots of people are loosing their job

> including my friends currently.but my position is stable.but i want

> to break it up and go back.I am in confusion like am i doing

> something wrong.I am not able to stand strong in my decisions too.i

> hate my feeble mind..i feel like i am not worth to live with this

> weak mind.

September 25, 2008

Hi,

Planetary position in your horoscope shows that you haveÂ been replied by

astrology you will be divorced in one year , because of Sun and Mercury at this

position,continue your job there,Â prepare yourself ,accordingly, to face, and

think it was a dark phase of life and do'nt waste your time at courts/laws as

they all are helpless and so make us also.Accept the destiny and meditate or

take some help of vastu wear gold in ring finger and fast of Friday will help a

lot.

--- On Thu, 25/9/08, sakthi <sakthim wrote:

sakthi <sakthim

please help me ..My mind is restless...I am dying..

Thursday, 25 September, 2008, 10:35 AM