Guest guest Posted November 6, 2008 Report Share Posted November 6, 2008 Sat Sri Akal to everyone,  I am writing this to Hanspreet Kaur. I never did Kundalini yoga. But i have my own way of spiritual practise. But i may start doing kundalini yoga one of these days if i am able to resolve certain issues. When we marry to someone, we are supposed to be two bodies and one soul. couple have to perform there marital duties and try there level best to satisfy the other persons need, especially when he/she needs it. When you married him, you knew or shuold have known that he is into spirituality. I guess you must have accepted that at the time. But with time you have grown spiritually while is still there and now, you are unable to accept this fact. Acceptance is one of the most important part of life. Non-acceptance bring lots of other feelings, like anger, hatred etc within us. You have to accept him as he is and talking to him about all the questions that you have, will be most appropriate. It's an issue that you two have to resolve by yourselves. You were two bodies but one soul. but now, probably, you two feel like departing from each other. As he is unable/doesnt want to fulfill your spiritual needs and you are unable /doesnt want to fulfill his sexual needs. There are never any problems. Only solutions. It us who creates all kind of problems. and its us who have to find the solutions as well. Talk to him everything you have got to say.  Your spiritual needs should not come in between the family needs. i mean the needs of your husband and kids. doing some yoga should not interupt your family life. God doesnt ask you to leave everything for him.He just want us to remember him whenever we can while going through our normal day to day life.  I am probably too young to be saying all this. And i am not even married yet. But i feel this is how it should be.  I hope the best for you. When you cant find the way, ask god to help you out. He will, takes his own time and has his own woderful way. Just let him help you.  Good luck Harminder Singh  Jo Bole So Nihal Sat Sri Akal. --- On Wed, 5/11/08, Kundaliniyoga <Kundaliniyoga > wrote: Kundaliniyoga <Kundaliniyoga > Kundalini Yoga Digest Number 3549 Kundaliniyoga Wednesday, 5 November, 2008, 4:29 PM KUNDALINI YOGA - LIFE TRANSFORMING! Messages In This Digest (4 Messages) 1a. Re: question about sex Stephanie Van Savage 1b. Re: question about sex kb singh 1c. Re: question about sex jayaramulu.mydukuri 2. Adi Shakti for men Ver Tips View All Topics | Create New Topic Messages 1a. Re: question about sex Posted by: " Stephanie Van Savage " vansavages  vansavages Tue Nov 4, 2008 2:09 pm (PST) Diane, Thank you so much for your response. It sounds like a good compromise for your friend, not the ideal, but it sounds like they are handling the situation with maturity. I would be really open to a situation like that - I wish my husband would find someone to fulfill that need for him. I don't know what is going to happen, but I can see that the more I keep doing my sadhana, the more peaceful, loving and accepting I feel towards my husband and I'm willing to trust that there will be a positive outcome for us all. Thanks again! Sat nam, Hanspreet Kaur --- On Tue, 11/4/08, Diane Batt <di60435 > wrote: Diane Batt <di60435 > Re: Kundalini Yoga question about sex Kundaliniyoga Tuesday, November 4, 2008, 12:32 PM Dear Hansprit  I have a male friend who is on the opposite side of this equation. His wife is on a very high frequency and is very into spiritual music, she no longer wants sex with him, but expects him to be a doting father to their children. He is very laid back and spends a lot of time doing his own thing.. He loves his wife and children but also has a high sex drive - this has made him seek out a partner out of mutual need for sex and companionship - not a prostitute but a dear friend, she has a family minus husband and he plays the doting father when at home and she returns to her children - this whole relationship is born out of mutual need for sex and companionship. She knows about his 'other woman' and they both accept this - neither is really fulfilled - so be careful is my only advice and be sure its what you really want.  Dharma Di --- On Mon, 11/3/08, vansavages <vansavages> wrote: vansavages <vansavages> Kundalini Yoga question about sex Kundaliniyoga Monday, November 3, 2008, 9:28 AM Sat nam, I have been trying to form a question to you all for many months now. I have heard it said that when you have a problem and you need help, the key to receiving the help you need is in asking the question in precisely the right way. Maybe I have formed my question and I am close to an answer now. I am a yoga instructor and I have a daily sadhana practice. I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has never had any kind of spiritual practice and he doesn't have one now, though he is supportive of me. Over the years, I have become more and more committed to my sadhana and my yoga practice and I see it as the most important thing in my life. The more I practice, the more strongly I feel this. I have heard that when someone in a