want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries 12/4

[Guest guest]

Saritha,

 

a good post, and in the right direction INVARIABLY WE FIND GILRS OF TODAY

ATTRACTED TO SUCH CHARACTERLESS PPL and defy their family, parents who have

shown far greater love, concern than this mirage and still the girls get sucked

into it and many dont come out like u did most come out burnt in such fire with

a LOT OS SCARS both physical, mental, emotional and many blame everyone else

than themselves. esp God some do suffer from guily and remain recluse.

 

ur approach is the one we also suggest I myself have brought a few ppl to shape

counselling or being with them in such times it is hard, thankless job most ppl

stop at advices I have done beyond that and stood by them till them come out in

a shape close to what u suggest and these battered women instead of being

greatful have become more ruthless, uncomprosing and what else is there to loose

kind and literally take revenge on society around them another bad side-extreme

 

as care givers to the family thus society they deserve our support,

understanding not all come to terms in a peaceful way though we try our best to

do it that way

 

seperation is the last option when the future of the children if any is involved

at physical risk else it is a crime to deny the children the option of knowing

their parent/s who spperated were actually was guilty this when they see it from

their own eyes and ask their parent/s to move away helps the child come up

emotionalluy, academically, professionally strong else all broken families

children breed only break ups in every from of life around them

 

be it a work, friends, relatives or their own children

 

so people must take care of their responsiblites, risks and take a plunge

forward else live by the time tested guidlines by pursuing arranged marriages

the families beind them at least add to pressure to repair a troubled one,

marriages are about adjustments only. there will be mistakes from both sides it

is how they reconginse, identify, isolate it and solve it matters.

 

if there is a family structure behind [arranged marriages] some one other guide

u as a element of openness to listen is there

 

in a marriage that has come up on defying everyone it is on a weaker footing so

a draw back

 

finally in any case ppl must recognise problems and seek solutions amicably,

than go to extremses, like drugs, alchol, sucides...

 

 

prashant

 

 

 

 

 

________________________________

Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67

 

Sunday, April 12, 2009 12:43:52 AM

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

 

 

 

 

 

Hi,

I am not an astrologer.. But I have gone through similar pain as you are

going through right now.He promised he would marry me and fight with the whole

world for me.My heart said " This is the right person for me!!! " .I fought with my

parents,brothers and sisters for him.All memebers in my family told he is not

good.I accepted him inspite of knowing that he goes to strip clubs,drinks, has

bad friends,no job,etc.It's true " Love is Blind " .

 

But when time came to prove his words,he decided to marry the girl his parents

chose for him.When I confronted him regarding this matter,he abused me verbally

and physically.He hit me a lot and used bad words for me.I was tormented

mentally with his actions.One fine day he went away to his parents for marriage

to another girl.Not only all this but he also spead rumors that I was

characterless among his friends and that anyone could sleep with me and do

anything with me.

 

But there's a saying " behind every cloud there is a silver lining " ,I got job in

a very good company just one week after he left.I was under the wrong impression

that my life would become hell if he left me,nobody would respect me in

society,everybody would talk about me,etc.But after he left me everything was

quite opposite.Friends and family supported me.Neighbours started coming to my

house and offered me a lot of help.I realised I was so happy without him.

 

Later I came to know the girl to whom he was about to get married broke the

marriage because he was jobless.He tried to contact me,but I never turned back

and looked at him.

 

As a woman and as your sister,I have one thing to tell you...It's time to take

your stand!!!

Try to get a job as teacher in some school..Three years is a long time to wait

for someone.

Don't let your life stand still.Keep moving forward!!!

 

Don't let any " dork " take control of your life..Life is very short...Live life

to the fullest...

In short give him final " Ultimatum " if he doesnt listen then kick his ass and

move on

 

--- On Thu, 4/9/09, Raja <desi.raja > wrote:

 

Raja <desi.raja >

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

 

Thursday, April 9, 2009, 12:31 AM

 

Hello Smt. Malhotra ji,

You must have heard the phrase - " Nari tu Narayani " means nari is a form of

narayani. Nari (Female) is able to do anything of might, reverse the unhappy

marriage and make it happy one is small thing. I will strongly advise you should

do that rather than relying on any advise on cyber forum to break up your

marriage.

 

Do you know for sure what will be your future after the divorce? No jyotish can

predict that for sure. will you be able to remarry someone who can provide you

every happyness in the world? I strongly doubt it. Divorce in our SAMAJ is a

stigma especially for females and they end up suffering more in post-divorce. If

you yourself will give up then no one will help you. Do not expect any miracle

from your relatives or friends, they are ready to see you divorced so they can

talk about you. Only you will suffer therefor i will say that You must take

charge of situation and improve things.

 

As an elder brother, I would strongly advise against this divorce. Yeh khayal

hi dimag se nikal de aap. You should clean your mind of any doubts, sit down

with your husband, communicate with each other, take a week vacation with him,

do things that he likes, cook food he loves, help your in-laws, invite them to

your house often, patch up with him to the best, create circumstances such that

he has to feel good about you and he'll be back to you, create an environment of

trust and love, talk to him about starting family - having kids etc and

everything will work out for good.

 

There are no established formula for divorce, no predictions are sure

prediction. Marital ups-downs were there even for Mahadev and Narayana, we are

mere humans. As a woman, you should be able to control circumstances and your

husband too. I am trusting you to convert this situation and reverse whole thing

in your happy marital favor. Please rethink whole thing.

 

Pray to Ma Durga and your marriage will be a success, one day you will thank me.

 

May Ma Durga bless you.

 

-Raja

 

, Honey malhotra <lotus7755@. ...>

wrote:

 

> thanks vatteji , prashant ji , harry nathani ji,

 

> thank u for spending valuable time for me. but some final queries plz help me.

 

> kya mera divorce destined hai. yani hone he wala hai. yani ho jayega. kyoki

mere parents are not supporting neither my in laws are not taking interst in our

matter. aab mai to sirf ek ek din nikal rahi hoo as i m fully dependent

finacially. so main steps nahi le sakti. so what i want to know ki kya mera

divorce hona likha hai kya. jaise kayi ghatnaye hum na soche ya kuch na kare to

bhi ho jata hai. usi tarah doivirce bhi use duartion main hona hi hai kyo graha

dasha supportive hai is liye ho jayega kya.

 

> i think meri mental situation and real situation aap log samaz rahe honge. aur

main kya jana chati hoon woh bhi aap sab samaz rahe honge. abt my husbands

contact with that lady it is confirmed that he is still having physical

relations with that lady and they are committed to each other. and he is take

all responsibilities of that lady just like husband.

 

> they had done abortion 4 yrs back before our marriage. due to family matters

and problems that girl was not accepted by my in laws.

 

> but now they are still having relations. he is living here but he is investing

his mony and time with that girl only. so

 

> i dont think i will get back him . so i m worried abt my future. but meri

himmat nahi kadm uthane ki. aab karan jo bhi ho. isliye mai chati hoo ki ye

ghatna ghat jaye aur situation aisi ho ki hamara divorce ho jaye.

 

> aap sab plz samazne ki koshis karen main kya kahana chati hoo.

 

> --- On Tue, 7/4/09, vattem krishnan <bursar_99@. ..> wrote:

 

> vattem krishnan <bursar_99@. ..>

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

 

>

 

> Tuesday, 7 April, 2009, 12:16 AM

 

> Honey ji,

 

> if we analyse the chart of your husband we find:

 

> his maraigw ith you is by choice and in his 7th there is jupiter 7th as lord

of 5th in retrograde state.

 

> An agressive approach and with sun in lagna in own sign and mars along with

mercury.

 

> lagna raising in venus nakshtra and with venus posited in 12th he has his own

ways of finding pleasure and has no holds for him.

 

> Lord of 7th is aspecting saturn in dhana sthana in an airy sign.For him money

is not an issue and can get along with any body easily.

 

> His moon in dhanishta in 6th and venus in 7th too indicates that his spouse

will be for sake of havin pleasent time.

 

> About his having child,I have my own doubts as his 5th is aspected by saturn

and dispositor jupiter in 7th.

 

> Iam not sure whether you have verifed his contacts and proximity to other

woman and he certainly belongs to a different class and community.

 

> Now about your taking divorce,I do not think he will have any objection.and by

all means by the end of sept 2009,you can get divorce.

