Guest guest Posted May 10, 2008 Report Share Posted May 10, 2008 Is there anyone who can recommend what to do about dealing with shame. They associate a traumatic event with that but cannot remember if there was one only being put down when I was young. Are there kriyas that have been used? Am presently going to a counselor but not sure if that will work. Any imput will help. Thank you Ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 Hello Ellen I have been thinking about your post for several days now. I suggest two things: Continue to see a counselor. Make sure your counselor has extensive experience in dealing with your issues. I went several years ago to a therapist for sexual abuse. He did not specialize in this field although he did counsel clients with these issues. I went 3 times and it made things worse. This past July I found a therapist who specializes in post traumatic stress and sexual abuse. I went until January and am a new person. She gave me tools to deal with shame as well as other things. The only way I can describe it is it feels like my whole life opened up. Second, try the Kirtan Kriya ( sa ta na ma meditation ). I have been doing this for nearly 1000 days and it too has made me feel like my whole life has opened up. The Grace of God Meditation is a powerful one that I had success with specifically with my issues. I hope this helps. Sat Nam Sat Sangat Kaur Kundaliniyoga , " ELLEN TERRELL " <yer-it wrote: > > Is there anyone who can recommend what to do about dealing with shame. They associate a traumatic event with that but cannot remember if there was one only being put down when I was young. Are there kriyas that have been used? Am presently going to a counselor but not sure if that will work. Any imput will help. > Thank you > Ellen > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 Dear Sat Sangat Thank you for your heart given answer. I could feel you through your words. Lifes a bit of a struggle right now with trying fo fix this ongoing issue, dealing with a new job and a separation of 36 years. I just bought a book called Healing the Shame that binds you by John Bradshaw, plus bought a 6 set CD called Permission To Be Precious by Pia Melody, my counselor recommended. This counselor is the best I've been to so far. She's very intuitive (maybe a little psychic) and that helps. Thank you again for your suggestions. I will look into the meditation you suggested. Many thanks Ellen - Sat Sangat Kundaliniyoga Thursday, May 15, 2008 4:45 AM Kundalini Yoga Re: shame Hello Ellen I have been thinking about your post for several days now. I suggest two things: Continue to see a counselor. Make sure your counselor has extensive experience in dealing with your issues. I went several years ago to a therapist for sexual abuse. He did not specialize in this field although he did counsel clients with these issues. I went 3 times and it made things worse. This past July I found a therapist who specializes in post traumatic stress and sexual abuse. I went until January and am a new person. She gave me tools to deal with shame as well as other things. The only way I can describe it is it feels like my whole life opened up. Second, try the Kirtan Kriya ( sa ta na ma meditation ). I have been doing this for nearly 1000 days and it too has made me feel like my whole life has opened up. The Grace of God Meditation is a powerful one that I had success with specifically with my issues. I hope this helps. Sat Nam Sat Sangat Kaur Kundaliniyoga , " ELLEN TERRELL " <yer-it wrote: > > Is there anyone who can recommend what to do about dealing with shame. They associate a traumatic event with that but cannot remember if there was one only being put down when I was young. Are there kriyas that have been used? Am presently going to a counselor but not sure if that will work. Any imput will help. > Thank you > Ellen > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2010 Report Share Posted March 11, 2010 Namaste dear Danielle, the ways of K Ma and the ways she transforms are truly astonishing. You stared out the thread and suggested it might not be K related. And look at all that has unfolded. Danielle this is what i did with it. After reading that vinegar and water could be harmful to some plants, instantly thought of the ongoing joy, tenderness, childlike wonder you have held with the seeds that your dear Teacher gave you. Then your recent report of their little heads poking through the soil, Ahhhh. . . . All of that is most Holy Ground for you and when i envisioned that something i suggested could of brought their demise, my brain got stuck on Oh My God! Oh My God! Oh My God! That image was as deep as i could take it for nothing from my past about shame or wrong came forth about my beingness. Nothing except the image of your precious water melon babies shriveling. Danielle a truck load of wondrous ripe melons could never replace the delight of those precious guru seeds that are destined to bring forth a plump juicey melon. When i think of shame and childhood i use to feel like a monster child. For my Real Mother was a horse and when my birth mother returned a few years later the feeling i held for her was to be ashamed of her and for her to be my mother. As a child i felt like a monster, what kind of kid holds their mother with shame. Never really understood it until years later when talking with my sister about my mother's promiscuity with several men in our conservative rural community and hearing my sister say how many in the community, extended family, father and would not verbally say anything about the sexual liaisons but would look hold my birth mother with shaming energy. It clicked and realized that once again this was a situation of being a highly energetic child and picking up other people's feelings as a child then thinking they were my own. Even as a pre-schooler and grade schooler i would try to understand why i held my mother with shame but could not sort it through. I felt so much like a little monster when i would see loving mother/daughter exchanges with others. As i matured began to see that many of the things my birth mother did were really ways that brought life, vitality, and survival for a woman with eight kids and so little so little support. There was such relief to have an understanding of where it came from. Love and hugs to you dear Danielle, thanks for your sweetness and compassion dear One. I am And I am Not In Duality or Not Already there or Not Empty or Fulfilled All the same and Not... In the Rain in the Sunshine Each One here: Blessing and Blessed Love, Peace, Light to All sparrow , " iamwaitingmoon " <iamwaitingmoon wrote: > > Sparrow, I wish to thank you for this mirror of shame. I cannot imagine any reason for you to hold your head in shame from what you shared with me. I found it only to be helpful. Yet I have with image a beautiful, practical creature, with a delicate voice bowing its little head in shame. You cannot sing beautiful bird when your head is bowed; you cannot see when your eyes are filled with tears, and you cannot fly if you are looking down. > > It has stirred up some of my significant ego issues of being a disappointment and feeling ashamed for merely being myself…for having the interests and loves and skillset and/or the lack there of. (This is all mom stuff/issues for me; but it is deep and even with her passing I still experience the hesitance to be my all. For my history is that when I have voiced or lived my truth and from my heart, I was shamed and was a disappointment to her. Since the age of 3 this had been so; actually from my time of birth really. (My dad was always the opposite with me, hence an odd " balance " between their parenting that occured in my upbringing). > > It has made me think of the instance last night in which I verbally scolded my dog for chewing on the parsley in my garden…the picture is vivid in my mind's eye as she held her head in shame. But it was I who did not listen, as her tummy was upset and this is all she needed. She meant no harm to the plants and she was not " bad " for doing what came naturally. It makes me think of that scolding and how it is enough to stop her, or at least make her hesitant to do the same again, regardless of what she knew her truth and intent as being. > > This is a short version of surfacing ego issues, but I wish to thank you for this surfacing. I understand that you would have had no idea that this is where the breadcrumbs would lead me to, but it is a much needed area to dig up, sift through and expose if I am to sprout and bloom. > > Love and Blessings: > ~Danielle~ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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