Guest guest Posted September 7, 2009 Report Share Posted September 7, 2009 Hi, My husband recently died about 6 months ago and Ive had alot of trouble feeling connected to him still. I have been practicing some yoga but just feel so angry and abandoned. Its just doesnt feel like he is with me and I am losing faith in the fact that there is anything more then this life, meaning I am losing faith in god. Does anyone in the kundalini comunity have any advice for me, perhaps some experience from one owns life when u have lost a loved one and managed to feel them around and remain connected to them as well as your higher power. Also would appreciate any advice on particular yoga kriyas/ meditations to do to help with hopelessness and lack of spiritual faith. Thanks in advance, Silvia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2009 Report Share Posted September 7, 2009 Hello Silvia,Sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. Although I have no answers to your question, I wonder why you feel abandoned?PaulaOn Sun, Sep 6, 2009 at 11:42 PM, silzmail <silzmail wrote: Hi, My husband recently died about 6 months ago and Ive had alot of trouble feeling connected to him still. I have been practicing some yoga but just feel so angry and abandoned. Its just doesnt feel like he is with me and I am losing faith in the fact that there is anything more then this life, meaning I am losing faith in god. Does anyone in the kundalini comunity have any advice for me, perhaps some experience from one owns life when u have lost a loved one and managed to feel them around and remain connected to them as well as your higher power. Also would appreciate any advice on particular yoga kriyas/ meditations to do to help with hopelessness and lack of spiritual faith. Thanks in advance, Silvia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2009 Report Share Posted September 9, 2009 Silvia, Sorry for a very tough time in your life right now. You may not believe it now, but your pain and hopelessnes will lessen in time. You will not, however, EVER, EVER forget your husband. May I relate a story? When I was in my 20's my mother died in the middle of her sleep of a heart attack. There were no warning signs - she lived a healthy life - didn't smoke, drink, or overeat. And she hadn't even reached retirement age yet! Her workplace called me that morning to inquire as to why she wasn't in work?? I found her cold body snuggled in her bed that morning. For the next months, I functioned,working, shopping etc. But when I ceased being busy, I would cry and cry. Nothing could stop hours of tears. Well - meaning friends and family made valiant efforts to keep me emotionally afloat. While their efforts were appreciated - they didn't seem to be working. One day, about 9 months hence, while crying my eyes out as usual a stern voice appeared in my consciousness. The voice was like of a master trainer to their dog. Loving, but with firm guidance. The voice told me. " Your excessive grieving is keeping your mother closer to the earth plane. You must stop as she must go on to another plane. " At the time I wasn't doing any sort of spiritual/yoga work, nor had I done ANY. My emotional life very slowly started to brighten after that incident/encounter, and I couldn't feel her presence around me anymore. The pain was still excruciating, but it started to become a part of me that I could adapt around better. And yes, I was angry at God. By now you can see my point.... Perhaps working on chakra balancing would be beneficial as you are on 'overload' now. The book Chakra Therapy has some good meditations and certainly wouldn't hurt to try them. Many blessings, Jackie Kundalini-Yoga , " silzmail " <silzmail wrote: > > Hi, > My husband recently died about 6 months ago and Ive had alot of trouble feeling connected to him still. I have been practicing some yoga but just feel so angry and abandoned. Its just doesnt feel like he is with me and I am losing faith in the fact that there is anything more then this life, meaning I am losing faith in god. Does anyone in the kundalini comunity have any advice for me, perhaps some experience from one owns life when u have lost a loved one and managed to feel them around and remain connected to them as well as your higher power. Also would appreciate any advice on particular yoga kriyas/ meditations to do to help with hopelessness and lack of spiritual faith. > > Thanks in advance, > > Silvia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2009 Report Share Posted September 9, 2009 Sat Nam, You may also do long Akaal chants to guide the person onto the next life, through the blue ethers, to allow the spirit depart peacefully. I have read some shamanic correlates to this idea of the spirit being tied to the earth usually around a family member. Ancient shamanic practice revolves around releasing these spirits through events and immersions. -=FS=- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2009 Report Share Posted September 16, 2009 Silvia dear, First of all I'm so sorry about the loss of your husband. It is very hard and very stressful to lose a loved one and I hope that you know this so that you can be kind to yourself and give yourself the time to go through the grieving process which includes the feelings that you are having. At this time really any kriya or mantra or mediation could be healing for you. If you are comfortable with picking out your own I would recommend this over thinking that someone else knows what's best for you. Of course there is always the possibility that someone shares something to inspire you and this becomes a very good reason to take their advice. I went through a divorce a couple of years ago and experienced the same feelings that you are sharing. It is very hard, I know, and it is also very common to feel to this. It will pass, just like everything. It really is an important part of the grieving process. It is usually recommended that you receive some sort of supportive counseling at this time. Just being able to share with someone how you feel is very important in this process. It may take some time but a " good " grieving process does. Don't think of God as an entity outside of ourself. It is Consciousness that gives each and every one of us life and awareness. Who said you had to feel connected to your husband in any particular way after he passed on? Ideally your spiritual practice and searching will bring you to a place of no expectations and a deep acceptance of what is, just as it is. This is, at least, my idea of Peace of Mind. I am hugging you through this cyberspace and trusting that you will feel better and better within this upcoming time. Lovingly, Gurudass Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2009 Report Share Posted September 17, 2009 Dear Silvia,To add to all the eloquent responses to this question, I would highly recommend the book "Dying Into Life: The Yoga of Death, Loss and Transformation" by Guru Terath Kaur (aka Jiwan Joti Kaur), Ph.D. She includes anecdotes of how people, including Bibi Ji and others in the Dharma, have dealt with the death of a loved one. You may find this book helpful to you as you go through your grieving process. As so many others have said, time is your best friend. If you can find a grief support group, that might also help you go through the process. I extend my deepest sympathies to you on your loss.Love and blessings, Sahib-Amar Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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