 

> It is doubtful he goes in for another marriage.and even he is not having any

contentment in his own house

 

> vrkrishnan

 

>

 

> --- On Mon, 4/6/09, Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in> wrote:

 

>

 

> Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

 

>

 

> Monday, April 6, 2009, 1:08 PM

 

>

 

> for replying me soon.

 

> more that i want to tell

 

> my husbands details are

 

> 31/8/1974

 

> time - 6.35 am

 

> latitude,longitude - 21 10 n 75 34

 

> he is already having his relations with other lady since last 7 yrs. had

abortion done. cares nothing abt me . he even doent expect me to do . not even

talks with me ask nothing. no outing. he never comes with me out at my parents

place or any other place. he never talked with be even not at the time of

marriage or before marriage.

 

> i think he was forced to do so.

 

> please study our kundali and suggest

 

> for reference my details are

 

> my birth details are as follows

 

> birth date - 10/9/80

 

> time 10 pm

 

> place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

 

>

 

> givin latititude and longitude of erandol

 

> lat 20 55 0 N

 

> lon 75 19 60 E

 

> --- On Mon, 6/4/09, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar > wrote:

 

> Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar >

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- 6/4

 

>

 

> Monday, 6 April, 2009, 6:37 PM

 

>

 

> Malhotra,

 

> I remember ur post and good u said that data was wrong, but hope this is the

right one also.

 

> the period between 14/4/09 to 13/4/09 is the earliest u can think of

seperation in this 9/3 to 11/5/10 is best suited for it, so till then be patient

and try to win him back-give him a chance as u have for the past 3 yrs,,,!

 

> prayers to any form of shikthi will pave the right direction for u,

 

> Best wishes

 

> Prashant

 

> I use B V Raman's Ayanamsa only so Dasa, Vargas, Dates will differ from non

Raman's. Pl provide important dates in ur life while posting to verify ur birth

data and to help Lagna verification provide a picture in the Pictures folder in

the group either in the Lagna/rasi one or unknown folder. Consultations outside

the group or to my personal ID are chargeable. see Database section in the group

for more.- G B Prashant Kumar Life Member ICAS.

 

> http://groups. / group/Jyotish_ Remedies/ database? method=reportRow

s & tbl=6

 

> ____________ _________ _________ __

 

> Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

 

>

 

> Monday, April 6, 2009 5:00:06 PM

 

> want to take divorce when i will get

 

> respected gurujis

 

> i m sunita

 

> my birth details are as follows

 

> birth date - 10/9/80

 

> time 10 pm

 

> place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

 

>

 

> givin latititude and longitude of erandol

 

> lat 20 55 0 N

 

> lon 75 19 60 E

 

> actually i m fed up with my husband. he is not good to me.

 

> he is having affair with another lady. may be having children out side..

living out side. No physical relations with me since marrige. we are just living

at one place without any relationship. now i want tio leave hm because after 3

yrs also there is no change in his behavior.

 

> plz help me.

 

> last time i furnished wrong details. actually these are the correct one that i

got from my parents.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Prashantji,

                 Please find my answers below

 

 

--- On Sun, 4/12/09, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar wrote:

 

Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

12/4

 

Sunday, April 12, 2009, 5:26 AM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Saritha,

 

 

 

a good post, and in the right direction INVARIABLY WE FIND GILRS OF TODAY

ATTRACTED TO SUCH CHARACTERLESS PPL and defy their family, parents who have

shown far greater love, concern than this mirage and still the girls get sucked

into it and many dont come out like u did most come out burnt in such fire with

a LOT OS SCARS both physical, mental, emotional and many blame everyone else

than themselves. esp God some do suffer from guily and remain recluse.

 

>>I think here the subject is to help Malhotraji .I think you and me

should support her emotionally instead of taking the topic somewhere

else.Astrolgers are known to be like doctors healing wounds of ppl

 

ur approach is the one we also suggest I myself have brought a few ppl to shape

counselling or being with them in such times it is hard, thankless job most ppl

stop at advices I have done beyond that and stood by them till them come out in

a shape close to what u suggest and these battered women instead of being

greatful have become more ruthless, uncomprosing and what else is there to loose

kind and literally take revenge on society around them another bad side-extreme

 

 

 

as care givers to the family thus society they deserve our support,

understanding not all come to terms in a peaceful way though we try our best to

do it that way

 

 

 

seperation is the last option when the future of the children if any is involved

at physical risk else it is a crime to deny the children the option of knowing

their parent/s who spperated were actually was guilty this when they see it from

their own eyes and ask their parent/s to move away helps the child come up

emotionalluy, academically, professionally strong else all broken families

children breed only break ups in every from of life around them

 

>>Not true in all cases.I have seen kids whose parents are divorced and they are

doing well emotionally,academically and professionally

 

They are doing much better than those lazy and irresponsible kids whose parents

provide them with everything

 

 

 

so people must take care of their responsiblites, risks and take a plunge

forward else live by the time tested guidlines by pursuing arranged marriages

the families beind them at least add to pressure to repair a troubled one,

marriages are about adjustments only. there will be mistakes from both sides it

is how they reconginse, identify, isolate it and solve it matters.

 

 

 

if there is a family structure behind [arranged marriages] some one other guide

u as a element of openness to listen is there

 

 

 

in a marriage that has come up on defying everyone it is on a weaker footing so

a draw back

 

 

 

finally in any case ppl must recognise problems and seek solutions amicably,

than go to extremses, like drugs, alchol, sucides...

 

 

 

prashant

 

 

 

____________ _________ _________ __

 

Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67@ >

 

 

 

Sunday, April 12, 2009 12:43:52 AM

 

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

 

 

 

Hi,

 

I am not an astrologer.. But I have gone through similar pain as you are

going through right now.He promised he would marry me and fight with the whole

world for me.My heart said " This is the right person for me!!! " .I fought with my

parents,brothers and sisters for him.All memebers in my family told he is not

good.I accepted him inspite of knowing that he goes to strip clubs,drinks, has

bad friends,no job,etc.It's true " Love is Blind " .

 

 

 

But when time came to prove his words,he decided to marry the girl his parents

chose for him.When I confronted him regarding this matter,he abused me verbally

and physically.He hit me a lot and used bad words for me.I was tormented

mentally with his actions.One fine day he went away to his parents for marriage

to another girl.Not only all this but he also spead rumors that I was

characterless among his friends and that anyone could sleep with me and do

anything with me.

 

 

 

But there's a saying " behind every cloud there is a silver lining " ,I got job in

a very good company just one week after he left.I was under the wrong impression

that my life would become hell if he left me,nobody would respect me in

society,everybody would talk about me,etc.But after he left me everything was

quite opposite.Friends and family supported me.Neighbours started coming to my

house and offered me a lot of help.I realised I was so happy without him.

 

 

 

Later I came to know the girl to whom he was about to get married broke the

marriage because he was jobless.He tried to contact me,but I never turned back

and looked at him.

 

 

 

As a woman and as your sister,I have one thing to tell you...It's time to take

your stand!!!

 

Try to get a job as teacher in some school..Three years is a long time to wait

for someone.

 

Don't let your life stand still.Keep moving forward!!!

 

 

 

Don't let any " dork " take control of your life..Life is very short...Live life

to the fullest...

 

In short give him final " Ultimatum " if he doesnt listen then kick his ass and

move on

 

 

 

--- On Thu, 4/9/09, Raja <desi.raja > wrote:

 

 

 

Raja <desi.raja >

 

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

 

 

 

Thursday, April 9, 2009, 12:31 AM

 

 

 

Hello Smt. Malhotra ji,

 

You must have heard the phrase - " Nari tu Narayani " means nari is a form of

narayani. Nari (Female) is able to do anything of might, reverse the unhappy

marriage and make it happy one is small thing. I will strongly advise you should

do that rather than relying on any advise on cyber forum to break up your

marriage.

 

 

 

Do you know for sure what will be your future after the divorce? No jyotish can

predict that for sure. will you be able to remarry someone who can provide you

every happyness in the world? I strongly doubt it. Divorce in our SAMAJ is a

stigma especially for females and they end up suffering more in post-divorce. If

you yourself will give up then no one will help you. Do not expect any miracle

from your relatives or friends, they are ready to see you divorced so they can

talk about you. Only you will suffer therefor i will say that You must take

charge of situation and improve things.

