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Namaste,

 

Good Morning to everybody, thank you for taking the time to read this

as I am in one of the most difficult situations. I am now turning to

my religion for answers, clarity and the right path for me to follow

with my life.

 

I'll briefly try to explain some of the hardships I have been facing.

8 years ago I began dating a young lady, not knowing much about

religion, and unfortunately still not knowing much. I continued our

relationship and as the years passed, our hearts grew closer and

closer. We went through college together, we spent our early years

after college together, and she grew very close to my family.

Unfortunately, I never took into consideration her religious faith, as

she is a liberal Muslim, and I have only seen my love for her.

 

We discussed on how we would be able to be together, share both our

religions with each other and our children, however there are many

differences that have left us lost without answers. She explained that

she needed a decision and that she could no longer carry this

relationship forward without a hope for our future to be together. In

order to perform the act of marriage her way I would have to convert,

however we discussed that it would be " fake " and that she would tell

her parents that I would continue to follow my religion and I would

not be converting, however my family is extremely against anything of

the sort.

 

As accomodating Hindu religion is, unfortunately Islam is not. In

addition, I have an enormous burden over my shoulders because I am the

only child of my parents, and they envision me marrying a Hindu woman

and having Hindu children. I am just now trying to search deep inside

myself to learn and absorb my faith because I am simply lost, left

without answers, debating to make a decision between the love of my

life and my family.

 

I am looking for guidance and reaching out for help. I cannot imagine

myself with anybody else, and all the things that I love about her I

feel I cannot find with anybody else. We are amazing with each other

without religion involved, however this is something that will never

leave us, and we both wish to continue believing in our respective

faiths.

 

Thank you for listening and I look forward to hearing your

knowledgable responses.

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I have absolutely no advice for you, deejaykam. I wish I did. I really

feel for your situation, which is really a perfect expression of the

darkness and separation this present world exemplifies. Imagine trying

to separate God from Herself, break Her up into little pieces, each

separated from the other? It is crazy, and I am sorry you find

yourself, and your desires, caught in the middle. I will pray for you.

 

Jai Maa!

Chris

 

 

, " deejaykam " <amitsdesign wrote:

>

> Namaste,

>

> Good Morning to everybody, thank you for taking the time to read this

> as I am in one of the most difficult situations. I am now turning to

> my religion for answers, clarity and the right path for me to follow

> with my life.

>

> I'll briefly try to explain some of the hardships I have been facing.

> 8 years ago I began dating a young lady, not knowing much about

> religion, and unfortunately still not knowing much. I continued our

> relationship and as the years passed, our hearts grew closer and

> closer. We went through college together, we spent our early years

> after college together, and she grew very close to my family.

> Unfortunately, I never took into consideration her religious faith, as

> she is a liberal Muslim, and I have only seen my love for her.

>

> We discussed on how we would be able to be together, share both our

> religions with each other and our children, however there are many

> differences that have left us lost without answers. She explained that

> she needed a decision and that she could no longer carry this

> relationship forward without a hope for our future to be together. In

> order to perform the act of marriage her way I would have to convert,

> however we discussed that it would be " fake " and that she would tell

> her parents that I would continue to follow my religion and I would

> not be converting, however my family is extremely against anything of

> the sort.

>

> As accomodating Hindu religion is, unfortunately Islam is not. In

> addition, I have an enormous burden over my shoulders because I am the

> only child of my parents, and they envision me marrying a Hindu woman

> and having Hindu children. I am just now trying to search deep inside

> myself to learn and absorb my faith because I am simply lost, left

> without answers, debating to make a decision between the love of my

> life and my family.

>

> I am looking for guidance and reaching out for help. I cannot imagine

> myself with anybody else, and all the things that I love about her I

> feel I cannot find with anybody else. We are amazing with each other

> without religion involved, however this is something that will never

> leave us, and we both wish to continue believing in our respective

> faiths.

>

> Thank you for listening and I look forward to hearing your

> knowledgable responses.

