Guest guest Posted April 22, 2010 Report Share Posted April 22, 2010 I have always been muchos intrigued by this very impressive and rather subduing term, " Decorum! " What does it actually mean? How can it be clearly defined and conveyed to the 'great unwashed'? Anyone...? Rohiniranjan , suresh Hattangadi <hattangadi_suresh wrote: > > Dear Mr Raj Rao, > It is a pleasure to read these rules.For a long time I have observed that members abused others on the forum.There was utter lack of respect for decorum.I welcome your suggested rules.Thank you. > > Suresh Hattangadi > > --- On Tue, 4/20/10, jyotishi <raj wrote: > > jyotishi <raj > Moderation > > Tuesday, April 20, 2010, 2:38 PM > > Here are the proposed rules to be followed in this forum. > > 1. You will not abuse, belittle, insult or threaten any other forum member. > > 2. You will not post messages that are pornographic in nature or offer to sell products not relevant to this forum. > > 3. You will not create multiple > identities or disguise your identity as somebody else while registering or posting on this forum. > > 4. You will treat all members with respect, irrespective of your opinion about them. > > 5. You will not post messages that are socially or politically sensitive and are not relevant to the study or practice of Astrology. > > 6. You will not invite the members of this forum to other groups/websites that are not relevant to Astrology. > > 7. You may promote other astrology resources like books, software, reports, Panchangas etc. with the consent of the Moderator. The Moderator may recommend special labels to be affixed for such messages and may disallow any promotion at his discretion. > > 8. You will not seek fees for answering astrological queries of members in this forum. > > 9. You will not form groups within this forum to cause any harm or aggravation to the members of this forum. > > 10. You will at all times maintain > peace and harmony in the forum and shall not post messages that may hurt the feelings of other members. > > Let me know what you think. > > warm regards, > raj rao > Your Humble Moderator > > > > > > --- > > visit http://www.astrolife.com for horoscopes,expert services, remedies and more Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2010 Report Share Posted April 22, 2010 Dear Rohini, To my mind 'decorum' in the context of an internet based forum is nothing but 'minimum expected social behavior'. Here are some gems I have gathered from my experience: a) Calmness - Internet being an impersonal medium, anger management is absolutely critical before posting a message. I can literally feel the heat in some of the messages and quietly pray for the person. b) Respect - Without a detailed profile of the person in front of you, you may trash a person's lifetime achievement and respect in society with a few lines of impolite and disrespectful message. If you can communicate well, you can cause great damage to a person's self-respect. I have seen many stalwarts beating a hasty retreat from Internet fora. c) Clarity - Since it is so easy to post a message, we tend to create a new post or add a comment without any clarity in our mind, which is immediately seen and adversely commented by others. But, it is hard to accept 'defeat' and we end up defending the indefensible. Which results in flame wars. d) Brevity - We are living in an attention deficit world. 160 character is max we can digest at a time. So, very long posts with multiple concepts, detailed case studies and cross referencing of content is less likely to be read and understood. Instead, a brief summary with link to files or a web page for further reading is likely to elicit far better response. (I know this post is getting long...!) e) Organization - It is necessary to organize our posts for others. Reply to a thread rather than creating new threads for the same subject. Search before you create a new topic. Add background if possible to put the thoughts in context. I hope this helps. warm regards, raj rao , " rohinicrystal " <jyotish_vani wrote: > > I have always been muchos intrigued by this very impressive and rather subduing term, " Decorum! " > > What does it actually mean? How can it be clearly defined and conveyed to the 'great unwashed'? > > Anyone...? > > Rohiniranjan > > , suresh Hattangadi <hattangadi_suresh@> wrote: > > > > Dear Mr Raj Rao, > > It is a pleasure to read these rules.For a long time I have observed that members abused others on the forum.There was utter lack of respect for decorum.I welcome your suggested rules.Thank you. > > > > Suresh Hattangadi > > > > --- On Tue, 4/20/10, jyotishi <raj@> wrote: > > > > jyotishi <raj@> > > Moderation > > > > Tuesday, April 20, 2010, 2:38 PM > > > > Here are the proposed rules to be followed in this forum. > > > > 1. You will not abuse, belittle, insult or threaten any other forum member. > > > > 2. You will not post messages that are pornographic in nature or offer to sell products not relevant to this forum. > > > > 3. You will not create multiple > > identities or disguise your identity as somebody else while registering or posting on this forum. > > > > 4. You will treat all members with respect, irrespective of your opinion about them. > > > > 5. You will not post messages that are socially or politically sensitive and are not relevant to the study or practice of Astrology. > > > > 6. You will not invite the members of this forum to other groups/websites that are not relevant to Astrology. > > > > 7. You may promote other astrology resources like books, software, reports, Panchangas etc. with the consent of the Moderator. The Moderator may recommend special labels to be affixed for such messages and may disallow any promotion at his discretion. > > > > 8. You will not seek fees for answering astrological queries of members in this forum. > > > > 9. You will not form groups within this forum to cause any harm or aggravation to the members of this forum. > > > > 10. You will at all times maintain > > peace and harmony in the forum and shall not post messages that may hurt the feelings of other members. > > > > Let me know what you think. > > > > warm regards, > > raj rao > > Your Humble Moderator > > > > > > > > > > > > --- > > > > visit http://www.astrolife.com for horoscopes,expert services, remedies and more Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2010 Report Share Posted April 22, 2010 Thanks Raj! What you have shared so kindly, I would call 'Civility'! I would still, with your kind indulgence, wait to hear from Mr. Suresh Hattangadi, to learn what he exactly meant when he used the term decorum. I must point out that in sharing your " gems " , the item (d) was something I would like you to read again and I wonder where it would fall on the scale of decorum! :-) ********************************* d) Brevity - We are living in an attention deficit world. 