 

 

 

As an elder brother, I would strongly advise against this divorce. Yeh khayal

hi dimag se nikal de aap. You should clean your mind of any doubts, sit down

with your husband, communicate with each other, take a week vacation with him,

do things that he likes, cook food he loves, help your in-laws, invite them to

your house often, patch up with him to the best, create circumstances such that

he has to feel good about you and he'll be back to you, create an environment of

trust and love, talk to him about starting family - having kids etc and

everything will work out for good.

 

 

 

There are no established formula for divorce, no predictions are sure

prediction. Marital ups-downs were there even for Mahadev and Narayana, we are

mere humans. As a woman, you should be able to control circumstances and your

husband too. I am trusting you to convert this situation and reverse whole thing

in your happy marital favor. Please rethink whole thing.

 

 

 

Pray to Ma Durga and your marriage will be a success, one day you will thank me.

 

 

 

May Ma Durga bless you.

 

 

 

-Raja

 

 

 

, Honey malhotra <lotus7755@. ....>

wrote:

 

 

 

> thanks vatteji , prashant ji , harry nathani ji,

 

 

 

> thank u for spending valuable time for me. but some final queries plz help me.

 

 

 

> kya mera divorce destined hai. yani hone he wala hai. yani ho jayega. kyoki

mere parents are not supporting neither my in laws are not taking interst in our

matter. aab mai to sirf ek ek din nikal rahi hoo as i m fully dependent

finacially. so main steps nahi le sakti. so what i want to know ki kya mera

divorce hona likha hai kya. jaise kayi ghatnaye hum na soche ya kuch na kare to

bhi ho jata hai. usi tarah doivirce bhi use duartion main hona hi hai kyo graha

dasha supportive hai is liye ho jayega kya.

 

 

 

> i think meri mental situation and real situation aap log samaz rahe honge. aur

main kya jana chati hoon woh bhi aap sab samaz rahe honge. abt my husbands

contact with that lady it is confirmed that he is still having physical

relations with that lady and they are committed to each other. and he is take

all responsibilities of that lady just like husband.

 

 

 

> they had done abortion 4 yrs back before our marriage. due to family matters

and problems that girl was not accepted by my in laws.

 

 

 

> but now they are still having relations. he is living here but he is investing

his mony and time with that girl only. so

 

 

 

> i dont think i will get back him . so i m worried abt my future. but meri

himmat nahi kadm uthane ki. aab karan jo bhi ho. isliye mai chati hoo ki ye

ghatna ghat jaye aur situation aisi ho ki hamara divorce ho jaye.

 

 

 

> aap sab plz samazne ki koshis karen main kya kahana chati hoo.

 

 

 

> --- On Tue, 7/4/09, vattem krishnan <bursar_99@. ..> wrote:

 

 

 

> vattem krishnan <bursar_99@. ..>

 

 

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> Tuesday, 7 April, 2009, 12:16 AM

 

 

 

> Honey ji,

 

 

 

> if we analyse the chart of your husband we find:

 

 

 

> his maraigw ith you is by choice and in his 7th there is jupiter 7th as lord

of 5th in retrograde state.

 

 

 

> An agressive approach and with sun in lagna in own sign and mars along with

mercury.

 

 

 

> lagna raising in venus nakshtra and with venus posited in 12th he has his own

ways of finding pleasure and has no holds for him.

 

 

 

> Lord of 7th is aspecting saturn in dhana sthana in an airy sign.For him money

is not an issue and can get along with any body easily.

 

 

 

> His moon in dhanishta in 6th and venus in 7th too indicates that his spouse

will be for sake of havin pleasent time.

 

 

 

> About his having child,I have my own doubts as his 5th is aspected by saturn

and dispositor jupiter in 7th.

 

 

 

> Iam not sure whether you have verifed his contacts and proximity to other

woman and he certainly belongs to a different class and community.

 

 

 

> Now about your taking divorce,I do not think he will have any objection.and by

all means by the end of sept 2009,you can get divorce.

 

 

 

> It is doubtful he goes in for another marriage.and even he is not having any

contentment in his own house

 

 

 

> vrkrishnan

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> --- On Mon, 4/6/09, Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in> wrote:

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

 

 

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> Monday, April 6, 2009, 1:08 PM

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> for replying me soon.

 

 

 

> more that i want to tell

 

 

 

> my husbands details are

 

 

 

> 31/8/1974

 

 

 

> time - 6.35 am

 

 

 

> latitude,longitude - 21 10 n 75 34

 

 

 

> he is already having his relations with other lady since last 7 yrs. had

abortion done. cares nothing abt me . he even doent expect me to do . not even

talks with me ask nothing. no outing. he never comes with me out at my parents

place or any other place. he never talked with be even not at the time of

marriage or before marriage.

 

 

 

> i think he was forced to do so.

 

 

 

> please study our kundali and suggest

 

 

 

> for reference my details are

 

 

 

> my birth details are as follows

 

 

 

> birth date - 10/9/80

 

 

 

> time 10 pm

 

 

 

> place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> givin latititude and longitude of erandol

 

 

 

> lat 20 55 0 N

 

 

 

> lon 75 19 60 E

 

 

 

> --- On Mon, 6/4/09, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar > wrote:

 

 

 

> Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar >

 

 

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- 6/4

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> Monday, 6 April, 2009, 6:37 PM

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> Malhotra,

 

 

 

> I remember ur post and good u said that data was wrong, but hope this is the

right one also.

 

 

 

> the period between 14/4/09 to 13/4/09 is the earliest u can think of

seperation in this 9/3 to 11/5/10 is best suited for it, so till then be patient

and try to win him back-give him a chance as u have for the past 3 yrs,,,!

 

 

 

> prayers to any form of shikthi will pave the right direction for u,

 

 

 

> Best wishes

 

 

 

> Prashant

 

 

 

> I use B V Raman's Ayanamsa only so Dasa, Vargas, Dates will differ from non

Raman's. Pl provide important dates in ur life while posting to verify ur birth

data and to help Lagna verification provide a picture in the Pictures folder in

the group either in the Lagna/rasi one or unknown folder. Consultations outside

the group or to my personal ID are chargeable. see Database section in the group

for more.- G B Prashant Kumar Life Member ICAS.

 

 

 

> http://groups. / group/Jyotish_ Remedies/ database? method=reportRow

s & tbl=6

 

 

 

> ____________ _________ _________ __

 

 

 

> Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> Monday, April 6, 2009 5:00:06 PM

 

 

 

> want to take divorce when i will get

 

 

 

> respected gurujis

 

 

 

> i m sunita

 

 

 

> my birth details are as follows

 

 

 

> birth date - 10/9/80

 

 

 

> time 10 pm

 

 

 

> place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

 

 

 

>

 

 

 

> givin latititude and longitude of erandol

 

 

 

> lat 20 55 0 N

 

 

 

> lon 75 19 60 E

 

 

 

> actually i m fed up with my husband. he is not good to me.

 

 

 

> he is having affair with another lady. may be having children out side...

living out side. No physical relations with me since marrige. we are just living

at one place without any relationship. now i want tio leave hm because after 3

yrs also there is no change in his behavior.

 

 

 

> plz help me.

 

 

 

> last time i furnished wrong details. actually these are the correct one that i

got from my parents.

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

every thing is ok

 

some suggested me to just wait and watch.

about trying  actually im doing that only. from last 3 years.

but if that guy my husband is already eengaged in anoher lady and living with

that lady like husband and wife then what.  who to use bhi dukhi hi kar raha hai

for his parents he married me. and because he loves that girl he is not leaving

her. but still us lady ne to use permission nahi di hogi shaadi ke liye. jab woh

dono sath main 7 years se raha rahe hai. to usne use bhi dhoka hi diya hoga.

meri tarah woh bhi taklif main ghool rahi hogi bas situation se compromise kar

baithi hai.

 

aab aise hsband se  kya expect karoon.

usne society aur parents ke liye sab ke samne mujhse shaadi ki. par uske bina

raha nahi sakta. woh mujhe dekhta tak nahi. say shaadi ke baad hum honey moon ko

bhi gaya to woh alag hi raha. aaj tak maine use usse baat karni ki koshish ki

par usne kabhi response nahin diya. bas ghar main machine ki tarah rahta hai.

ghar aana hai isliya aata hai. subah 8 se raat 11 baje the office main ya bahar

rahata hai. baas.

