seperation and individuation process and relaxing into our bodies

[Guest guest]

-Sat Nam group,

 

I am looking for some success stories of other people in conquering

their minds and letting go of habituations and compulsions.

 

Guru Rattana pointed out to me my compulsions are not getting worse

(as I separate and individuate) but am more aware of them.--Thank you.

And boy do they seem intense at times.

 

 

As I write I am realizing I am not needy like I used to be but wanting

some perspective from succesful practicioners. The road can be lonely.

 

Relaxing into the body and out of the mind. This is one of my

challenges too. At night I have found it very hard to just lie down

on the floor and just breath. Its not a hard task, not like 200 leg

raises or something, but it is, for what ever reason,a huge block of

mine.

 

SO todays post of GR's " relax into the body " comes at a good time for

me. I was talking about this with my fiance' who reminded me that if

people actually slow down and tune in they will come to face whatever

they have been avoiding or makes them uncomfortable.

 

my fiance' who says she used to pick at her face is now the most

rooted, calm and serene person I have ever met. She told me her story

and I am hoping to hear more from group members.

 

Its kind of challenging to meet someone at work or out in the

community and discuss these things with them. " oh hi there, yes,and

what do I do for my mornings? I wake up at 4;30, put on a little

white beanie,chant a bit, twist and turn my body, breath very heavy,

then say wahehguru for an hour - How about your morning? " (LOL)

 

Thanks for reading!

 

Sarabjot Singh

 

 

In Kundaliniyoga , " yogahs " <kundalini_yoga wrote:

>

> Dear Sarabjot Singh

>

> What you are sharing is very true regarding inviting the demons to tea

> with a neutral mind.

>

> To be clear the neutral mind does not mean not feeling! It means " not

> censoring " , it means accepting, it means participating with as much

> openness as we can muster with no judgment... We have to have all our

> senses aware.

>

> I'll give an example.

>

> One night I could not sleep. I was scared of a vampire. I don't

> usually have nightmares and when I do I usually wake up after it's

> over. I feel the energy of it and I find what scares me in my actual

> life and that's it. It is gone. I understand why the nightmare came to

> me. I can sleep again. But that night it was different, when I woke up

> I still felt the vampire scaring me and I was shocked. I could not

> sleep and escape him that way and i could not figure out what in my

> actual life brought a vampire after me, so I got up and started to

> write about it to learn about the whole scene... but could not get

> anywhere. This was before my Kundalini Yoga yoga days and knowing

> about the neutral mind so I was in exploring mode. I stumbled upon a

> new approach for myself quite by accident. This " new " approach was to

> welcome the vampire completely. So I accepted my fear and I still

> welcomed him at the same time I could both see him as in my nightmare

> and feel my reactions to him. I chose to accept the nightmare as it

> was instead of trying to change anything. I chose to allowed him to

> scare the wits out of me as thoroughly and completely as I could and

> felt loving toward him at the same time.

>

> I discovered that night that truly sending love is not sending

> anything at all consciously and is not an effort to avoid feeling what

> we fear from the other. It is an effort to accept the other exactly as

> he or she is and our reactions to them exactly as they are. By

> accepting the vampire's energy toward me exactly as it was, I

> experienced that light was pouring out of me toward him. Not because I

> sent it consciously as a protection for myself, but because I accepted

> both of us exactly as we were. And then a miracle of sorts happened.

> The vampire transformed... into me. The neediness was gone,

> transmuted. That was it. He never came back.

>

> Blessings,

> Awtar Singh

>