household raises their vibration, the vibrations of the others living in the house will rise too, effortlessly. I don't see this happening with my husband and I feel the more I practice kundalini yoga, the farther away we get. Because he doesn't have a spiritual practice, he doesn't have an understanding or appreciation of the spiritual aspects of sex. I don't know if it is because of this, but I am not attracted to him at all and I don't know if I ever have been. In the past I have gone along and had sex with him because that is what make marriages work. But more and more, I feel that to keep having sex when I don't want to is to take a step backward on my spiritual path. We haven't had sex in months. This is a huge problem. Without sex, where is the marriage? We are both young, attractive people. Our relationship consists of parenting our children together. I want what everyone wants - a partner with whom I share a physical, emotional and spiritual connection. Do I wait and see if I will ever have this with my husband? Do I sacrifice what I want so we can keep our family together? How do I decide? Has anyone ever come across this problem? By the way, I am currently on day 13 of a 40-day sadhana with the So Darshan Chakra Kriya. I appreciate any thoughts or any help you all have. I feel so blessed to have this group to ask this important question to. Sat nam, Hanspreet Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2008 Report Share Posted November 7, 2008 satsriakal harminderbha ji tussi te great ho.the way to tell is really wonderful and being a doctor im really with you im also doing yoga and all spritual things but your family is also your temple so 1st give happyness to your family than others. thanks again singk_kb2004 --- On Thu, 11/6/08, ricyb777 <ricyb777 wrote: ricyb777 <ricyb777 Re: Kundalini Yoga Digest Number 3549 Kundaliniyoga Thursday, November 6, 2008, 3:44 PM Sat Sri Akal to everyone, I am writing this to Hanspreet Kaur. I never did Kundalini yoga. But i have my own way of spiritual practise. But i may start doing kundalini yoga one of these days if i am able to resolve certain issues. When we marry to someone, we are supposed to be two bodies and one soul. couple have to perform there marital duties and try there level best to satisfy the other persons need, especially when he/she needs it. When you married him, you knew or shuold have known that he is into spirituality. I guess you must have accepted that at the time. But with time you have grown spiritually while is still there and now, you are unable to accept this fact. Acceptance is one of the most important part of life. Non-acceptance bring lots of other feelings, like anger, hatred etc within us. You have to accept him as he is and talking to him about all the questions that you have, will be most appropriate. It's an issue that you two have to resolve by yourselves. You were two bodies but one soul. but now, probably, you two feel like departing from each other. As he is unable/doesnt want to fulfill your spiritual needs and you are unable /doesnt want to fulfill his sexual needs. There are never any problems. Only solutions. It us who creates all kind of problems. and its us who have to find the solutions as well. Talk to him everything you have got to say. Your spiritual needs should not come in between the family needs. i mean the needs of your husband and kids. doing some yoga should not interupt your family life. God doesnt ask you to leave everything for him.He just want us to remember him whenever we can while going through our normal day to day life. I am probably too young to be saying all this. And i am not even married yet. But i feel this is how it should be. I hope the best for you. When you cant find the way, ask god to help you out. He will, takes his own time and has his own woderful way. Just let him help you. Good luck Harminder Singh Jo Bole So Nihal Sat Sri Akal. --- On Wed, 5/11/08, Kundaliniyoga <Kundaliniyoga@ . com> wrote: Kundaliniyoga <Kundaliniyoga> Kundalini Yoga Digest Number 3549 Kundaliniyoga Wednesday, 5 November, 2008, 4:29 PM KUNDALINI YOGA - LIFE TRANSFORMING! Messages In This Digest (4 Messages) 1a. Re: question about sex Stephanie Van Savage 1b. Re: question about sex kb singh 1c. Re: question about sex jayaramulu.mydukuri @wipro.com 2. Adi Shakti for men Ver Tips View All Topics | Create New Topic Messages 1a. Re: question about sex Posted by: " Stephanie Van Savage " vansavages vansavages Tue Nov 4, 2008 2:09 pm (PST) Diane, Thank you so much for your response. It sounds like a good compromise for your friend, not the ideal, but it sounds like they are handling the situation with maturity. I would be really open to a situation like that - I wish my husband would find someone to fulfill that need for him. I don't know what is going to happen, but I can see that the more I keep doing my sadhana, the more peaceful, loving and accepting I feel towards my husband and I'm willing to trust that there will be a positive outcome for us all. Thanks again! Sat nam, Hanspreet Kaur --- On Tue, 11/4/08, Diane Batt <di60435 > wrote: Diane Batt <di60435 > Re: Kundalini Yoga question about sex Kundaliniyoga Tuesday, November 4, 2008, 12:32 PM Dear Hansprit I have a male friend who is on the opposite side of this equation. His wife is on a very high frequency and is very into spiritual music, she no longer wants sex with him, but expects him to be a doting father to their children. He is very laid back and spends a lot of time doing his own thing.. He loves his wife and children but also has a high sex drive - this has made him seek out a partner out of mutual need for sex and companionship - not a prostitute but a dear friend, she has a family minus husband and he plays the doting father when at home and she returns to her children - this whole relationship is born out of mutual need for sex and companionship. She knows about his 'other woman' and they both accept this - neither is really fulfilled - so be careful is my only advice and be sure its what you really want. Dharma Di --- On Mon, 11/3/08, vansavages <vansavages> wrote: vansavages <vansavages> Kundalini Yoga question about sex Kundaliniyoga Monday, November 3, 2008, 9:28 AM Sat nam, I have been trying to form a question to you all for many months now. I have heard it said that when you have a problem and you need help, the key to receiving the help you need is in asking the question in precisely the right way. Maybe I have formed my question and I am close to an answer now. I am a yoga instructor and I have a daily sadhana practice. I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has never had any kind of spiritual practice and he doesn't have one now, though he is supportive of me. Over the years, I have become more and more committed to my sadhana and my yoga practice and I see it as the most important thing in my life. The more I practice, the more strongly I feel this. I have heard that when someone in a household raises their vibration, the vibrations of the others living in the house will rise too, effortlessly. I don't see this happening with my husband and I feel the more I practice kundalini yoga, the farther away we get. Because he doesn't have a spiritual practice, he doesn't have an understanding or appreciation of the spiritual aspects of sex. I don't know if it is because of this, but I am not attracted to him at all and I don't know if I ever have been. In the past I have gone along and had sex with him because that is what make marriages work. But more and more, I feel that to keep having sex when I don't want to is to take a step backward on my spiritual path. We haven't had sex in months. This is a huge problem. Without sex, where is the marriage? We are both young, attractive people. Our relationship consists of parenting our children together. I want what everyone wants - a partner with whom I share a physical, emotional and spiritual connection. Do I wait and see if I will ever have this with my husband? Do I sacrifice what I want so we can keep our family together? How do I decide? Has anyone ever come across this problem? By the way, I am currently on day 13 of a 40-day sadhana with the So Darshan Chakra Kriya. I appreciate any thoughts or any help you all have. I feel so blessed to have this group to ask this important question to. Sat nam, Hanspreet Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2008 Report Share Posted November 7, 2008 Sat Nam, Regarding Hanspreet Kaur's question about sex. In the " The Grace of God Manual " there is a chapter with advice from Yogi Bajan's regarding this subject (page 95 to 111). A lot of good information... Peace and properity, Prem Siri Kaur --- On Thu, 11/6/08, ricyb777 <ricyb777 wrote: ricyb777 <ricyb777 Re: Kundalini Yoga Digest Number 3549 Kundaliniyoga Thursday, November 6, 2008, 1:44 PM Sat Sri Akal to everyone, I am writing this to Hanspreet Kaur. I never did Kundalini yoga. But i have my own way of spiritual practise. But i may start doing kundalini yoga one of these days if i am able to resolve certain issues. When we marry to someone, we are supposed to be two bodies and one soul. couple have to perform there marital duties and try there level best to satisfy the other persons need, especially when he/she needs it. When you married him, you knew or shuold have known that he is into spirituality. I guess you must have accepted that at the time. But with time you have grown spiritually while is still there and now, you are unable to accept this fact. Acceptance is one of the most important part of life. Non-acceptance bring lots of other feelings, like anger, hatred etc within us. You have to accept him as he is and talking to him about all the questions that you have, will be most appropriate. It's an issue that you two have to resolve by yourselves. You were two bodies but one soul. but now, probably, you two feel like departing from each other. As he is unable/doesnt want to fulfill your spiritual needs and you are unable /doesnt want to fulfill his sexual needs. There are never any problems. Only solutions. It us who creates all kind of problems. and its us who have to find the solutions as well. Talk to him everything you have got to say. Your spiritual needs should not come in between