 

aab main kya karoon.

hum dono ladkiyo ke sath usne apni manmaani ki hai.

 

ghar wale us widow ko bahoo nahi banan chate the. woh ghar alon ko chod nahi

sakta that ya ghar main mere sasoor ji ne use majboor kiya hoga. he is that kind

of person. aur baki sab ne bhi us par presusre laya hoga. ek baar gusse main

ghar main apne ghar waloon ko usne bola bhi tha.

 

maine andar se ye baat sun li tin meri saas ne jhat baat sambhal li aur topic

change kar liya.

 

 

--- On Sun, 12/4/09, Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67 wrote:

 

 

Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

12/4

 

Sunday, 12 April, 2009, 8:14 PM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Prashantji,

                 Please find my answers below

 

--- On Sun, 4/12/09, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar > wrote:

 

Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar >

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

12/4

 

Sunday, April 12, 2009, 5:26 AM

 

Saritha,

 

a good post, and in the right direction INVARIABLY WE FIND GILRS OF TODAY

ATTRACTED TO SUCH CHARACTERLESS PPL and defy their family, parents who have

shown far greater love, concern than this mirage and still the girls get sucked

into it and many dont come out like u did most come out burnt in such fire with

a LOT OS SCARS both physical, mental, emotional and many blame everyone else

than themselves. esp God some do suffer from guily and remain recluse.

 

>>I think here the subject is to help Malhotraji .I think you and me

should support her emotionally instead of taking the topic somewhere

else.Astrolgers are known to be like doctors healing wounds of ppl

 

ur approach is the one we also suggest I myself have brought a few ppl to shape

counselling or being with them in such times it is hard, thankless job most ppl

stop at advices I have done beyond that and stood by them till them come out in

a shape close to what u suggest and these battered women instead of being

greatful have become more ruthless, uncomprosing and what else is there to loose

kind and literally take revenge on society around them another bad side-extreme

 

as care givers to the family thus society they deserve our support,

understanding not all come to terms in a peaceful way though we try our best to

do it that way

 

seperation is the last option when the future of the children if any is involved

at physical risk else it is a crime to deny the children the option of knowing

their parent/s who spperated were actually was guilty this when they see it from

their own eyes and ask their parent/s to move away helps the child come up

emotionalluy, academically, professionally strong else all broken families

children breed only break ups in every from of life around them

 

>>Not true in all cases.I have seen kids whose parents are divorced and they are

doing well emotionally, academically and professionally

 

They are doing much better than those lazy and irresponsible kids whose parents

provide them with everything

 

so people must take care of their responsiblites, risks and take a plunge

forward else live by the time tested guidlines by pursuing arranged marriages

the families beind them at least add to pressure to repair a troubled one,

marriages are about adjustments only. there will be mistakes from both sides it

is how they reconginse, identify, isolate it and solve it matters.

 

if there is a family structure behind [arranged marriages] some one other guide

u as a element of openness to listen is there

 

in a marriage that has come up on defying everyone it is on a weaker footing so

a draw back

 

finally in any case ppl must recognise problems and seek solutions amicably,

than go to extremses, like drugs, alchol, sucides...

 

prashant

 

____________ _________ _________ __

 

Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67@ >

 

 

 

Sunday, April 12, 2009 12:43:52 AM

 

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

 

Hi,

 

I am not an astrologer.. But I have gone through similar pain as you are going

through right now.He promised he would marry me and fight with the whole world

for me.My heart said " This is the right person for me!!! " .I fought with my

parents,brothers and sisters for him.All memebers in my family told he is not

good.I accepted him inspite of knowing that he goes to strip clubs,drinks, has

bad friends,no job,etc.It's true " Love is Blind " .

 

But when time came to prove his words,he decided to marry the girl his parents

chose for him.When I confronted him regarding this matter,he abused me verbally

and physically.He hit me a lot and used bad words for me.I was tormented

mentally with his actions.One fine day he went away to his parents for marriage

to another girl.Not only all this but he also spead rumors that I was

characterless among his friends and that anyone could sleep with me and do

anything with me.

 

But there's a saying " behind every cloud there is a silver lining " ,I got job in

a very good company just one week after he left.I was under the wrong impression

that my life would become hell if he left me,nobody would respect me in

society,everybody would talk about me,etc.But after he left me everything was

quite opposite.Friends and family supported me.Neighbours started coming to my

house and offered me a lot of help.I realised I was so happy without him.

 

Later I came to know the girl to whom he was about to get married broke the

marriage because he was jobless.He tried to contact me,but I never turned back

and looked at him.

 

As a woman and as your sister,I have one thing to tell you...It's time to take

your stand!!!

 

Try to get a job as teacher in some school..Three years is a long time to wait

for someone.

 

Don't let your life stand still.Keep moving forward!!!

 

Don't let any " dork " take control of your life..Life is very short...Live life

to the fullest...

 

In short give him final " Ultimatum " if he doesnt listen then kick his ass and

move on

 

--- On Thu, 4/9/09, Raja <desi.raja > wrote:

 

Raja <desi.raja >

 

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

 

 

 

Thursday, April 9, 2009, 12:31 AM

 

Hello Smt. Malhotra ji,

 

You must have heard the phrase - " Nari tu Narayani " means nari is a form of

narayani. Nari (Female) is able to do anything of might, reverse the unhappy

marriage and make it happy one is small thing. I will strongly advise you should

do that rather than relying on any advise on cyber forum to break up your

marriage.

 

Do you know for sure what will be your future after the divorce? No jyotish can

predict that for sure. will you be able to remarry someone who can provide you

every happyness in the world? I strongly doubt it. Divorce in our SAMAJ is a

stigma especially for females and they end up suffering more in post-divorce. If

you yourself will give up then no one will help you. Do not expect any miracle

from your relatives or friends, they are ready to see you divorced so they can

talk about you. Only you will suffer therefor i will say that You must take

charge of situation and improve things.

 

As an elder brother, I would strongly advise against this divorce. Yeh khayal hi

dimag se nikal de aap. You should clean your mind of any doubts, sit down with

your husband, communicate with each other, take a week vacation with him, do

things that he likes, cook food he loves, help your in-laws, invite them to your

house often, patch up with him to the best, create circumstances such that he

has to feel good about you and he'll be back to you, create an environment of

trust and love, talk to him about starting family - having kids etc and

everything will work out for good.

 

There are no established formula for divorce, no predictions are sure

prediction. Marital ups-downs were there even for Mahadev and Narayana, we are

mere humans. As a woman, you should be able to control circumstances and your

husband too. I am trusting you to convert this situation and reverse whole thing

in your happy marital favor. Please rethink whole thing.

 

Pray to Ma Durga and your marriage will be a success, one day you will thank me.

 

May Ma Durga bless you.

 

-Raja

 

, Honey malhotra <lotus7755@. ....>

wrote:

 

> thanks vatteji , prashant ji , harry nathani ji,

 

> thank u for spending valuable time for me. but some final queries plz help me.

 

> kya mera divorce destined hai. yani hone he wala hai. yani ho jayega. kyoki

mere parents are not supporting neither my in laws are not taking interst in our

matter. aab mai to sirf ek ek din nikal rahi hoo as i m fully dependent

finacially. so main steps nahi le sakti. so what i want to know ki kya mera

divorce hona likha hai kya. jaise kayi ghatnaye hum na soche ya kuch na kare to

bhi ho jata hai. usi tarah doivirce bhi use duartion main hona hi hai kyo graha

dasha supportive hai is liye ho jayega kya.

 

> i think meri mental situation and real situation aap log samaz rahe honge. aur

main kya jana chati hoon woh bhi aap sab samaz rahe honge. abt my husbands

contact with that lady it is confirmed that he is still having physical

relations with that lady and they are committed to each other. and he is take

all responsibilities of that lady just like husband.

 

> they had done abortion 4 yrs back before our marriage. due to family matters

and problems that girl was not accepted by my in laws.

 

> but now they are still having relations. he is living here but he is investing

his mony and time with that girl only. so

 

> i dont think i will get back him . so i m worried abt my future. but meri

himmat nahi kadm uthane ki. aab karan jo bhi ho. isliye mai chati hoo ki ye

ghatna ghat jaye aur situation aisi ho ki hamara divorce ho jaye.

 

> aap sab plz samazne ki koshis karen main kya kahana chati hoo.

