Please help me

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Respected Jyothish Gurus,

 

I write this with a heavy heart. My wife and I (with our 1.5 year

old son) currently reside in U.S. This is my second marriage (2004)

and my previous wife and I divorced (decree in 2003, first marriage

in 1998). There was no issue from the first marriage. I am the

only child to my elderly parents (father 77 and mother 67) who are

currently visiting me in U.S. They, having been through the pain of

my difficult first marriage 5+ years ago, are now seeing me suffer

again with my wife's lack of patience and hurtful words/actions.

She mistrusts me and my parents and constantly finds faults over

simple matters. My parents mean everything to me and they are

simple-minded loving folks who want both me and my wife to live

together happily. They actually willingly do cooking and other

household work to make our lives easiler as my wife and I are both

working. My wife never appreciates them. My needs are simple but

what I am unable to bear is my wife's constant impatience, blind

partiality towards her own kin to the extent of covering all their

faults but making big issues out of even trivial matters when it

comes to me or my parents. We all love the blessed child that was

born to us, now 1.5 years old (the child has an excellent horoscope

as per a well-known South Indian Astrologer). So, I am committed to

providing the best family environment for my child's sake. However,

I am often deeply hurt by my wife's words, impatient actions and

attitude.

 

How long will my mental agony last? Will my wife understand me and

my parents and start to show love and respect? Is there any remedy

(pariharams) I should consider? Since I am going through the middle

2.5 year phase of 7.5 year sani period (my rashi is Simham), I

initially thought this is the reason for my troubles. However, a

reputed astrologer said Sani is a " subha graham " in my horoscope, so

even during Sade-Sati period, Sani should not trouble me much.

Both my wife and my full birth details are given below. Please help

me find mental peace in my marital life. I have started to chant

Sri. Vishnu Sahasranama to achieve peace of mind.

 

MYSELF

Birth November 12, 1971

Birth Time: 8:30:00 am

Time Zone: 5:30:00 (East of GMT)

Place: 80 E 17' 00 " , 13 N 05' 00 "

Chennai, India

Lunar Yr-Mo: Virodha-krit - Karthika

Tithi: Krishna Dasami

Vedic Weekday: Friday

Nakshatra: Poorva Phalguni

 

WIFE

Birth June 29, 1973

Birth Time: 8:57:00 pm

Time Zone: 5:30:00 (East of GMT)

Place: 80 E 17' 00 " , 13 N 05' 00 "

Chennai, India

Lunar Yr-Mo: Pramadi - Jyeshtha

Tithi: Amavasya

Vedic Weekday: Friday

Nakshatra: Mrigasira