>

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Peace to you dear friend,

 

My heart goes out to you as you search for your peace. You wish for

knowledgable responses, knowledge being based that which has been

experienced, well here goes...

 

You will find, in this situation, that you will exhaust yourself

trying to make everyone happy. How sad that was once an open, loving

relationship is suddenly being viewed as a good-bad, win-lose, either-

or situation. That this was all okay, and you were (once) a lovely,

wonderful friend and companion until you and your beloved

contemplated making it official is almost hypocritical. The mirror

may need to be held up to all parties as to why. It peels to the

very core what everyone truly, in their heart-of-hearts, believes

in. It seems that everyone is being allowed to stand in their

belief...except for you.

 

It appears in your letter that you are the one most willing to make

concessions. You may make someone very happy, you may make someone

else very unhappy, and you will have given up a very generous portion

of your " self " in the process. Who will make you happy?

 

You will continue to spend years banging your head against the wall

trying to appease all parties, " being " something for someone else.

The one who will suffer the most will be your self. You will find

that you have given away everything you have ever believed in,

admired or loved, or identified about your self to make someone else

happy, beit your parents, your lover, her family, or your religion.

And every time that happens, somewhere a seed of resentment is

planted. It may not grow immediately...seeds can lay dormant for

years. But they are there and they will grow.

 

Are you willing to give up the " god " in yourself, the loving of your

self...placing your faith in the externals, and that all will iron

iself out in the end? What if it doesn't? What will " you " have

left? A shattered faith, a shattered family?

 

You are now losing the joy and peace of the present moment by

projecting the fear of the unknown future. How very sad that your

families cannot be happy for you. Continue to show nothing but love

and reverence for the God in all, but most importantly love and honor

yourself first. Hopefully they will see your shining soul and rise

above their perceived limitations of conformity. Stand firm in

you...but make it good. You can be steadfast, and very, very kind at

the same time. You're an original...happily keep it that way!

 

much love and light,

sal.

 

 

, " deejaykam " <amitsdesign

wrote:

>

> Namaste,

>

> Good Morning to everybody, thank you for taking the time to read

this

> as I am in one of the most difficult situations. I am now turning to

> my religion for answers, clarity and the right path for me to follow

> with my life.

>

> I'll briefly try to explain some of the hardships I have been

facing.

> 8 years ago I began dating a young lady, not knowing much about

> religion, and unfortunately still not knowing much. I continued our

> relationship and as the years passed, our hearts grew closer and

> closer. We went through college together, we spent our early years

> after college together, and she grew very close to my family.

> Unfortunately, I never took into consideration her religious faith,

as

> she is a liberal Muslim, and I have only seen my love for her.

>

> We discussed on how we would be able to be together, share both our

> religions with each other and our children, however there are many

> differences that have left us lost without answers. She explained

that

> she needed a decision and that she could no longer carry this

> relationship forward without a hope for our future to be together.

In

> order to perform the act of marriage her way I would have to

convert,

> however we discussed that it would be " fake " and that she would tell

> her parents that I would continue to follow my religion and I would

> not be converting, however my family is extremely against anything

of

> the sort.

>

> As accomodating Hindu religion is, unfortunately Islam is not. In

> addition, I have an enormous burden over my shoulders because I am

the

> only child of my parents, and they envision me marrying a Hindu

woman

> and having Hindu children. I am just now trying to search deep

inside

> myself to learn and absorb my faith because I am simply lost, left

> without answers, debating to make a decision between the love of my

> life and my family.

>

> I am looking for guidance and reaching out for help. I cannot

imagine

> myself with anybody else, and all the things that I love about her I

> feel I cannot find with anybody else. We are amazing with each other

> without religion involved, however this is something that will never

> leave us, and we both wish to continue believing in our respective

> faiths.

>

> Thank you for listening and I look forward to hearing your

> knowledgable responses.