 

> --- On Tue, 7/4/09, vattem krishnan <bursar_99@. ..> wrote:

 

> vattem krishnan <bursar_99@. ..>

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

 

>

 

> Tuesday, 7 April, 2009, 12:16 AM

 

> Honey ji,

 

> if we analyse the chart of your husband we find:

 

> his maraigw ith you is by choice and in his 7th there is jupiter 7th as lord

of 5th in retrograde state.

 

> An agressive approach and with sun in lagna in own sign and mars along with

mercury.

 

> lagna raising in venus nakshtra and with venus posited in 12th he has his own

ways of finding pleasure and has no holds for him.

 

> Lord of 7th is aspecting saturn in dhana sthana in an airy sign.For him money

is not an issue and can get along with any body easily.

 

> His moon in dhanishta in 6th and venus in 7th too indicates that his spouse

will be for sake of havin pleasent time.

 

> About his having child,I have my own doubts as his 5th is aspected by saturn

and dispositor jupiter in 7th.

 

> Iam not sure whether you have verifed his contacts and proximity to other

woman and he certainly belongs to a different class and community.

 

> Now about your taking divorce,I do not think he will have any objection.and by

all means by the end of sept 2009,you can get divorce.

 

> It is doubtful he goes in for another marriage.and even he is not having any

contentment in his own house

 

> vrkrishnan

 

>

 

> --- On Mon, 4/6/09, Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in> wrote:

 

>

 

> Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

 

>

 

> Monday, April 6, 2009, 1:08 PM

 

>

 

> for replying me soon.

 

> more that i want to tell

 

> my husbands details are

 

> 31/8/1974

 

> time - 6.35 am

 

> latitude,longitude - 21 10 n 75 34

 

> he is already having his relations with other lady since last 7 yrs. had

abortion done. cares nothing abt me . he even doent expect me to do . not even

talks with me ask nothing. no outing. he never comes with me out at my parents

place or any other place. he never talked with be even not at the time of

marriage or before marriage.

 

> i think he was forced to do so.

 

> please study our kundali and suggest

 

> for reference my details are

 

> my birth details are as follows

 

> birth date - 10/9/80

 

> time 10 pm

 

> place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

 

>

 

> givin latititude and longitude of erandol

 

> lat 20 55 0 N

 

> lon 75 19 60 E

 

> --- On Mon, 6/4/09, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar > wrote:

 

> Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar >

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- 6/4

 

>

 

> Monday, 6 April, 2009, 6:37 PM

 

>

 

> Malhotra,

 

> I remember ur post and good u said that data was wrong, but hope this is the

right one also.

 

> the period between 14/4/09 to 13/4/09 is the earliest u can think of

seperation in this 9/3 to 11/5/10 is best suited for it, so till then be patient

and try to win him back-give him a chance as u have for the past 3 yrs,,,!

 

> prayers to any form of shikthi will pave the right direction for u,

 

> Best wishes

 

> Prashant

 

> I use B V Raman's Ayanamsa only so Dasa, Vargas, Dates will differ from non

Raman's. Pl provide important dates in ur life while posting to verify ur birth

data and to help Lagna verification provide a picture in the Pictures folder in

the group either in the Lagna/rasi one or unknown folder. Consultations outside

the group or to my personal ID are chargeable. see Database section in the group

for more.- G B Prashant Kumar Life Member ICAS.

 

> http://groups. / group/Jyotish_ Remedies/ database? method=reportRow

s & tbl=6

 

> ____________ _________ _________ __

 

> Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

 

>

 

> Monday, April 6, 2009 5:00:06 PM

 

> want to take divorce when i will get

 

> respected gurujis

 

> i m sunita

 

> my birth details are as follows

 

> birth date - 10/9/80

 

> time 10 pm

 

> place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

 

>

 

> givin latititude and longitude of erandol

 

> lat 20 55 0 N

 

> lon 75 19 60 E

 

> actually i m fed up with my husband. he is not good to me.

 

> he is having affair with another lady. may be having children out side...

living out side. No physical relations with me since marrige. we are just living

at one place without any relationship. now i want tio leave hm because after 3

yrs also there is no change in his behavior.

 

> plz help me.

 

> last time i furnished wrong details. actually these are the correct one that i

got from my parents.

 

 

[Guest guest]

HONEY jI,

the issues is mianly financial support for you.You can break relation

legally.But the other lady too might not be happy.Even your inlaws too are

helpless.In this situation you need to wait and initiate action legally.

vrkrishnan

 

--- On Wed, 4/15/09, Honey malhotra <lotus7755 wrote:

 

Honey malhotra <lotus7755

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

12/4

 

Wednesday, April 15, 2009, 1:10 PM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

every thing is ok

 

some suggested me to just wait and watch.

about trying  actually im doing that only. from last 3 years.

but if that guy my husband is already eengaged in anoher lady and living with

that lady like husband and wife then what.  who to use bhi dukhi hi kar raha hai

for his parents he married me. and because he loves that girl he is not leaving

her. but still us lady ne to use permission nahi di hogi shaadi ke liye. jab woh

dono sath main 7 years se raha rahe hai. to usne use bhi dhoka hi diya hoga.

meri tarah woh bhi taklif main ghool rahi hogi bas situation se compromise kar

baithi hai.

 

aab aise hsband se  kya expect karoon.

usne society aur parents ke liye sab ke samne mujhse shaadi ki. par uske bina

raha nahi sakta. woh mujhe dekhta tak nahi. say shaadi ke baad hum honey moon ko

bhi gaya to woh alag hi raha. aaj tak maine use usse baat karni ki koshish ki

par usne kabhi response nahin diya. bas ghar main machine ki tarah rahta hai.

ghar aana hai isliya aata hai. subah 8 se raat 11 baje the office main ya bahar

rahata hai. baas.

 

aab main kya karoon.

hum dono ladkiyo ke sath usne apni manmaani ki hai.

 

ghar wale us widow ko bahoo nahi banan chate the. woh ghar alon ko chod nahi

sakta that ya ghar main mere sasoor ji ne use majboor kiya hoga. he is that kind

of person. aur baki sab ne bhi us par presusre laya hoga. ek baar gusse main

ghar main apne ghar waloon ko usne bola bhi tha.

 

maine andar se ye baat sun li tin meri saas ne jhat baat sambhal li aur topic

change kar liya.

 

--- On Sun, 12/4/09, Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67@ > wrote:

 

Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67@ >

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

12/4

 

Sunday, 12 April, 2009, 8:14 PM

 

Prashantji,

                 Please find my answers below

 

--- On Sun, 4/12/09, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar > wrote:

 

Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar >

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

12/4

 

Sunday, April 12, 2009, 5:26 AM

 

Saritha,

 

a good post, and in the right direction INVARIABLY WE FIND GILRS OF TODAY

ATTRACTED TO SUCH CHARACTERLESS PPL and defy their family, parents who have

shown far greater love, concern than this mirage and still the girls get sucked

into it and many dont come out like u did most come out burnt in such fire with

a LOT OS SCARS both physical, mental, emotional and many blame everyone else

than themselves. esp God some do suffer from guily and remain recluse.

 

>>I think here the subject is to help Malhotraji .I think you and me

should support her emotionally instead of taking the topic somewhere

else.Astrolgers are known to be like doctors healing wounds of ppl

 

ur approach is the one we also suggest I myself have brought a few ppl to shape

counselling or being with them in such times it is hard, thankless job most ppl

stop at advices I have done beyond that and stood by them till them come out in

a shape close to what u suggest and these battered women instead of being

greatful have become more ruthless, uncomprosing and what else is there to loose

kind and literally take revenge on society around them another bad side-extreme

 

as care givers to the family thus society they deserve our support,

understanding not all come to terms in a peaceful way though we try our best to

do it that way

 

seperation is the last option when the future of the children if any is involved

at physical risk else it is a crime to deny the children the option of knowing

their parent/s who spperated were actually was guilty this when they see it from

their own eyes and ask their parent/s to move away helps the child come up

emotionalluy, academically, professionally strong else all broken families

children breed only break ups in every from of life around them

 

>>Not true in all cases.I have seen kids whose parents are divorced and they are

doing well emotionally, academically and professionally

 

They are doing much better than those lazy and irresponsible kids whose parents

provide them with everything

 

so people must take care of their responsiblites, risks and take a plunge

forward else live by the time tested guidlines by pursuing arranged marriages

the families beind them at least add to pressure to repair a troubled one,

marriages are about adjustments only. there will be mistakes from both sides it

is how they reconginse, identify, isolate it and solve it matters.

