[Vaideekam] last rites and masyams

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Dear Shri Vasu Vadhyar,

 

I may be wrong but still I want to give my opinion !

 

We are allowed to marry only once and if that is taken into consideration the

second one or any more after that, should not have the full rights as enjoyed by

the first wife.

 

If this is correct then the first wife has to accompany and be present to

complete the rituals.

 

Best Regards

K. Vasudevan

 

 

 

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I had given this points in the Dharmasastram,

please review.

If the second marriage is as per sastram, then the agni sharing will also be

done.

 

>>>(I heard that only the first wife has the right to accompany the

husband in all the vaideeka karmas? Even if she is not alive - the

second wife has no right to join her husband during Karma karyams)

>>>

It is very wrong.

If the second wife is having children, then she is having the full right to

accompany to do all vaideeka karmas of her children with her husband.

Also, always in naandhi constantly the vaakyam " Sapthni maadhu: pithru pithamaha

prapithamahebhyo nama: " is there to give equal part for her ancestors also.

 

 

If the jyeshta (former) pathni and the Kanishta (later) pathni are in the same

place, then the jyeshta pathni gets all the rights.

 

Otherwise the kanishta pathni also can have every rights.

 

But for masyams in all (rig, yajur, sama) vedhams there are procedures to do

chradham / masyam without pathni. Consult your bruhaspathi.

 

If the second marriage is not according to sastram, better leave the pathni some

where else and do vaideekams.

nvs

 

 

 

 

--- On Mon, 7/7/08, akkafrg <akkafrg wrote:

 

akkafrg <akkafrg

[Vaideekam] last rites and masyams

vaideekam

Monday, 7 July, 2008, 1:39 AM

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Moderator

 

One of my friend's father expired and last rites could not be done by

him as he was away and his mother's kai pul was bought and last rites

were done by one of his uncle. after that 10 to 14 days was

completed keeping his first wife.

 

For Masyams since he is doing it in his second wife's house she used

to be with him doing agnisanthanam and theertham brokshikkarathu.

 

Is it allowed by sasthram?

 

I heard that only the first wife has the right to accompany the

husband in all the vaideeka karmas? Even if she is not alive - the

second wife has no right to join her husband during Karma karyams

 

Can any one clarify this point.

As the abtheegam for his father is nearing, i am raising this

question - so that I can advise accordingly what to do if his 1st

wife is not willing to accompany him for performing varushabthigam

 

i would be thankful to have your advice

 

adiyen

 

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Started as " Moderator "

but in the middle " Can any one clarify this point " .

I wish to respect this sentence

so, I request members to send your opinions,

do not worry, it may right or wrong, finally I will give the extract of correct

answer.

nvs

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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