Is it true that anybody who has lost their near ones should not worship in a

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Vasu Vadyar Avagalukku Namaskaram

 

Your explanation on the subject is very opt and clear.

May I add practical things that our periavas considered. May be my

explanation is adigaprasangam but Ifeel this holds good.

Unlike our priod our fore fathers lived in a Kootu kudumbam and if

they have to travel they had to do so my foot or by any other means

available at that time. While travelling one may have to perform the

monthly rituals of th parted soul.This may be inconvenient as one can

not expect the same kind of fecility and acharam out side the house t

do the kainkaryams.

Because of this reason our fore fathers avoided goin on Dheertha yatra

during the 12 motnhs after the dweath of the near ones.

Kindly pardon me for the adikaprasangam nad hurt your feelings.

 

Dasan

C.S.Desikan

 

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Dear Mr.C.S.Desikan, and all members:

Kindly avoid words like " Adkiaprasangam " and send messages without any guilty or

complex.

We should not think that Rushis were not know about the future while making the

sastras. We should take all the reasons which help us to keep the sastram and we

should leave all others. Whatever be the reason Sastram is Sastram which can not

be left.

nvs

 

vaideekam , Maha Devan <maha302 wrote:

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> Respected Vasu Vadhyar,

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> Thanks a lot.

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> It's very clear to me.

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> What is so amazing is the speed at which you have replied to my

mail. It's almost coming back from a computer. Really amazing.

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> Thank you very much.

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> Pranams

> Maha

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> Maha Devan <maha302 wrote:

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> Respected Vasu Vadhyar,

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> Pranams !

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> My name is Mahadevan. I am a silent reader of the vaideekam group's

mails. Really appreciate your knowledge in our customs and the pain

you take in answering hundreds of questions. Hats off to you.

>

> May God Bless You !

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> I have a doubt. Normally if a death happens, the near ones are

advised not to visit any temple for one year. What do you think about

this custom ?

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> In fact, everybody is adivised to go to the temple on the 13th day

and after that they are not supposed to go for one year. I really

don't understand as to if they can go on the 13th day, why not after

that ?

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> From another angle - I think, the visit to a temple gives you peace

of mind and while you are in some agony that's exactly when you need

to visit a temple and if that's banned for someone who is feeling the

agony of the loss of a dear one - I feel it's a little cruel.

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> Please let me know what you think about this.

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> With Respects

> Maha

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> *** Dear Mr.Mahadevan,

> I bow down to accept your blessings.

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> What your feeling about the matter is correct. But there is no

restriction to go to temple after 12th day ceremony. If anybody

insists you can ignore it.

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> Some of my views for futher knowledge about it :-

> God is not avoiding the 'theetu person' - we assume it. But humans

are required to do Bhagavath Kaaryams with some Madi & Aacharam as per

Sastram and as per custom.

> When we do some pooja, do we allow a person with theetu? We think

that they are disturbing us and our pooja.

> 'Not disturbing others is better than doing a pooja'. Using this

logic the theetu person should not go to the temple for that period

while he is performing a theetu kaaryam.

> Kovils are maintained uneder some special Agama rules, as per that

rule also theetu persons should not enter the temple.

> Let it be.

> Now we have to decide the theetu period for human which is very well

defined in Sastras and Prayogas.

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> As per Sastras : Brahmins are doing the funerial ceremony upto 12

days and non brahmins are ending it on the 16th day. So, theetu period

also has come to end on that 12th / 16th day.

> So no man is considered as a theetu person after that and he is

eligible to go to temple and have dharshan but some other restrictions

are there for the main Karthas as per Sastras.

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> Note:- All these things have been already well clarified in Tamil by

me an year before.

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> As per sastras the 12th day Kainkaryam (Sapindee karanam) should be

done only on the exact thithi and month which will occur after one

year. But it is prephoned by Sastram itself by considering the

longivity of the Kartha for one year. So, they allowed the kartha to

complete it on 12th day onwords (on any convenient day). After the

completion of the 12th day ceremony he will get relief only from the

theetu. But he is not eligible for doing any punya karyams upto the

end of that one year.

> If a person go to a temple he may wish to do all the things like :

Archanai, Mottai, Kaadhukuthal, Kalyana Uthsavam, Thirumanjanam etc.

etc. which will not yield any punyam for him. For this reason elders

are simply telling no need to go to temple for one year.

> After knowing this reason, the pp can go to any temple (including

Thirumala), can Take Shatari, Dheertham etc. etc. but no prarthanas

and archanas.

> regards,

> nvs

 

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