 

if there is a family structure behind [arranged marriages] some one other guide

u as a element of openness to listen is there

 

in a marriage that has come up on defying everyone it is on a weaker footing so

a draw back

 

finally in any case ppl must recognise problems and seek solutions amicably,

than go to extremses, like drugs, alchol, sucides...

 

prashant

 

____________ _________ _________ __

 

Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67@ >

 

 

 

Sunday, April 12, 2009 12:43:52 AM

 

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

 

Hi,

 

I am not an astrologer.. But I have gone through similar pain as you are going

through right now.He promised he would marry me and fight with the whole world

for me.My heart said " This is the right person for me!!! " .I fought with my

parents,brothers and sisters for him.All memebers in my family told he is not

good.I accepted him inspite of knowing that he goes to strip clubs,drinks, has

bad friends,no job,etc.It's true " Love is Blind " .

 

But when time came to prove his words,he decided to marry the girl his parents

chose for him.When I confronted him regarding this matter,he abused me verbally

and physically.He hit me a lot and used bad words for me.I was tormented

mentally with his actions.One fine day he went away to his parents for marriage

to another girl.Not only all this but he also spead rumors that I was

characterless among his friends and that anyone could sleep with me and do

anything with me.

 

But there's a saying " behind every cloud there is a silver lining " ,I got job in

a very good company just one week after he left.I was under the wrong impression

that my life would become hell if he left me,nobody would respect me in

society,everybody would talk about me,etc.But after he left me everything was

quite opposite.Friends and family supported me.Neighbours started coming to my

house and offered me a lot of help.I realised I was so happy without him.

 

Later I came to know the girl to whom he was about to get married broke the

marriage because he was jobless.He tried to contact me,but I never turned back

and looked at him.

 

As a woman and as your sister,I have one thing to tell you...It's time to take

your stand!!!

 

Try to get a job as teacher in some school..Three years is a long time to wait

for someone.

 

Don't let your life stand still.Keep moving forward!!!

 

Don't let any " dork " take control of your life..Life is very short...Live life

to the fullest...

 

In short give him final " Ultimatum " if he doesnt listen then kick his ass and

move on

 

--- On Thu, 4/9/09, Raja <desi.raja > wrote:

 

Raja <desi.raja >

 

Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

 

 

 

Thursday, April 9, 2009, 12:31 AM

 

Hello Smt. Malhotra ji,

 

You must have heard the phrase - " Nari tu Narayani " means nari is a form of

narayani. Nari (Female) is able to do anything of might, reverse the unhappy

marriage and make it happy one is small thing. I will strongly advise you should

do that rather than relying on any advise on cyber forum to break up your

marriage.

 

Do you know for sure what will be your future after the divorce? No jyotish can

predict that for sure. will you be able to remarry someone who can provide you

every happyness in the world? I strongly doubt it. Divorce in our SAMAJ is a

stigma especially for females and they end up suffering more in post-divorce. If

you yourself will give up then no one will help you. Do not expect any miracle

from your relatives or friends, they are ready to see you divorced so they can

talk about you. Only you will suffer therefor i will say that You must take

charge of situation and improve things.

 

As an elder brother, I would strongly advise against this divorce. Yeh khayal hi

dimag se nikal de aap. You should clean your mind of any doubts, sit down with

your husband, communicate with each other, take a week vacation with him, do

things that he likes, cook food he loves, help your in-laws, invite them to your

house often, patch up with him to the best, create circumstances such that he

has to feel good about you and he'll be back to you, create an environment of

trust and love, talk to him about starting family - having kids etc and

everything will work out for good.

 

There are no established formula for divorce, no predictions are sure

prediction. Marital ups-downs were there even for Mahadev and Narayana, we are

mere humans. As a woman, you should be able to control circumstances and your

husband too. I am trusting you to convert this situation and reverse whole thing

in your happy marital favor. Please rethink whole thing.

 

Pray to Ma Durga and your marriage will be a success, one day you will thank me.

 

May Ma Durga bless you.

 

-Raja

 

, Honey malhotra <lotus7755@. ....>

wrote:

 

> thanks vatteji , prashant ji , harry nathani ji,

 

> thank u for spending valuable time for me. but some final queries plz help me.

 

> kya mera divorce destined hai. yani hone he wala hai. yani ho jayega. kyoki

mere parents are not supporting neither my in laws are not taking interst in our

matter. aab mai to sirf ek ek din nikal rahi hoo as i m fully dependent

finacially. so main steps nahi le sakti. so what i want to know ki kya mera

divorce hona likha hai kya. jaise kayi ghatnaye hum na soche ya kuch na kare to

bhi ho jata hai. usi tarah doivirce bhi use duartion main hona hi hai kyo graha

dasha supportive hai is liye ho jayega kya.

 

> i think meri mental situation and real situation aap log samaz rahe honge. aur

main kya jana chati hoon woh bhi aap sab samaz rahe honge. abt my husbands

contact with that lady it is confirmed that he is still having physical

relations with that lady and they are committed to each other. and he is take

all responsibilities of that lady just like husband.

 

> they had done abortion 4 yrs back before our marriage. due to family matters

and problems that girl was not accepted by my in laws.

 

> but now they are still having relations. he is living here but he is investing

his mony and time with that girl only. so

 

> i dont think i will get back him . so i m worried abt my future. but meri

himmat nahi kadm uthane ki. aab karan jo bhi ho. isliye mai chati hoo ki ye

ghatna ghat jaye aur situation aisi ho ki hamara divorce ho jaye.

 

> aap sab plz samazne ki koshis karen main kya kahana chati hoo.

 

> --- On Tue, 7/4/09, vattem krishnan <bursar_99@. ..> wrote:

 

> vattem krishnan <bursar_99@. ..>

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

 

>

 

> Tuesday, 7 April, 2009, 12:16 AM

 

> Honey ji,

 

> if we analyse the chart of your husband we find:

 

> his maraigw ith you is by choice and in his 7th there is jupiter 7th as lord

of 5th in retrograde state.

 

> An agressive approach and with sun in lagna in own sign and mars along with

mercury.

 

> lagna raising in venus nakshtra and with venus posited in 12th he has his own

ways of finding pleasure and has no holds for him.

 

> Lord of 7th is aspecting saturn in dhana sthana in an airy sign.For him money

is not an issue and can get along with any body easily.

 

> His moon in dhanishta in 6th and venus in 7th too indicates that his spouse

will be for sake of havin pleasent time.

 

> About his having child,I have my own doubts as his 5th is aspected by saturn

and dispositor jupiter in 7th.

 

> Iam not sure whether you have verifed his contacts and proximity to other

woman and he certainly belongs to a different class and community.

 

> Now about your taking divorce,I do not think he will have any objection.and by

all means by the end of sept 2009,you can get divorce.

 

> It is doubtful he goes in for another marriage.and even he is not having any

contentment in his own house

 

> vrkrishnan

 

>

 

> --- On Mon, 4/6/09, Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in> wrote:

 

>

 

> Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

 

>

 

> Monday, April 6, 2009, 1:08 PM

 

>

 

> for replying me soon.

 

> more that i want to tell

 

> my husbands details are

 

> 31/8/1974

 

> time - 6.35 am

 

> latitude,longitude - 21 10 n 75 34

 

> he is already having his relations with other lady since last 7 yrs. had

abortion done. cares nothing abt me . he even doent expect me to do . not even

talks with me ask nothing. no outing. he never comes with me out at my parents

place or any other place. he never talked with be even not at the time of

marriage or before marriage.

 

> i think he was forced to do so.

 

> please study our kundali and suggest

 

> for reference my details are

 

> my birth details are as follows

 

> birth date - 10/9/80

 

> time 10 pm

 

> place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

 

>

 

> givin latititude and longitude of erandol

 

> lat 20 55 0 N

 

> lon 75 19 60 E

 

> --- On Mon, 6/4/09, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar > wrote:

 

> Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar >

 

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- 6/4

 

>

 

> Monday, 6 April, 2009, 6:37 PM

 

>

 

> Malhotra,

 

> I remember ur post and good u said that data was wrong, but hope this is the

right one also.