>

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Namaste: Ramakrishna, the Guru of Shree Maa, said this about the

universality of all religions: " There is One God of us all, who is

called by many names in many languages. As many as there are

individuals, so many are the ways of worshiping the One God. The

point of religious experience is not to engage in intellectual debate,

but to become submerged in the ecstasy of divine love through devotion

to our path. "

Ramakrishna practiced the basic tenets of the world's great religions,

and personally verified the truth of each of them. He reached the

same level of bliss and unity with God from each path. He stands

today as a unifying example of mutual respect and reciprocal

admiration, while many others are actually fighting over what to call

divinity in a variety of languages.

He used to tell the story about the water of the pond of his village.

The Hindus drew water and called it jal, the Muslims drew the same

water and called it pani, and the Christians drew the same water and

called it water. Yet it was the same to them all.

He said that every action performed with respect and attentiveness was

a form of worship, so that every individual has his or her own way of

honoring God.

Religious experience is not born of the mind. It occurs when one goes

beyond, beyond all thought. Religious experience occurs when we

become consumed by the ecstasy of intuitive cognition, when we fall in

love to the extent that we forget ourselves.

These words of wisdom from Ramakrishna have been changing the lives of

devotees for the last 125 years because they speak to the unity of the

heart, not the divisions of the mind. Meditate on these words, and

study the life of this great unifier of the great religious

traditions, excerpted from the book, " Ramakrishna, The Nectar of

Eternal Bliss, by Shree Maa. It is available from the Devi Mandir web

site. www.shreemaa.org

 

Jai Maa Jai Swami

 

vishweshwar

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

, " deejaykam " <amitsdesign wrote:

>

> Namaste,

>

> Good Morning to everybody, thank you for taking the time to read this

> as I am in one of the most difficult situations. I am now turning to

> my religion for answers, clarity and the right path for me to follow

> with my life.

>

> I'll briefly try to explain some of the hardships I have been facing.

> 8 years ago I began dating a young lady, not knowing much about

> religion, and unfortunately still not knowing much. I continued our

> relationship and as the years passed, our hearts grew closer and

> closer. We went through college together, we spent our early years

> after college together, and she grew very close to my family.

> Unfortunately, I never took into consideration her religious faith, as

> she is a liberal Muslim, and I have only seen my love for her.

>

> We discussed on how we would be able to be together, share both our

> religions with each other and our children, however there are many

> differences that have left us lost without answers. She explained that

> she needed a decision and that she could no longer carry this

> relationship forward without a hope for our future to be together. In

> order to perform the act of marriage her way I would have to convert,

> however we discussed that it would be " fake " and that she would tell

> her parents that I would continue to follow my religion and I would

> not be converting, however my family is extremely against anything of

> the sort.

>

> As accomodating Hindu religion is, unfortunately Islam is not. In

> addition, I have an enormous burden over my shoulders because I am the

> only child of my parents, and they envision me marrying a Hindu woman

> and having Hindu children. I am just now trying to search deep inside

> myself to learn and absorb my faith because I am simply lost, left

> without answers, debating to make a decision between the love of my

> life and my family.

>

> I am looking for guidance and reaching out for help. I cannot imagine

> myself with anybody else, and all the things that I love about her I

> feel I cannot find with anybody else. We are amazing with each other

> without religion involved, however this is something that will never

> leave us, and we both wish to continue believing in our respective

> faiths.

>

> Thank you for listening and I look forward to hearing your

> knowledgable responses.

>

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Dear Deejaykam. I was so moved by your story. I am thankful to Maa and

Swamiji for providing a place for us to seek help from one another. Jai

Maa! I hope that my words can help you. I am certainly no expert on this

subject, but I try to incorporate Lord Shiva in my daily life and in my

children's lives. My husband is Hindu, though not in a ritualistic way. I

do the pujas, teach them the mantras, etc. Before marrying though, he knew I

was religious and we discussed in detail that I would like to teach my kids

puja and about the Chandi. Discussing this beforehand helped us. In

whatever path you both choose, I think you mustn't feel as if you are making

any concessions in order to appease your love. You must make conscious

decisions to set the foundation for how you want to live your lives

together. You must make your choices out of free will or else you will

resent each other. You must also accept each other as you are now, today and

not hope or hold out for some sort of change or enlightenment. If it comes,

wonderful, if not, you will feel stuck.

