DIFFERENCE IN THINKING

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The HinduOnline edition of India's National NewspaperSaturday,

Feb 20, 2010http://www.hindu.com/2010/02/20/stories/2010022056001200.htm

 

DIFFERENCE

IN THINKING

CHENNAI: Marriages often break up, when the

couple find they are incompatible. Perhaps this will not happen, if we learnt

to accept that differences in thinking and acting are a part of life, and one

does not distance oneself from people for minor differences of opinion, said

Suki Sivam.

A man must understand that women think differently.

Men tend to be hasty, and often cannot understand the compromises a woman

makes, to keep peace in the family. They see compromises as unnecessary. When a

man finds the wife thinking differently, he is, therefore, annoyed. The wife,

on the other hand, sees her husband as unfeeling, because he is not able to

think as she does. Neither of them is right in their attitude towards the

other. If the man realises that women do not think as men do and if women also

accepts this difference as only natural, there will be peace in the family, and

there will not be any need for them to think of separating. Instead of harping

on minor disagreements and magnifying these, until they assume gigantic

proportions, husband and wife should think of those occasions when they helped

each other out. If, say, one of them had been ill, and the other had nursed the

sick spouse, thinking of that would make one feel grateful, and all

disagreements would be forgotten. If people remember the good others have done

them, and if they do not think of the quarrels all the time, life will be so

much better.

It is not easy to think this way; it comes with

practice. One thing that could help is the company of good people or ‘satsang.’

The company of good people can be compared to heaven. Good people who are not

quick to criticize others are those who teach us by example, how we should

behave towards others. The more we are in the company of such people, the less

egoistic we will be. The less egoistic we are, the more accommodating of other

people’s views we will be. The more accommodating we are towards others, the

happier we will be. So we must seek the company of God-fearing, gentle people

and learn from them how to live. That is what will give us happiness.

 

Yogacharya Dr.Ananda Balayogi Bhavanani Chairman : Yoganjali Natyalayam and ICYER Hon General Secretary, Pondicherry Yogasana Association 25, 2nd Cross,Iyyanar Nagar, Pondicherry, South India-605 013 Tel: +91-413 - 2622902 / +91-413 -3203314/+91-413 -2241561 Mobile: 9842311433 Website: www.icyer.com www..orghttp://youtube.com/profile_videos?user=yognat2001 & p=r