please clarify

[Guest guest]

My father passed away on the night of 22nd. sep. I m the only

daughter ; but I have 3 brothers. I want to know my duties and

obligations as a a daughter in performing his final rites, as he was a

ardent sishya of the Mutt and strict follower of all sampradayams.

 

kalyani

 

 

 

*** Participation in the kainkaryam upto subhasweekaram is the only thing you

have to do. If any festival takes place on any day on or after 4th day you

should not leave it and should do for the sake of your own family and children

atleast in a very simple manner.

 

If possible or if your health permits you can cook annam for nithyavidhi daily

or in possible days with the guidance of your Bruhaspathy.

 

There is a formality in many places that a daughter and or grand daugthters may

separately or combinedly do the required bhakshanams to distribute on the 10th

day.

 

Your husband (if you are a married woman) can sit in the 11th day or 12th day

kainkaryam in the place of " Pretha " varnam and do the pryaschithams as

described. (You could not expect others will do with this much of shradhdhai)

 

Keep in knowledge that wheather vaideekas and cooks are doing the duties with

shradhdhai to complete the kainkaryam in a good manner. For that ask the cooks

to do separate thaligai with separate group of cooks for both pithrus and

pretham. They should not evern touch this and that. Cooks are telling, gee and

some other things can be kept in common, I won't allow it. Nothing should be

kept in common.

Ask your brothers keep stomach empty till the end of daily karma.

 

This much only I rember to tell at present, but you can ask any number of

question for all your silly doubts regarding kaikaryam, I am ready to clarify

it.

nvs

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