 

There is a difference between living with your love in a world where you do

not have to be responsible for anyone other than yourselves and in finding a

harmonious, peaceful life together in which you can raise a family and have

respect for one another's beliefs. Fundamentally, you will both need a

peaceful relationship that can be your respite away from the turmoil you

experience outside your home, living in this chaotic world. When you have

children together there are so many things that you will have to compromise

on, but you must respect yourself enough to hold true to what you

fundamentally believe. Your children will respect you for that and they

will learn to hold on to their truths by seeing your example.

 

It really does matter what each other's families think about the religious

issue. When you have children, you will need the support of close family

and friends to be there when you can't. If you have parents and in-laws who

are loving and nurturing people, you will want them to be a part of your

children's lives. Therefore, it is important to engage them now and get

their support before you move forward. They have objections to marrying

across religions because they have probably seen great misery in South Asia

after partition and great violence among different religious factions.

Their fears are valid, but can be tempered if you believe in your

relationship. You can go to them, for instance, with a plan of how you will

raise your children and deal with the forces in this world that may be

against your relationship. However, before you can do this, I think you

must determine whether your relationship with this woman will, in fact,

foster the kind of life you really want to have.

 

Only you and she can decide this, but it really helps to talk about as much

as you can up front and write down your intentions for your lives together.

I think the most important thing in having a bi-religious relationship is to

agree that both religions are equally important and valid and that neither

person's religious beliefs will take precedence in how you raise your kids.

This means that neither person will convert, that if you both want to and

have the energy for it, the children will be able to experience both

religions in terms of culture, customs, prayer rituals, etc. One of you may

be less religious now, but once kids come, that person may want to explore

God on a deeper level, so it will be important to make sure that there is

room in your relationship for both of you to do this.

 

There are in fact many ideals and morals that all religions teach and

perhaps you can both find some Sanskrit mantras and Persian/Urdu prayers

that mean similar things when translated into English. For the first 8-10

years, you will only be teaching very broad ideas anyway, so you can really

teach theology as it relates to both religions. I know that it may not be

easy, but if she wants you to be in her life, then she must accept you for

who you are and that includes your self-identity as a Hindu. If you both

believe that there is a tangible, practical way to live your lives with two

religions, your parents will eventually acquiesce. They are only looking

out for your happiness and they love you. You are very lucky to have

parents like that. I wish you light, peace and resolve. Whenever I have a

question, Lord Shiva always shows me the way. If you can meditate, I know

that will help you find the answers you seek.

 

Jai Maa!

 

Saswati

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Thank you so much for your objective and realistic advice, it truly

means an enormous amount to me. I'm in the process right now of

looking at how much room we have for one another to accomodate for

each others respective religions. I have been doing much reading over

the past weekend as well in terms of becoming closer to our religion,

and have been thinking about all the great advice I have been getting

from our wonderful group here. I just want to re-iterate how greatful

I am to have this enviornment to connect with our community especially

during such a difficult period in my life. Thank you again and I'll

keep everyone posted about how things are going.

 

Humbly,

Amit Kumar

 

, " Saswati B. Ramaswami "

<saswati_ramaswami wrote:

>

> Dear Deejaykam. I was so moved by your story. I am thankful to Maa and

> Swamiji for providing a place for us to seek help from one another. Jai

> Maa! I hope that my words can help you. I am certainly no expert

on this

> subject, but I try to incorporate Lord Shiva in my daily life and in my

> children's lives. My husband is Hindu, though not in a ritualistic

way. I

> do the pujas, teach them the mantras, etc. Before marrying though,

he knew I

> was religious and we discussed in detail that I would like to teach

my kids

> puja and about the Chandi. Discussing this beforehand helped us. In

> whatever path you both choose, I think you mustn't feel as if you

are making

> any concessions in order to appease your love. You must make conscious

> decisions to set the foundation for how you want to live your lives

> together. You must make your choices out of free will or else you will

> resent each other. You must also accept each other as you are now,

today and

> not hope or hold out for some sort of change or enlightenment. If it

comes,

> wonderful, if not, you will feel stuck.

