Guest guest Posted December 17, 2008 Report Share Posted December 17, 2008 > If anyone survived divorce - how did you do it? > Financially. Ruined! Bankcrupted by the Child Support Agency and my ex both being very mean to me. And debts to the CSA are non-dischargeable so I couldn't even escape by going bankrupt! Worst thing that happened to me - thats coz I am lucky enough to keep my physical and mental health (only just!). > Emotionally. It was a release for me and a step to moving forwards in life. > Spiritually. Not sure! > I can't even sit still long enough to meditate. Kundalini yoga? Its pretty hard not to deeply relax after a hard long kriya - like Nabhi Kriya. Get someone to teach you self-hypnosis - its a start. Sit with buddhists groups - that can get you started. Do you have a book of K yoga meditations? For me the one to Conquer Self Animosity seems to be a good one for showing you an 'altered state'. Is a hump to get over leaving behind our habituated fixed state of mind and learning to 'be' differently. Well worth keeping trying. > Out of money. Not the worst thing! After years of depression and rage K yoga has got me just about accepting my lot. Money takes away many options. It meant I couldnt afford to go out and just sat home and did loads of yoga. Boosh it made me happier than if I still had my money. Its the yin/yan thing. But it remains easier to be happy when you dont have material problems like bailiffs and empty bank accounts! > And if anyone else tells me to count my blessings I am going > to scream. Many K yogins seem to think a series of prosperity meditations will sort you out! All such advice is well meant. I usually preffered it when someone said 'You poor sod glad I'm not you'. An acknowledgement is good! 'Advanced' yogis can be happy when suffering all sorts of adversity. The happiness comes from within - yoga stops external situations from spoiling it. Maybe one day we'll get to that stage! If it doesnt kill you it makes you stronger! If you learn to progress with yoga it makes you happier too - depseration is often the spur to serious yoga practice - thats what it took for me to get started. Best wishes Keith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2008 Report Share Posted December 18, 2008 I agree with Keith, the same is true for me. I went through total collapse after divorcing my partner of 10+ years. This happened about 5 years ago now. It took a while and at times, it seemed that I was just losing it, but really today I am amazed at the person I have become, how much I have grown, in ways I never would have thought possible in my previous life. I am far, far more fulfilled now that that is an understatement. It is a movement from collapse and chaos to stability. Any stability that can be achieved and appreciated in the moment, getting to that zero point or neutral mind, is a huge boost to the process. If you can't do it for 5 minutes, do it for 3, if you can't do it for 3, do it for 2 or 1 minute. You will get through this! :-) --- On Wed, 12/17/08, BiftonB <biftonb wrote: BiftonB <biftonb Surviving Divorce(was : how?Kundalini-Yoga Date: Wednesday, December 17, 2008, 8:48 AM > If anyone survived divorce - how did you do it?> Financially.Ruined! Bankcrupted by the Child Support Agency and my ex both beingvery mean to me. And debts to the CSA are non-dischargeable so Icouldn't even escape by going bankrupt! Worst thing that happened tome - thats coz I am lucky enough to keep my physical and mental health(only just!). > Emotionally.It was a release for me and a step to moving forwards in life. > Spiritually.Not sure! > I can't even sit still long enough to meditate.Kundalini yoga? Its pretty hard not to deeply relax after a hard longkriya - like Nabhi Kriya. Get someone to teach you self-hypnosis - its a start. Sit withbuddhists groups - that can get you started.Do you have a book of K yoga meditations? For me the one to ConquerSelf Animosity seems to be a good one for showing you an 'alteredstate'. Is a hump to get over leaving behind our habituated fixedstate of mind and learning to 'be' differently. Well worth keepingtrying. > Out of money.Not the worst thing! After years of depression and rage K yoga has gotme just about accepting my lot. Money takes away many options. Itmeant I couldnt afford to go out and just sat home and did loads ofyoga. Boosh it made me happier than if I still had my money. Its theyin/yan thing. But it remains easier to be happy when you dont havematerial problems like bailiffs and empty bank accounts! > And if anyone else tells me to count my blessings I am going> to scream.Many K yogins seem to think a series of prosperity meditations willsort you out! All such advice is well meant. I usually preffered itwhen someone said 'You poor sod glad I'm not you'. An acknowledgementis good! 'Advanced' yogis can be happy when suffering all sorts of adversity.The happiness comes from within - yoga stops external situations fromspoiling it. Maybe one day we'll get to that stage! If it doesnt kill you it makes you stronger! If you learn to progresswith yoga it makes you happier too - depseration is often the spur toserious yoga practice - thats what it took for me to get started. Best wishesKeith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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