 

> the period between 14/4/09 to 13/4/09 is the earliest u can think of

seperation in this 9/3 to 11/5/10 is best suited for it, so till then be patient

and try to win him back-give him a chance as u have for the past 3 yrs,,,!

 

> prayers to any form of shikthi will pave the right direction for u,

 

> Best wishes

 

> Prashant

 

> I use B V Raman's Ayanamsa only so Dasa, Vargas, Dates will differ from non

Raman's. Pl provide important dates in ur life while posting to verify ur birth

data and to help Lagna verification provide a picture in the Pictures folder in

the group either in the Lagna/rasi one or unknown folder. Consultations outside

the group or to my personal ID are chargeable. see Database section in the group

for more.- G B Prashant Kumar Life Member ICAS.

 

> http://groups. / group/Jyotish_ Remedies/ database? method=reportRow

s & tbl=6

 

> ____________ _________ _________ __

 

> Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

 

>

 

> Monday, April 6, 2009 5:00:06 PM

 

> want to take divorce when i will get

 

> respected gurujis

 

> i m sunita

 

> my birth details are as follows

 

> birth date - 10/9/80

 

> time 10 pm

 

> place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

 

>

 

> givin latititude and longitude of erandol

 

> lat 20 55 0 N

 

> lon 75 19 60 E

 

> actually i m fed up with my husband. he is not good to me.

 

> he is having affair with another lady. may be having children out side...

living out side. No physical relations with me since marrige. we are just living

at one place without any relationship. now i want tio leave hm because after 3

yrs also there is no change in his behavior.

 

> plz help me.

 

> last time i furnished wrong details. actually these are the correct one that i

got from my parents.

 

 

[Guest guest]

Dear friend,

 

The prasna chart shows 6th lord of rasi chart and 10th lord of navamsa chart

responsible for giving separation is Saturn retrograde in lagna.

 

 

Whenever we find retrograde planet, signifying the event, then the perspective

is something strange/ beyond expectation.

 

Please observe austerity and honesty and do Ekadasi Vrat as Mars is in 8th in

Marana Karaka Sthana as well as Saturn in lagna leo.

 

(2.20 pm april 16, 2009 delhi- are the prasna location and timing)

 

A good proportion of your problems will be over.

 

By the way divorce process is not going to be finalised so easily and so soon as

expected.

 

 

With regards and best wishes,

 

Mrutyunjay Tripathy

 

, Honey malhotra <lotus7755 wrote:

>

> every thing is ok

>  

> some suggested me to just wait and watch.

> about trying  actually im doing that only. from last 3 years.

> but if that guy my husband is already eengaged in anoher lady and living with

that lady like husband and wife then what.  who to use bhi dukhi hi kar raha hai

for his parents he married me. and because he loves that girl he is not leaving

her. but still us lady ne to use permission nahi di hogi shaadi ke liye. jab woh

dono sath main 7 years se raha rahe hai. to usne use bhi dhoka hi diya hoga.

meri tarah woh bhi taklif main ghool rahi hogi bas situation se compromise kar

baithi hai.

>  

> aab aise hsband se  kya expect karoon.

> usne society aur parents ke liye sab ke samne mujhse shaadi ki. par uske bina

raha nahi sakta. woh mujhe dekhta tak nahi. say shaadi ke baad hum honey moon ko

bhi gaya to woh alag hi raha. aaj tak maine use usse baat karni ki koshish ki

par usne kabhi response nahin diya. bas ghar main machine ki tarah rahta hai.

ghar aana hai isliya aata hai. subah 8 se raat 11 baje the office main ya bahar

rahata hai. baas.

>  

> aab main kya karoon.

> hum dono ladkiyo ke sath usne apni manmaani ki hai.

>  

> ghar wale us widow ko bahoo nahi banan chate the. woh ghar alon ko chod nahi

sakta that ya ghar main mere sasoor ji ne use majboor kiya hoga. he is that kind

of person. aur baki sab ne bhi us par presusre laya hoga. ek baar gusse main

ghar main apne ghar waloon ko usne bola bhi tha.

>  

> maine andar se ye baat sun li tin meri saas ne jhat baat sambhal li aur topic

change kar liya.

>

>

> --- On Sun, 12/4/09, Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67 wrote:

>

>

> Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

12/4

>

> Sunday, 12 April, 2009, 8:14 PM

>

>

Prashantji,

>                  Please find my answers below

>

> --- On Sun, 4/12/09, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar > wrote:

>

> Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar >

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

12/4

>

> Sunday, April 12, 2009, 5:26 AM

>

> Saritha,

>

> a good post, and in the right direction INVARIABLY WE FIND GILRS OF TODAY

ATTRACTED TO SUCH CHARACTERLESS PPL and defy their family, parents who have

shown far greater love, concern than this mirage and still the girls get sucked

into it and many dont come out like u did most come out burnt in such fire with

a LOT OS SCARS both physical, mental, emotional and many blame everyone else

than themselves. esp God some do suffer from guily and remain recluse.

>

> >>I think here the subject is to help Malhotraji .I think you and me

> should support her emotionally instead of taking the topic somewhere

> else.Astrolgers are known to be like doctors healing wounds of ppl

>

> ur approach is the one we also suggest I myself have brought a few ppl to

shape counselling or being with them in such times it is hard, thankless job

most ppl stop at advices I have done beyond that and stood by them till them

come out in a shape close to what u suggest and these battered women instead of

being greatful have become more ruthless, uncomprosing and what else is there to

loose kind and literally take revenge on society around them another bad

side-extreme

>

> as care givers to the family thus society they deserve our support,

understanding not all come to terms in a peaceful way though we try our best to

do it that way

>

> seperation is the last option when the future of the children if any is

involved at physical risk else it is a crime to deny the children the option of

knowing their parent/s who spperated were actually was guilty this when they see

it from their own eyes and ask their parent/s to move away helps the child come

up emotionalluy, academically, professionally strong else all broken families

children breed only break ups in every from of life around them

>

> >>Not true in all cases.I have seen kids whose parents are divorced and they

are doing well emotionally, academically and professionally

>

> They are doing much better than those lazy and irresponsible kids whose

parents provide them with everything

>

> so people must take care of their responsiblites, risks and take a plunge

forward else live by the time tested guidlines by pursuing arranged marriages

the families beind them at least add to pressure to repair a troubled one,

marriages are about adjustments only. there will be mistakes from both sides it

is how they reconginse, identify, isolate it and solve it matters.

>

> if there is a family structure behind [arranged marriages] some one other

guide u as a element of openness to listen is there

>

> in a marriage that has come up on defying everyone it is on a weaker footing

so a draw back

>

> finally in any case ppl must recognise problems and seek solutions amicably,

than go to extremses, like drugs, alchol, sucides...

>

> prashant

>

> ____________ _________ _________ __

>

> Sarita Sharma <sharmasarita67@ >

>

>

>

> Sunday, April 12, 2009 12:43:52 AM

>

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

>

> Hi,

>

> I am not an astrologer.. But I have gone through similar pain as you are going

through right now.He promised he would marry me and fight with the whole world

for me.My heart said " This is the right person for me!!! " .I fought with my

parents,brothers and sisters for him.All memebers in my family told he is not

good.I accepted him inspite of knowing that he goes to strip clubs,drinks, has

bad friends,no job,etc.It's true " Love is Blind " .

>

> But when time came to prove his words,he decided to marry the girl his parents

chose for him.When I confronted him regarding this matter,he abused me verbally

and physically.He hit me a lot and used bad words for me.I was tormented

mentally with his actions.One fine day he went away to his parents for marriage

to another girl.Not only all this but he also spead rumors that I was

characterless among his friends and that anyone could sleep with me and do

anything with me.

>

> But there's a saying " behind every cloud there is a silver lining " ,I got job

in a very good company just one week after he left.I was under the wrong

impression that my life would become hell if he left me,nobody would respect me

in society,everybody would talk about me,etc.But after he left me everything was

quite opposite.Friends and family supported me.Neighbours started coming to my

house and offered me a lot of help.I realised I was so happy without him.

>

> Later I came to know the girl to whom he was about to get married broke the

marriage because he was jobless.He tried to contact me,but I never turned back

and looked at him.

>

> As a woman and as your sister,I have one thing to tell you...It's time to take

your stand!!!

>

> Try to get a job as teacher in some school..Three years is a long time to wait

for someone.

>

> Don't let your life stand still.Keep moving forward!!!