>

> There is a difference between living with your love in a world where

you do

> not have to be responsible for anyone other than yourselves and in

finding a

> harmonious, peaceful life together in which you can raise a family

and have

> respect for one another's beliefs. Fundamentally, you will both need a

> peaceful relationship that can be your respite away from the turmoil you

> experience outside your home, living in this chaotic world. When you

have

> children together there are so many things that you will have to

compromise

> on, but you must respect yourself enough to hold true to what you

> fundamentally believe. Your children will respect you for that and they

> will learn to hold on to their truths by seeing your example.

>

> It really does matter what each other's families think about the

religious

> issue. When you have children, you will need the support of close

family

> and friends to be there when you can't. If you have parents and

in-laws who

> are loving and nurturing people, you will want them to be a part of your

> children's lives. Therefore, it is important to engage them now and get

> their support before you move forward. They have objections to marrying

> across religions because they have probably seen great misery in

South Asia

> after partition and great violence among different religious factions.

> Their fears are valid, but can be tempered if you believe in your

> relationship. You can go to them, for instance, with a plan of how

you will

> raise your children and deal with the forces in this world that may be

> against your relationship. However, before you can do this, I think you

> must determine whether your relationship with this woman will, in fact,

> foster the kind of life you really want to have.

>

> Only you and she can decide this, but it really helps to talk about

as much

> as you can up front and write down your intentions for your lives

together.

> I think the most important thing in having a bi-religious

relationship is to

> agree that both religions are equally important and valid and that

neither

> person's religious beliefs will take precedence in how you raise

your kids.

> This means that neither person will convert, that if you both want

to and

> have the energy for it, the children will be able to experience both

> religions in terms of culture, customs, prayer rituals, etc. One of

you may

> be less religious now, but once kids come, that person may want to

explore

> God on a deeper level, so it will be important to make sure that

there is

> room in your relationship for both of you to do this.

>

> There are in fact many ideals and morals that all religions teach and

> perhaps you can both find some Sanskrit mantras and Persian/Urdu prayers

> that mean similar things when translated into English. For the

first 8-10

> years, you will only be teaching very broad ideas anyway, so you can

really

> teach theology as it relates to both religions. I know that it may

not be

> easy, but if she wants you to be in her life, then she must accept

you for

> who you are and that includes your self-identity as a Hindu. If you

both

> believe that there is a tangible, practical way to live your lives

with two

> religions, your parents will eventually acquiesce. They are only

looking

> out for your happiness and they love you. You are very lucky to have

> parents like that. I wish you light, peace and resolve. Whenever I

have a

> question, Lord Shiva always shows me the way. If you can meditate,

I know

> that will help you find the answers you seek.

>

> Jai Maa!

>

> Saswati

>

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I think that was a simply lovely response to a very difficult

situation, Saswati.

 

Jai Maa!

Chris

 

 

 

, " Saswati B. Ramaswami "

<saswati_ramaswami wrote:

>

> Dear Deejaykam. I was so moved by your story. I am thankful to Maa and

> Swamiji for providing a place for us to seek help from one another. Jai

> Maa! I hope that my words can help you. I am certainly no expert

on this

> subject, but I try to incorporate Lord Shiva in my daily life and in my

> children's lives. My husband is Hindu, though not in a ritualistic

way. I

> do the pujas, teach them the mantras, etc. Before marrying though,

he knew I

> was religious and we discussed in detail that I would like to teach

my kids

> puja and about the Chandi. Discussing this beforehand helped us. In

> whatever path you both choose, I think you mustn't feel as if you

are making

> any concessions in order to appease your love. You must make conscious

> decisions to set the foundation for how you want to live your lives

> together. You must make your choices out of free will or else you will

> resent each other. You must also accept each other as you are now,

today and

> not hope or hold out for some sort of change or enlightenment. If it

comes,

> wonderful, if not, you will feel stuck.

