please any ideas?

[Guest guest]

Hi,

I sent a message before but it wasn't very clear and I got no answer. I tried to

think things over to try to put my question more clearly. Here it is: I am

looking for some kundalini practice (mantra, mudra, kryia) that could help me

with what I guess is excessive sensitivity which causes me to overreact when

confronted with difficulties, even small ones. I mean, I tend to react in a way

that is not proportional to the problem/issue (I feel WAY too much anger, fear,

sadness, etc, even when I can see there's no rational cause for that). Such

feelings become almost unmanageable in that I feel overwhelmed by them, and

often somehow paralized and unable to confront and deal with the original issue

that caused them, no matter how small those issues are.

I apologize if this message is a bit long and confuse.

I just like to add that due to my kundalini practice I have been experiencing

progress in many areas and I'm very happy with that. But this particular problem

doesn't seem to be improving. I am hopeful that there's some specific kundalini

practice that would help me with this.

Thanks for any help

Betin

 

 

 

 

Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

Check outnew cars at Autos.

 

 

[Guest guest]

Dear Betin:

 

We have addressed this type of issue before. I don't recall the title

we gave it at the time. A little search might guide you to our

responses in the archives.

 

I'll answer somewhat differently this time. Ask yourself this: What

are you scared of? The key to being overly sensitive is when we forget

to love, love who we perceive as enemy, love what we perceive is

against us, love ourself in the situation, love for no other reason

that that's the only thing that's real...

 

Instead we judge, we think our judgment is accurate. It feels so

accurate, doesn't it? And yet even if it is, we are just taking what

is happening too personally and too seriously as if it were the end of

our world. Love does not mean denying what you feel in your sensations

though, it is stopping the judging, looking at the other as a human

being with all its pain and its faults, just like we are full of pain

and faults so who are we to judge?...

 

You may want to work on your navel center so you feel your own power,

your fearlessness.

 

You may also just look at what is getting to you, and ask yourself if

you can stop judging for an instant and realize it isn't the end of

the world. It is just the end of one way to look at the world. And if

it is the end of that way to look at the word... it was not the truth

because the truth is forever.

 

Learning to love is the answer.

 

Blessings, Awtar

[Guest guest]

Sat Nam,

 

My first instinct is to suggest that you pause before you react, feel

the feelings, breathe, experience how you feel. Any meditation has

helped my with me with my habit of overreacting and my excessive

sensitivity, but stillness, breathing and experiencing the energetic

feeling of the emotion physically, mentally, full spectrum feeling,

allows the overwhelming nature to release and I can chose an

appropriate action or no action rather than reaction. There are

specific meditations for to release anger, fear, grief, the old 'stuff'

locked in our bodies.

 

Keep up with your practice and be kind to yourself.

 

Guru Gopal Kaur

 

On Wednesday, May 9, 2007, at 09:58 AM, B E wrote:

 

> Hi,

> I sent a message before but it wasn't very clear and I got no answer.

> I tried to think things over to try to put my question more clearly.

> Here it is: I am looking for some kundalini practice (mantra, mudra,

> kryia) that could help me with what I guess is excessive sensitivity

> which causes me to overreact when confronted with difficulties, even

> small ones. I mean, I tend to react in a way that is not proportional

> to the problem/issue (I feel WAY too much anger, fear, sadness, etc,

> even when I can see there's no rational cause for that). Such feelings

> become almost unmanageable in that I feel overwhelmed by them, and

> often somehow paralized and unable to confront and deal with the

> original issue that caused them, no matter how small those issues are.

> I apologize if this message is a bit long and confuse.

> I just like to add that due to my kundalini practice I have been

> experiencing progress in many areas and I'm very happy with that. But

> this particular problem doesn't seem to be improving. I am hopeful

> that there's some specific kundalini practice that would help me with

> this.

> Thanks for any help

> Betin

>

>

>

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Autos.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Very nice answer, sometimes those reactions to past lives, or past

relationships just come to the forefront and grab us

it seems so real.

Time to increase Sadhanna!

;}

J

>

> Dear Betin:

>

> We have addressed this type of issue before. I don't recall the

title

> we gave it at the time. A little search might guide you to our

> responses in the archives.

>

> I'll answer somewhat differently this time. Ask yourself this: What

> are you scared of? The key to being overly sensitive is when we

forget

> to love, love who we perceive as enemy, love what we perceive is

> against us, love ourself in the situation, love for no other reason

> that that's the only thing that's real...

>

> Instead we judge, we think our judgment is accurate. It feels so

> accurate, doesn't it? And yet even if it is, we are just taking what

> is happening too personally and too seriously as if it were the end

of

> our world. Love does not mean denying what you feel in your

sensations

> though, it is stopping the judging, looking at the other as a human

> being with all its pain and its faults, just like we are full of

pain

> and faults so who are we to judge?...

