Marriage problems

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..Dear Sirs,

 

I am a victim of my own attitude but what to do I am like that and

not able to help. So, I request you all to guide me and give me

corrective remedies.

 

This has become the most serious issue of my life and I am on the

brink of breaking down. I got married to Shweta on 29th June 2006

and from that day till today there has not been a single day of

peace among us. The problem is mostly from my side. We got engaged

in March 2006 and from that time when I first met her in Mumbai; I

was not attracted towards her. There was no feeling of attraction.

Whenever I met her I felt she is not the one. She never appealed to

me. But I did not have the guts to break engagement also thinking

that things will improve.

 

We got married but after 2 days only I had negative feelings towards

her. The main thing was her complexion. I am a kind of person who

likes Fair girls. I don't know why I said yes for marriage but I

have realized this fact that fair/white girl was so very important

in my life. Please don't take it otherwise but I am telling you my

correct feelings. She is not as fair as I am infact she is not fair

at all. Over and above I never like her personality, posture, the

way she walk and the way she talk. Though we married but I always

used to comment. Our whole honeymoon was spoilt. I have never given

her respect of wife neither I have loved her. Though I have tried to

change myself but my focus never shifts from all these things and I

end up commenting on her thinking she will improve some day. But 9

months have gone and till date we never have good married life. And

now it's like on the rocks. We have started fighting on continuous

basis and personal life is becoming totally absurd.

 

Many a time I have told her to get separated and she also agrees but

I don't have the guts for that also. The family set up and society

is like that and infact I also want to give up chance but the thing

is when there is no attraction from day one and I don't love her,

respect her as a person she is how will we live together. From her

side she tried initially to change as per me but things don't change

if she is wheatish in complexion she will remain the same. Now she

is also irritated and fed up with my behavior. Apart from a couple

of attitude problem and high temper she is a good person.

 

Sir this is snapshot of what's going on in one aspect of my life

though it has still not surfaced and all the things are happening in

four walls of our room. Though I am under control but she is getting

affected emotionally.

 

 

As of now things are very bad and we are fighting on a regular

basis. Thing is very simple. She expects a lot of love, respect from

me which I am not been able to. Believe me sir, even when I go out

with her I am not comfortable. What shall I do now? I cant change

her – the way she is, her color complexion, the way she walks, she

talks, the way she take things in life, her attitude. I have

problems with everything. She fights on small comments on her. I

know that I am not doing justice to her and that's why she might be

behaving. She never compromises on anything. Only one thing is she

is not bad.

 

Is there any remedy/solution like Puja, Vrata, Gems any sort of

things which will make things better among us. Please suggest remedy

for both of us. What can make her attractive to me? Please suggest

sirs. I never expected my married life will be come hell like this.

Why is this happening to me?

 

Vivek

10th July 1978

Maunath Bhanjan

18.40

 

Shweta ( wife)

7th March 1982

Kalyan

9.40 am