>

> There is a difference between living with your love in a world where

you do

> not have to be responsible for anyone other than yourselves and in

finding a

> harmonious, peaceful life together in which you can raise a family

and have

> respect for one another's beliefs. Fundamentally, you will both need a

> peaceful relationship that can be your respite away from the turmoil you

> experience outside your home, living in this chaotic world. When you

have

> children together there are so many things that you will have to

compromise

> on, but you must respect yourself enough to hold true to what you

> fundamentally believe. Your children will respect you for that and they

> will learn to hold on to their truths by seeing your example.

>

> It really does matter what each other's families think about the

religious

> issue. When you have children, you will need the support of close

family

> and friends to be there when you can't. If you have parents and

in-laws who

> are loving and nurturing people, you will want them to be a part of your

> children's lives. Therefore, it is important to engage them now and get

> their support before you move forward. They have objections to marrying

> across religions because they have probably seen great misery in

South Asia

> after partition and great violence among different religious factions.

> Their fears are valid, but can be tempered if you believe in your

> relationship. You can go to them, for instance, with a plan of how

you will

> raise your children and deal with the forces in this world that may be

> against your relationship. However, before you can do this, I think you

> must determine whether your relationship with this woman will, in fact,

> foster the kind of life you really want to have.

>

> Only you and she can decide this, but it really helps to talk about

as much

> as you can up front and write down your intentions for your lives

together.

> I think the most important thing in having a bi-religious

relationship is to

> agree that both religions are equally important and valid and that

neither

> person's religious beliefs will take precedence in how you raise

your kids.

> This means that neither person will convert, that if you both want

to and

> have the energy for it, the children will be able to experience both

> religions in terms of culture, customs, prayer rituals, etc. One of

you may

> be less religious now, but once kids come, that person may want to

explore

> God on a deeper level, so it will be important to make sure that

there is

> room in your relationship for both of you to do this.

>

> There are in fact many ideals and morals that all religions teach and

> perhaps you can both find some Sanskrit mantras and Persian/Urdu prayers

> that mean similar things when translated into English. For the

first 8-10

> years, you will only be teaching very broad ideas anyway, so you can

really

> teach theology as it relates to both religions. I know that it may

not be

> easy, but if she wants you to be in her life, then she must accept

you for

> who you are and that includes your self-identity as a Hindu. If you

both

> believe that there is a tangible, practical way to live your lives

with two

> religions, your parents will eventually acquiesce. They are only

looking

> out for your happiness and they love you. You are very lucky to have

> parents like that. I wish you light, peace and resolve. Whenever I

have a

> question, Lord Shiva always shows me the way. If you can meditate,

I know

> that will help you find the answers you seek.

>

> Jai Maa!

>

> Saswati

>

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Thank you Sal, I am trying to truly find my source of happiness within

my self and outside of myself. Your words of advice shine of truth and

I am going to try to find inner peace. Thank you again.

 

Jai Maa!

 

, " sal. " <salpaulsen wrote:

>

> Peace to you dear friend,

>

> My heart goes out to you as you search for your peace. You wish for

> knowledgable responses, knowledge being based that which has been

> experienced, well here goes...

>

> You will find, in this situation, that you will exhaust yourself

> trying to make everyone happy. How sad that was once an open, loving

> relationship is suddenly being viewed as a good-bad, win-lose, either-

> or situation. That this was all okay, and you were (once) a lovely,

> wonderful friend and companion until you and your beloved

> contemplated making it official is almost hypocritical. The mirror

> may need to be held up to all parties as to why. It peels to the

> very core what everyone truly, in their heart-of-hearts, believes

> in. It seems that everyone is being allowed to stand in their

> belief...except for you.

