FW: [Vaideekam] Ceremony

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Dear Swamin

Ideal conditions when the time, place and the materials are normally and readily available, the Saastras can and should be followed scrupulously and there can be no relaxations or exceptions.

 

But, the questioner has stated some constraints under which he was not able to perform Shraddha when due and asks if there is any parihaaram for the lapse.

 

Saastras may be strict about anushTaanams during ideal conditions, but they are infinitely merciful - in fact more merciful than a thousand mothers when the child is smarting under difficult circumstances.

 

For example, many of us EVEN IN INDIA have had to face at sometime or other -

 

(i) absence of Brahmanas qualified and willing to accept nimantraNams (involving as it does, the recital of Gayatri to the tune of upto 30000 times as the case may be)

(ii) sickness of the karthaa

(iii) BahishTai of the yajamaani of the home who is prohibited from cooking or participating in Oupasana karyams (apportioning rice)

(iv) Non availability of ingredients and other infrastructure basically needed for observing Shraddha etc.

(v) As you have rightly mentioned, when one is under pollution (TheeTTu)

 

I have heard during AnushTaana Grantha KaalakshEpams under eminent Achaaryas that in such circumstances, the kartha can and should perform the Shraddha on the SAME PAKSHAM and THITHI occuring in the next month, the bottomline being it cannot be given up.

 

May I request Swamin to clarify the correct position in such cases?

 

NOTE: No doubt, there are people who take shelter under exceptions and excuses for NOT DOING than following the rules. We are not talking about them!

 

Dasoham

Anbil Ramaswamy

 

 

 

 

 

vaideekam ; vrarbaabuFrom: vaideekamDate: Fri, 29 May 2009 21:45:41 +0530Re: [Vaideekam] Re: Ceremony

***Tarpanams are to be done on the prescriebed punya kaala dates.Shastra is very very keen about the time of doing the shraaddha and hence thedefining of Shraaddha thithi is very difficult.The shraaddha thithi is shifted to next day if the next day is having few more seconds thithi durationis present in the next day's shraaddha (kutapa) kaalam.As the fact and importance is like this we can not just like that postpone are prepone the shraaddha datefor our convenience.Shastram instructs, one can even cry and leave two hand full of water with some sesame seeds in the ground to express his inability for not able to do the shraaddham of his parents. Not suggesting some other day for any reason, except theetu!Note:- This is the first message sending to the group using the new laptop purchased with the contribution of some of our honourable members. My heartiest thanks for all especially to Dr.Sadagopan.nvs

2009/5/29 Dr.V.Sadagopan <yennappan

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sri:

 

Dear Sri Ramesh Babu :

 

Please join Vaideekam moderated by

Bruhaspathy NVS Swamy of Chennai . Please send email

to him thru the group mail or private mail and he will

help you with the right way to handle this situation during

your visit to India .

 

Best wishes ,

V.Sadagopan

 

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vra ramesh baabu

vijayaraghavan_s ;

Friday, May 29, 2009 4:43 AM

Ceremony

 

 

 

 

 

 

Respected Bhagavathas,

 

Om Namo Narayanaya Namaha

 

Adiyen VRA Ramesh Baabu dasan,

 

Vinnappam..

 

I am working in Dubai for the last 3 years. I have not performed my parent's ceremony as would have been

performed in chennai. But I have done tharpanam in dubai on ceremony days.

 

I need your guidence, whether the ceremony will be performed in any particular day other than the ceremony days or any other means to perform without my presence.

 

Myself going to chennai on 04.06.09 and returning on 03.07.09 to dubai.

 

I request your guidance to for performing the ceremony any day during my above said vacation (from 05.06.09 to 02.07.09).

 

I would request respected Bhagavathls to guide me in this subject.

 

Adiyan Vra Ramesh Baabu