>

> You may want to work on your navel center so you feel your own

power,

> your fearlessness.

>

> You may also just look at what is getting to you, and ask yourself

if

> you can stop judging for an instant and realize it isn't the end of

> the world. It is just the end of one way to look at the world. And

if

> it is the end of that way to look at the word... it was not the

truth

> because the truth is forever.

>

> Learning to love is the answer.

>

> Blessings, Awtar

>

[Guest guest]

Kundaliniyoga , B E <jawoosux wrote:

>

> Hi,

> I sent a message before but it wasn't very clear and I got no

answer. I tried to think things over to try to put my question more

clearly. Here it is: I am looking for some kundalini practice

(mantra, mudra, kryia) that could help me with what I guess is

excessive sensitivity which causes me to overreact when confronted

with difficulties, even small ones. I mean, I tend to react in a way

that is not proportional to the problem/issue (I feel WAY too much

anger, fear, sadness, etc, even when I can see there's no rational

cause for that). Such feelings become almost unmanageable in that I

feel overwhelmed by them, and often somehow paralized and unable to

confront and deal with the original issue that caused them, no matter

how small those issues are.

> I apologize if this message is a bit long and confuse.

> I just like to add that due to my kundalini practice I have been

experiencing progress in many areas and I'm very happy with that. But

this particular problem doesn't seem to be improving. I am hopeful

that there's some specific kundalini practice that would help me with

this.

> Thanks for any help

> Betin

>

>

>

>

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Autos.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Awtar,

Thanks so much for your answer. I will increase the work on my navel center, as

you recommended.

As for the rest of your message: I am able to think like that, I mean, think

like you suggested. I am able to agree with what you wrote completely. But I am

still unable to get to a state of actually living your very true words! At this

point they are just an ideal to me, something I want to reach one day. I don't

know if this is very clear. I'll try to explain this better. I guess what I'm

saying is that when confronted with certain problems/situations, my mind goes

one way, basically agreeing with all you wrote here (avoid judgement, focus on

love, it's not the end of the world etc). But no matter how my mind sees

things, my emotions insist on going the opposite direction. It's very annoying.

I hope the navel work helps.

Sorry if this message is a bit confuse.

Thanks again,

Betin

 

 

yogahs <kundalini_yoga wrote: Dear Betin:

 

We have addressed this type of issue before. I don't recall the title

we gave it at the time. A little search might guide you to our

responses in the archives.

 

I'll answer somewhat differently this time. Ask yourself this: What

are you scared of? The key to being overly sensitive is when we forget

to love, love who we perceive as enemy, love what we perceive is

against us, love ourself in the situation, love for no other reason

that that's the only thing that's real...

 

Instead we judge, we think our judgment is accurate. It feels so

accurate, doesn't it? And yet even if it is, we are just taking what

is happening too personally and too seriously as if it were the end of

our world. Love does not mean denying what you feel in your sensations

though, it is stopping the judging, looking at the other as a human

being with all its pain and its faults, just like we are full of pain

and faults so who are we to judge?...

 

You may want to work on your navel center so you feel your own power,

your fearlessness.

 

You may also just look at what is getting to you, and ask yourself if

you can stop judging for an instant and realize it isn't the end of

the world. It is just the end of one way to look at the world. And if

it is the end of that way to look at the word... it was not the truth

because the truth is forever.

 

Learning to love is the answer.

 

Blessings, Awtar

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Hi and thank you so much for your message and your kind words of encouragement.

After starting to practice kundalini I sometimes focus on staying with my

feelings when they surface, (as you describe here) instead of trying to shoosh

them away as I used to do in the past. To be honest I do this mostly in the

hopes that if I allow them to stay a while, then they will be polite and

disappear on their own for good. But it doesn't seem to work like this, so I

get discouraged. However reading that you actually find this practice

beneficial to help with those issues I mentioned gives me a lot of

encouragement to continue with it as well. Thanks.

Best wishes,

Betin

 

joan richards <joancarol wrote: Sat Nam,

 

My first instinct is to suggest that you pause before you react, feel

the feelings, breathe, experience how you feel. Any meditation has

helped my with me with my habit of overreacting and my excessive

sensitivity, but stillness, breathing and experiencing the energetic

feeling of the emotion physically, mentally, full spectrum feeling,

[Guest guest]

Hi Ric,

Thanks for writing! I have the lessons and remember this kriya. I never did it

for that long but now I will. Hope it works for me too!