>

> It appears in your letter that you are the one most willing to make

> concessions. You may make someone very happy, you may make someone

> else very unhappy, and you will have given up a very generous portion

> of your " self " in the process. Who will make you happy?

>

> You will continue to spend years banging your head against the wall

> trying to appease all parties, " being " something for someone else.

> The one who will suffer the most will be your self. You will find

> that you have given away everything you have ever believed in,

> admired or loved, or identified about your self to make someone else

> happy, beit your parents, your lover, her family, or your religion.

> And every time that happens, somewhere a seed of resentment is

> planted. It may not grow immediately...seeds can lay dormant for

> years. But they are there and they will grow.

>

> Are you willing to give up the " god " in yourself, the loving of your

> self...placing your faith in the externals, and that all will iron

> iself out in the end? What if it doesn't? What will " you " have

> left? A shattered faith, a shattered family?

>

> You are now losing the joy and peace of the present moment by

> projecting the fear of the unknown future. How very sad that your

> families cannot be happy for you. Continue to show nothing but love

> and reverence for the God in all, but most importantly love and honor

> yourself first. Hopefully they will see your shining soul and rise

> above their perceived limitations of conformity. Stand firm in

> you...but make it good. You can be steadfast, and very, very kind at

> the same time. You're an original...happily keep it that way!

>

> much love and light,

> sal.

>

>

> , " deejaykam " <amitsdesign@>

> wrote:

> >

> > Namaste,

> >

> > Good Morning to everybody, thank you for taking the time to read

> this

> > as I am in one of the most difficult situations. I am now turning to

> > my religion for answers, clarity and the right path for me to follow

> > with my life.

> >

> > I'll briefly try to explain some of the hardships I have been

> facing.

> > 8 years ago I began dating a young lady, not knowing much about

> > religion, and unfortunately still not knowing much. I continued our

> > relationship and as the years passed, our hearts grew closer and

> > closer. We went through college together, we spent our early years

> > after college together, and she grew very close to my family.

> > Unfortunately, I never took into consideration her religious faith,

> as

> > she is a liberal Muslim, and I have only seen my love for her.

> >

> > We discussed on how we would be able to be together, share both our

> > religions with each other and our children, however there are many

> > differences that have left us lost without answers. She explained

> that

> > she needed a decision and that she could no longer carry this

> > relationship forward without a hope for our future to be together.

> In

> > order to perform the act of marriage her way I would have to

> convert,

> > however we discussed that it would be " fake " and that she would tell

> > her parents that I would continue to follow my religion and I would

> > not be converting, however my family is extremely against anything

> of

> > the sort.

> >

> > As accomodating Hindu religion is, unfortunately Islam is not. In

> > addition, I have an enormous burden over my shoulders because I am

> the

> > only child of my parents, and they envision me marrying a Hindu

> woman

> > and having Hindu children. I am just now trying to search deep

> inside

> > myself to learn and absorb my faith because I am simply lost, left

> > without answers, debating to make a decision between the love of my

> > life and my family.

> >

> > I am looking for guidance and reaching out for help. I cannot

> imagine

> > myself with anybody else, and all the things that I love about her I

> > feel I cannot find with anybody else. We are amazing with each other

> > without religion involved, however this is something that will never

> > leave us, and we both wish to continue believing in our respective

> > faiths.

> >

> > Thank you for listening and I look forward to hearing your

> > knowledgable responses.

> >

>

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And I am very grateful to you, dear friend, for reminding us that -

truly - love is All There Is. There probably isn't a one of us here

(okay, maybe Mother and Swami) who hasn't at some point and time in

their life been bewildered as to why a condition has put on their love

or on being loved, when - deep down - all we are is love.

 

Know you are a loved child in this universe, and in this forum! We are

greatly blessed with your friendship!

 

peace!

sal.

 

 

 

, " deejaykam " <amitsdesign wrote:

>

> Thank you Sal, I am trying to truly find my source of happiness within

> my self and outside of myself. Your words of advice shine of truth and

> I am going to try to find inner peace. Thank you again.

>

> Jai Maa!

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