House burned down

[Guest guest]

Hi all...

 

Uhm... last Monday my house burned down... so... I'm kinda drifting in

and out of conscious activity. Everything is like a big cloud that

doesn't make sense. I know I'm here to be alive... and I have the

stuff I need to be alive... but everything is sad and hurts... and...

I'm just... lost inside...

 

and scared... and weak... I've been smoking pot again and a few days

ago I took mushrooms again... It's all a lot... I've unglued myself

from myself... and yet I'm still here...

 

the friend I'm living with smokes a lot of cigarettes and drinks

several times a week. I quit smoking last year and the nicotine

cravings are starting to resurface. I want to cry... and he thinks I

can help him quit smoking and drinking just by being there, yet he

doesn't want to quit... so its like... I'm not even trying either...

I'm just... being there... exerting myself (which isn't much)

 

I'm really scared and sad and lost... can anyone offer anything?

 

Thanks

[Guest guest]

Dear Chad:

 

It often happens that we face our deepest struggle in life and there

is someone asking us for help in the middle of our own struggle.

There's the test! Am I going to say no and worry about myself? Or am I

going to get out of my way to forget about my stuff and help my friend?

 

Have you seen the movie: Peaceful Warrior based on the story by Dan

Millman? or heard the audio version of the book? or read the book?

That might be a good place to start again.

 

Your house burned down. You're free. Who do you want to be? Where do

you want to live? What mark do you want to leave with the world before

you die?

 

I have just read two books by psychiatrist Brian Weiss. The first one

was written in the early 80's: Many lives, many masters. The sequel

was written in 2004: Same soul, many bodies.

 

They are very inspiring books because Brian helps his patients go back

to their essence by revisiting past lives and the time between lives

in order to help them get over their hurdles. In the second book he

also helps them see their future life (lives) in order to see the

truth about where they are now. And many change their views after this

experience. They change and focus on who they really want to be as

they become aware of how selfish their previous views may have been.

 

This is what I have to offer... inspiration... and it often comes by

reading others' stories and by helping those in worse shape than

ourselves.

 

Many many blessings,

Awtar Singh

Rochester, NY

[Guest guest]

Hello Chad,

 

First of all, I'm really sorry about your house. That's a heck of an

upheaval and change for someone to have to deal with. Unfortunately,

when things go bad in our lives we tend to lapse back into old

coping habits. Just see the smoking as a temporary glitch. Taking

mushrooms probably isn't a good idea. When you've got things going

on in your mind, they tend to make these things come to the surface

ten fold( I know, I've been there). The fact that you are unhappy

about these tendancies just goes to show that it is just temporary.

You'll sort yourself out when you need to. Your friend wants to give

up the smoking and drinking,right? Although, you believe he doesn't

really want to. I think that if you gave it a shot and showed him

that you mean business, it may help him to make a start. Even if it

means just cutting down the habits for a while to begin with. You

can help each other out. At the end of the day, don't beat yourself

up over it. Do you do Kundalini yoga or any type of yoga or

meditation? Try to get back into that, if and when you are ready.

I hope all works out well for you in the end.

Good luck and blessings.

 

Love and Light

 

. x