160 character is max we can digest at a time. So, very long posts with multiple concepts, detailed case studies and cross referencing of content is less likely to be read and understood. Instead, a brief summary with link to files or a web page for further reading is likely to elicit far better response. (I know this post is getting long...!) ********************************* Some like it 'small' others not! Size is not everything or even the same to everyone, as they say! Actually, it is very easy to avoid personal anguish, some general suggestions and recommendations: = Do not expect that the world would turn exactly as you would wish it to! = Avoid walking against the traffic/norm even if you are sure they are going the WRONG way! = If you stumble too often and end up crying, there are courses and self-education available to improve your communication and to reduce your sensitivity (and other neuroses) = Do not focus on those who antagonize you, but derive your strength and be thankful for those who do not! = Always look for the positive in those who you consider or view as your enemies and irritants! They are reaching out to get your attention, but they do not have the specifics or answers! YOU are the one who can probe and find that, for your own benefit! But give them a chance to explain. If you piss them off, they stop communicating and you end up losing the opportunity :-) Regards, Rohiniranjan , " jyotishi " <raj wrote: > > Dear Rohini, > To my mind 'decorum' in the context of an internet based forum is nothing but 'minimum expected social behavior'. Here are some gems I have gathered from my experience: > > a) Calmness - Internet being an impersonal medium, anger management is absolutely critical before posting a message. I can literally feel the heat in some of the messages and quietly pray for the person. > > b) Respect - Without a detailed profile of the person in front of you, you may trash a person's lifetime achievement and respect in society with a few lines of impolite and disrespectful message. If you can communicate well, you can cause great damage to a person's self-respect. I have seen many stalwarts beating a hasty retreat from Internet fora. > > c) Clarity - Since it is so easy to post a message, we tend to create a new post or add a comment without any clarity in our mind, which is immediately seen and adversely commented by others. But, it is hard to accept 'defeat' and we end up defending the indefensible. Which results in flame wars. > > d) Brevity - We are living in an attention deficit world. 160 character is max we can digest at a time. So, very long posts with multiple concepts, detailed case studies and cross referencing of content is less likely to be read and understood. Instead, a brief summary with link to files or a web page for further reading is likely to elicit far better response. (I know this post is getting long...!) > > e) Organization - It is necessary to organize our posts for others. Reply to a thread rather than creating new threads for the same subject. Search before you create a new topic. Add background if possible to put the thoughts in context. > > I hope this helps. > > warm regards, > raj rao > > , " rohinicrystal " <jyotish_vani@> wrote: > > > > I have always been muchos intrigued by this very impressive and rather subduing term, " Decorum! " > > > > What does it actually mean? How can it be clearly defined and conveyed to the 'great unwashed'? > > > > Anyone...? > > > > Rohiniranjan > > > > , suresh Hattangadi <hattangadi_suresh@> wrote: > > > > > > Dear Mr Raj Rao, > > > It is a pleasure to read these rules.For a long time I have observed that members abused others on the forum.There was utter lack of respect for decorum.I welcome your suggested rules.Thank you. > > > > > > Suresh Hattangadi > > > > > > --- On Tue, 4/20/10, jyotishi <raj@> wrote: > > > > > > jyotishi <raj@> > > > Moderation > > > > > > Tuesday, April 20, 2010, 2:38 PM > > > > > > Here are the proposed rules to be followed in this forum. > > > > > > 1. You will not abuse, belittle, insult or threaten any other forum member. > > > > > > 2. You will not post messages that are pornographic in nature or offer to sell products not relevant to this forum. > > > > > > 3. You will not create multiple > > > identities or disguise your identity as somebody else while registering or posting on this forum. > > > > > > 4. You will treat all members with respect, irrespective of your opinion about them. > > > > > > 5. You will not post messages that are socially or politically sensitive and are not relevant to the study or practice of Astrology. > > > > > > 6. You will not invite the members of this forum to other groups/websites that are not relevant to Astrology. > > > > > > 7. You may promote other astrology resources like books, software, reports, Panchangas etc. with the consent of the Moderator. The Moderator may recommend special labels to be affixed for such messages and may disallow any promotion at his discretion. > > > > > > 8. You will not seek fees for answering astrological queries of members in this forum. > > > > > > 9. You will not form groups within this forum to cause any harm or aggravation to the members of this forum. > > > > > > 10. You will at all times maintain > > > peace and harmony in the forum and shall not post messages that may hurt the feelings of other members. > > > > > > Let me know what you think. > > > > > > warm regards, > > > raj rao > > > Your Humble Moderator > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --- > > > > > > visit http://www.astrolife.com for horoscopes,expert services, remedies and more Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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