Thanks again,

Betin

 

cocteau2x <cocteau2x wrote: Kundaliniyoga , B E

wrote:

>

> Hi,

> I sent a message before but it wasn't very clear and I got no

answer. I tried to think things over to try to put my question more

clearly. Here it is: I am looking for some kundalini practice

(mantra, mudra, kryia) that could help me with what I guess is

excessive sensitivity which causes me to overreact when confronted

with difficulties, even small ones. I mean, I tend to react in a way

that is not proportional to the problem/issue (I feel WAY too much

anger, fear, sadness, etc, even when I can see there's no rational

cause for that). Such feelings become almost unmanageable in that I

feel overwhelmed by them, and often somehow paralized and unable to

confront and deal with the original issue that caused them, no matter

how small those issues are.

[Guest guest]

> After starting to practice kundalini I sometimes focus on staying

> with my feelings when they surface, instead of trying to shoosh them

> away as I used to do in the past. I do this mostly in the hopes that

> if I allow them to stay a while, then they will be polite and

> disappear on their own for good. But it doesn't seem to work like

> this, so I get discouraged.

> Betin

 

Dear Betin:

 

Staying with your feelings, Yes!

But hoping " they will be polite and go away " is not going to work.

That comes from a misunderstanding of what feelings are about.

 

Instead see your feelings as a key to knowing yourself. We live as if

we need to control the negative or painful feelings when in fact they

come as a result of our own thoughts. It is not then about wishing

them away, it is about integrating them, feeling them with love and

anticipation of learning something valuable from them. There is gold

in your experiences. They guide you to discover which of your thoughts

are painful to you right now. So feel until you get the message of

which of your beliefs are the source of your struggles/suffering.

 

Best wishes and blessings, Awtar Singh

[Guest guest]

> But no matter how my mind sees things, my emotions insist on going

the opposite direction. It's very annoying. I hope the navel work helps.

 

> Betin

 

Dear Betin:

 

That is because you use the ideal as a way to change your emotions,

instead of as a way to accepting them. it is about not fighting what

is happening, neither fighting the outside experience or the inside

experience. Accepting with love and patience. Love your anger, love

your fear, without letting yourself be ruled by them.

 

It is not so much a work of your mind seeing the ideal, but of your

heart knowing the ideal, and breathing with peace no matter what is

happening so that the negative thoughts can be seen and let go of by

simply realizing they are no longer true (perhaps they never were).

 

Blessings, Awtar Singh

[Guest guest]

Hi Awtar,

Thanks for your two further messages to me on this issue. I can understand what

you meant before much better now. And I understand now in a practical way what

you mean by feelings being an opportunity to learn. By coincidence the other

day I suddenly realized what was behind my overreaction to the specific

situation that made me write to this list asking for advice. And it was a great

relief to finally see and understand! It brought the negativity and intensity of

my reactions much closer to a normal level. I've been doing the sa ta na ma

meditation as Ric suggested and I believe this and all the wise advice I had

here were essential in this improvement.

I have another issue I would like to ask for guidance here but it will have to

wait a little.

Thanks again and best wishes,

Betin

 

 

yogahs <kundalini_yoga wrote: > But no matter how my mind sees

things, my emotions insist on going

the opposite direction. It's very annoying. I hope the navel work helps.

 

> Betin

 

Dear Betin:

 

That is because you use the ideal as a way to change your emotions,

instead of as a way to accepting them. it is about not fighting what

is happening, neither fighting the outside experience or the inside

experience. Accepting with love and patience. Love your anger, love

your fear, without letting yourself be ruled by them.

 

It is not so much a work of your mind seeing the ideal, but of your

heart knowing the ideal, and breathing with peace no matter what is

happening so that the negative thoughts can be seen and let go of by

simply realizing they are no longer true (perhaps they never were).

 

Blessings, Awtar Singh

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Sat Nam Betin....I am like , way behind, in my reading of posts, but came across

your message, from a month ago and just wanted to add something....

 

When we experience what might be considered an over reaction, or a reaction " too

big " for the current situation, that is a sign that you are now experiencing the

present moment, as a past hurt. you are not responding to the present moment,

but to a hurt that was created in the past.

 

I am a big fan of psychotherapy and in particular, Transactional Analysis. It

works directly with healing the pain of childhood, bringing the free child,

parental and adult ego states, into the present moment and integrates them, so

that your responses have clarity, wisdom, compassion and love and are no longer

informed by the pain of the past.

 

I just heard a quality in your message that sounded like you needed some more

direct help, since you already understand theroretically what you need to work

on, but are experiencing difficulty manifesting that as your reality.

 

All Light,

Sat Sangeet kaur

(AB, Canada)

 

 

 

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