Messy married life - help me come out please

[Guest guest]

Hi,

 

I got married on 29th June, 2006 and since then or rather only after my

engagement in March, 2006 there has been serious problems in our married life.

The problems are mainly because I never developed a liking for her and get a

repulsive feeling whenever I see her. Infact I avoid seeing her also. I never

feel attracted to her and always find complaints. Yes it is true that she is not

what I always looked for in a wife neither in terms of looks, attitude or mental

compatibility.

 

I may sound a bit non-sensical but I am sharing frankly so that I can get right

guidance. I will request all Gurujis to read this in the right spirit and after

walking into my shoes.

 

Basically I think i always wanted a good looking, fair complexion and beautiful

girl for myself. I also wanted a girl who can perform all family rituals etc

properly. This was one of the criteria while we were looking for a girl for

marriage. Somehow I dont know these days with make up and all in arranged

marriage ypu dont get to know

much while meeting prospects for a very short time. After meeting her for an

hour or so I just said yes. After that we got engaged next day and she went for

her hometowm. when i visited her hometown, my problems started and I realized I

made a wrong decision. But didn't have the guts to break the engagement due to

many reasons. After that we got married also and now more than 3 years, you will

not know how each day passes. Really speaking you will not believe how I am

handling but this has been the biggest blow and disaster in my life. Something i

never expected.

 

Its not that I have not tried. I have tried a lot and infact still trying. I

want to change but this is a fix. We met doctors as well. Infact I have

constantly tried to influence her by asking her to maintain herself/go to

gym,clinics etc etc but now she reacts and doesn't bother. But I think it has to

come naturally. Otherwise we will keep fighting.

 

Now we are expecting our 1st child in November as well. And I am really for

myself that still I dont have a strong liking. And thats the reason may be I am

not taking care of her to the extent it is required. Here again, please try and

understand my whole problem and relate in that perspective.

 

Request all your feedback and guidance/suggestions/remedies to come out of this.

I am open for doing anything that can change me or her or whatever it takes to.

But really need help as this is completely spoiling our personal and future

life. I dont know if there are other cases like this but this is a real

situation.

 

Please guide me with a right answer and if you can throw some light on why all

this hapened to me. I am really helpless.

 

 

Thanks & Regards,

 

My birth details

10th July 1978

19.34.10

Maunath Bhanjan (25.57N, 83.33E)

 

Wife

7th March 1982,

10.40

Kalyan

[Guest guest]

Dear Vivluv

 

 

 

I do not understand why are u sending an emotional mail when u r already

committed in ur marriage and also having children from this marriage.

 

 

 

No doubt the chart of u & ur wife are not matching, u should hv taken a

decision long back on whether u want to continue in this marital alliance.

Now that ur wife is already pregnant and she is going to deliver the child,

why think in terms of breaking this marriage. If u were not happy with this

marriage then u should have never had made ur wife pregnant.

 

 

 

Ur chart says that lord of ur body and mind are in 8th house hence not

capable of thinking something good in life. Ur intelligence lord is in ur

7th house hence u r looking to try & compromise. If u hv got married to a

person who is not upto ur expectations then this is a strong indication of

ur past karmas with ur present wife. There are certain pending and

unfinished karmas with ur wife which u hv to spent ur life with her. U need

to accept God's will.

 

 

 

Currently ur rahu maha dahsa has stared and this will last for 18 yrs. Any

decision of separation from ur current wife does not guarentees that the

future wife will be good to u or not. Rahu maha dahsa has the capability to

give an illusion to a person to do wrong things.

 

 

 

Yes ur chart does supports second marriage but with no marital bliss in any

marriage.

 

 

 

Hence rather getting emotional and complaining about ur marital relationship

it will be advisable if u sit with a cool mind and accept God's will and

abide and seek God's mercy in showing u a way to solve ur problems

 

 

 

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Sunday, November 01, 2009 9:12 AM

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[vedic astrology] Messy married life - help me come out please

 

 

 

 

 

Hi,

 

I got married on 29th June, 2006 and since then or rather only after my

engagement in March, 2006 there has been serious problems in our married

life. The problems are mainly because I never developed a liking for her and

get a repulsive feeling whenever I see her. Infact I avoid seeing her also.

I never feel attracted to her and always find complaints. Yes it is true

that she is not what I always looked for in a wife neither in terms of

looks, attitude or mental compatibility.

 

I may sound a bit non-sensical but I am sharing frankly so that I can get

right guidance. I will request all Gurujis to read this in the right spirit

and after walking into my shoes.

 

Basically I think i always wanted a good looking, fair complexion and

beautiful girl for myself. I also wanted a girl who can perform all family

rituals etc properly. This was one of the criteria while we were looking for

a girl for marriage. Somehow I dont know these days with make up and all in

arranged marriage ypu dont get to know

much while meeting prospects for a very short time. After meeting her for an

hour or so I just said yes. After that we got engaged next day and she went

for her hometowm. when i visited her hometown, my problems started and I

realized I made a wrong decision. But didn't have the guts to break the

engagement due to many reasons. After that we got married also and now more

than 3 years, you will not know how each day passes. Really speaking you

will not believe how I am handling but this has been the biggest blow and

disaster in my life. Something i never expected.

 

Its not that I have not tried. I have tried a lot and infact still trying. I

want to change but this is a fix. We met doctors as well. Infact I have

constantly tried to influence her by asking her to maintain herself/go to

gym,clinics etc etc but now she reacts and doesn't bother. But I think it

has to come naturally. Otherwise we will keep fighting.

 

Now we are expecting our 1st child in November as well. And I am really for

myself that still I dont have a strong liking. And thats the reason may be I

am not taking care of her to the extent it is required. Here again, please

try and understand my whole problem and relate in that perspective.

 

Request all your feedback and guidance/suggestions/remedies to come out of

this. I am open for doing anything that can change me or her or whatever it

takes to. But really need help as this is completely spoiling our personal

and future life. I dont know if there are other cases like this but this is

a real situation.

 

Please guide me with a right answer and if you can throw some light on why

all this hapened to me. I am really helpless.

 

Thanks & Regards,

 

My birth details

10th July 1978

19.34.10

Maunath Bhanjan (25.57N, 83.33E)

 

Wife

7th March 1982,

10.40

Kalyan

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Thanks for yr mail Guruji. My idea of writing this mail was not to create an

emotional scene but given all the facts and current situation i was seeking a

remedy/solution from all learned Gurus so that life can be made better. I was

not trying to get away with the situation but was seeking some hidden answers. I

am sure this is was destiny has to offer but as far as i understand certainly

astrology can help in dealing with the crisis.

 

Please correct me if i am wrong. Thanks again for your feedback and suggestions

sir. Those will definitely help me.

 

regards,