>

> Don't let any " dork " take control of your life..Life is very short...Live life

to the fullest...

>

> In short give him final " Ultimatum " if he doesnt listen then kick his ass and

move on

>

> --- On Thu, 4/9/09, Raja <desi.raja > wrote:

>

> Raja <desi.raja >

>

> Re: want to take divorce when i will get- plz some more queries

>

>

>

> Thursday, April 9, 2009, 12:31 AM

>

> Hello Smt. Malhotra ji,

>

> You must have heard the phrase - " Nari tu Narayani " means nari is a form of

narayani. Nari (Female) is able to do anything of might, reverse the unhappy

marriage and make it happy one is small thing. I will strongly advise you should

do that rather than relying on any advise on cyber forum to break up your

marriage.

>

> Do you know for sure what will be your future after the divorce? No jyotish

can predict that for sure. will you be able to remarry someone who can provide

you every happyness in the world? I strongly doubt it. Divorce in our SAMAJ is a

stigma especially for females and they end up suffering more in post-divorce. If

you yourself will give up then no one will help you. Do not expect any miracle

from your relatives or friends, they are ready to see you divorced so they can

talk about you. Only you will suffer therefor i will say that You must take

charge of situation and improve things.

>

> As an elder brother, I would strongly advise against this divorce. Yeh khayal

hi dimag se nikal de aap. You should clean your mind of any doubts, sit down

with your husband, communicate with each other, take a week vacation with him,

do things that he likes, cook food he loves, help your in-laws, invite them to

your house often, patch up with him to the best, create circumstances such that

he has to feel good about you and he'll be back to you, create an environment of

trust and love, talk to him about starting family - having kids etc and

everything will work out for good.

>

> There are no established formula for divorce, no predictions are sure

prediction. Marital ups-downs were there even for Mahadev and Narayana, we are

mere humans. As a woman, you should be able to control circumstances and your

husband too. I am trusting you to convert this situation and reverse whole thing

in your happy marital favor. Please rethink whole thing.

>

> Pray to Ma Durga and your marriage will be a success, one day you will thank

me.

>

> May Ma Durga bless you.

>

> -Raja

>

> , Honey malhotra <lotus7755@ ....>

wrote:

>

> > thanks vatteji , prashant ji , harry nathani ji,

>

> > thank u for spending valuable time for me. but some final queries plz help

me.

>

> > kya mera divorce destined hai. yani hone he wala hai. yani ho jayega. kyoki

mere parents are not supporting neither my in laws are not taking interst in our

matter. aab mai to sirf ek ek din nikal rahi hoo as i m fully dependent

finacially. so main steps nahi le sakti. so what i want to know ki kya mera

divorce hona likha hai kya. jaise kayi ghatnaye hum na soche ya kuch na kare to

bhi ho jata hai. usi tarah doivirce bhi use duartion main hona hi hai kyo graha

dasha supportive hai is liye ho jayega kya.

>

> > i think meri mental situation and real situation aap log samaz rahe honge.

aur main kya jana chati hoon woh bhi aap sab samaz rahe honge. abt my husbands

contact with that lady it is confirmed that he is still having physical

relations with that lady and they are committed to each other. and he is take

all responsibilities of that lady just like husband.

>

> > they had done abortion 4 yrs back before our marriage. due to family matters

and problems that girl was not accepted by my in laws.

>

> > but now they are still having relations. he is living here but he is

investing his mony and time with that girl only. so

>

> > i dont think i will get back him . so i m worried abt my future. but meri

himmat nahi kadm uthane ki. aab karan jo bhi ho. isliye mai chati hoo ki ye

ghatna ghat jaye aur situation aisi ho ki hamara divorce ho jaye.

>

> > aap sab plz samazne ki koshis karen main kya kahana chati hoo.

>

> > --- On Tue, 7/4/09, vattem krishnan <bursar_99@ ..> wrote:

>

> > vattem krishnan <bursar_99@ ..>

>

> > Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

>

> >

>

> > Tuesday, 7 April, 2009, 12:16 AM

>

> > Honey ji,

>

> > if we analyse the chart of your husband we find:

>

> > his maraigw ith you is by choice and in his 7th there is jupiter 7th as lord

of 5th in retrograde state.

>

> > An agressive approach and with sun in lagna in own sign and mars along with

mercury.

>

> > lagna raising in venus nakshtra and with venus posited in 12th he has his

own ways of finding pleasure and has no holds for him.

>

> > Lord of 7th is aspecting saturn in dhana sthana in an airy sign.For him

money is not an issue and can get along with any body easily.

>

> > His moon in dhanishta in 6th and venus in 7th too indicates that his spouse

will be for sake of havin pleasent time.

>

> > About his having child,I have my own doubts as his 5th is aspected by saturn

and dispositor jupiter in 7th.

>

> > Iam not sure whether you have verifed his contacts and proximity to other

woman and he certainly belongs to a different class and community.

>

> > Now about your taking divorce,I do not think he will have any objection.and

by all means by the end of sept 2009,you can get divorce.

>

> > It is doubtful he goes in for another marriage.and even he is not having any

contentment in his own house

>

> > vrkrishnan

>

> >

>

> > --- On Mon, 4/6/09, Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in> wrote:

>

> >

>

> > Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

>

> > Re: want to take divorce when i will get- with my husbands

details

>

> >

>

> > Monday, April 6, 2009, 1:08 PM

>

> >

>

> > for replying me soon.

>

> > more that i want to tell

>

> > my husbands details are

>

> > 31/8/1974

>

> > time - 6.35 am

>

> > latitude,longitude - 21 10 n 75 34

>

> > he is already having his relations with other lady since last 7 yrs. had

abortion done. cares nothing abt me . he even doent expect me to do . not even

talks with me ask nothing. no outing. he never comes with me out at my parents

place or any other place. he never talked with be even not at the time of

marriage or before marriage.

>

> > i think he was forced to do so.

>

> > please study our kundali and suggest

>

> > for reference my details are

>

> > my birth details are as follows

>

> > birth date - 10/9/80

>

> > time 10 pm

>

> > place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

>

> >

>

> > givin latititude and longitude of erandol

>

> > lat 20 55 0 N

>

> > lon 75 19 60 E

>

> > --- On Mon, 6/4/09, Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar > wrote:

>

> > Prashant Kumar G B <gbp_kumar >

>

> > Re: want to take divorce when i will get- 6/4

>

> >

>

> > Monday, 6 April, 2009, 6:37 PM

>

> >

>

> > Malhotra,

>

> > I remember ur post and good u said that data was wrong, but hope this is the

right one also.

>

> > the period between 14/4/09 to 13/4/09 is the earliest u can think of

seperation in this 9/3 to 11/5/10 is best suited for it, so till then be patient

and try to win him back-give him a chance as u have for the past 3 yrs,,,!

>

> > prayers to any form of shikthi will pave the right direction for u,

>

> > Best wishes

>

> > Prashant

>

> > I use B V Raman's Ayanamsa only so Dasa, Vargas, Dates will differ from non

Raman's. Pl provide important dates in ur life while posting to verify ur birth

data and to help Lagna verification provide a picture in the Pictures folder in

the group either in the Lagna/rasi one or unknown folder. Consultations outside

the group or to my personal ID are chargeable. see Database section in the group

for more.- G B Prashant Kumar Life Member ICAS.

>

> > http://groups. / group/Jyotish_ Remedies/ database?

method=reportRow s & tbl=6

>

> > ____________ _________ _________ __

>

> > Honey malhotra <lotus7755 (AT) (DOT) co.in>

>

> >

>

> > Monday, April 6, 2009 5:00:06 PM

>

> > want to take divorce when i will get

>

> > respected gurujis

>

> > i m sunita

>

> > my birth details are as follows

>

> > birth date - 10/9/80

>

> > time 10 pm

>

> > place village near erandol in maharashtra (salva)

>

> >

>

> > givin latititude and longitude of erandol

>

> > lat 20 55 0 N

>

> > lon 75 19 60 E

>

> > actually i m fed up with my husband. he is not good to me.

>

> > he is having affair with another lady. may be having children out side...

living out side. No physical relations with me since marrige. we are just living

at one place without any relationship. now i want tio leave hm because after 3

yrs also there is no change in his behavior.

>

> > plz help me.

>

> > last time i furnished wrong details. actually these are the correct one that

i got from my parents.

>

>