the family needs. i mean the needs of your husband and kids. doing some yoga should not interupt your family life. God doesnt ask you to leave everything for him.He just want us to remember him whenever we can while going through our normal day to day life. I am probably too young to be saying all this. And i am not even married yet. But i feel this is how it should be. I hope the best for you. When you cant find the way, ask god to help you out. He will, takes his own time and has his own woderful way. Just let him help you. Good luck Harminder Singh Jo Bole So Nihal Sat Sri Akal. --- On Wed, 5/11/08, Kundaliniyoga <Kundaliniyoga@ . com> wrote: Kundaliniyoga <Kundaliniyoga> Kundalini Yoga Digest Number 3549 Kundaliniyoga Wednesday, 5 November, 2008, 4:29 PM KUNDALINI YOGA - LIFE TRANSFORMING! Messages In This Digest (4 Messages) 1a. Re: question about sex Stephanie Van Savage 1b. Re: question about sex kb singh 1c. Re: question about sex jayaramulu.mydukuri @wipro.com 2. Adi Shakti for men Ver Tips View All Topics | Create New Topic Messages 1a. Re: question about sex Posted by: " Stephanie Van Savage " vansavages vansavages Tue Nov 4, 2008 2:09 pm (PST) Diane, Thank you so much for your response. It sounds like a good compromise for your friend, not the ideal, but it sounds like they are handling the situation with maturity. I would be really open to a situation like that - I wish my husband would find someone to fulfill that need for him. I don't know what is going to happen, but I can see that the more I keep doing my sadhana, the more peaceful, loving and accepting I feel towards my husband and I'm willing to trust that there will be a positive outcome for us all. Thanks again! Sat nam, Hanspreet Kaur --- On Tue, 11/4/08, Diane Batt <di60435 > wrote: Diane Batt <di60435 > Re: Kundalini Yoga question about sex Kundaliniyoga Tuesday, November 4, 2008, 12:32 PM Dear Hansprit I have a male friend who is on the opposite side of this equation. His wife is on a very high frequency and is very into spiritual music, she no longer wants sex with him, but expects him to be a doting father to their children. He is very laid back and spends a lot of time doing his own thing... He loves his wife and children but also has a high sex drive - this has made him seek out a partner out of mutual need for sex and companionship - not a prostitute but a dear friend, she has a family minus husband and he plays the doting father when at home and she returns to her children - this whole relationship is born out of mutual need for sex and companionship. She knows about his 'other woman' and they both accept this - neither is really fulfilled - so be careful is my only advice and be sure its what you really want. Dharma Di --- On Mon, 11/3/08, vansavages <vansavages> wrote: vansavages <vansavages> Kundalini Yoga question about sex Kundaliniyoga Monday, November 3, 2008, 9:28 AM Sat nam, I have been trying to form a question to you all for many months now. I have heard it said that when you have a problem and you need help, the key to receiving the help you need is in asking the question in precisely the right way. Maybe I have formed my question and I am close to an answer now. I am a yoga instructor and I have a daily sadhana practice. I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has never had any kind of spiritual practice and he doesn't have one now, though he is supportive of me. Over the years, I have become more and more committed to my sadhana and my yoga practice and I see it as the most important thing in my life. The more I practice, the more strongly I feel this. I have heard that when someone in a household raises their vibration, the vibrations of the others living in the house will rise too, effortlessly. I don't see this happening with my husband and I feel the more I practice kundalini yoga, the farther away we get. Because he doesn't have a spiritual practice, he doesn't have an understanding or appreciation of the spiritual aspects of sex. I don't know if it is because of this, but I am not attracted to him at all and I don't know if I ever have been. In the past I have gone along and had sex with him because that is what make marriages work. But more and more, I feel that to keep having sex when I don't want to is to take a step backward on my spiritual path. We haven't had sex in months. This is a huge problem. Without sex, where is the marriage? We are both young, attractive people. Our relationship consists of parenting our children together. I want what everyone wants - a partner with whom I share a physical, emotional and spiritual connection. Do I wait and see if I will ever have this with my husband? Do I sacrifice what I want so we can keep our family together? How do I decide? Has anyone ever come across this problem? By the way, I am currently on day 13 of a 40-day sadhana with the So Darshan Chakra Kriya. I appreciate any thoughts or any help you all have. I feel so blessed to have this group to ask this important question to. Sat nam, Hanspreet Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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