Very difficult situation I am facing..p.s....

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....oh, and don't forget to tell your families that you will marry a

loving woman of God...and that you will have children of God...and

you will love them and raise them to be loving children of faith of a

loving God.

 

Strength of faith ought to count for something...last I checked, that

was a very good thing.

 

keep the faith! so much love!

sal.

 

 

 

, " sal. " <salpaulsen wrote:

>

> Peace to you dear friend,

>

> My heart goes out to you as you search for your peace. You wish

for

> knowledgable responses, knowledge being based that which has been

> experienced, well here goes...

>

> You will find, in this situation, that you will exhaust yourself

> trying to make everyone happy. How sad that was once an open,

loving

> relationship is suddenly being viewed as a good-bad, win-lose,

either-

> or situation. That this was all okay, and you were (once) a lovely,

> wonderful friend and companion until you and your beloved

> contemplated making it official is almost hypocritical. The mirror

> may need to be held up to all parties as to why. It peels to the

> very core what everyone truly, in their heart-of-hearts, believes

> in. It seems that everyone is being allowed to stand in their

> belief...except for you.

>

> It appears in your letter that you are the one most willing to make

> concessions. You may make someone very happy, you may make someone

> else very unhappy, and you will have given up a very generous

portion

> of your " self " in the process. Who will make you happy?

>

> You will continue to spend years banging your head against the wall

> trying to appease all parties, " being " something for someone else.

> The one who will suffer the most will be your self. You will find

> that you have given away everything you have ever believed in,

> admired or loved, or identified about your self to make someone

else

> happy, beit your parents, your lover, her family, or your religion.

> And every time that happens, somewhere a seed of resentment is

> planted. It may not grow immediately...seeds can lay dormant for

> years. But they are there and they will grow.

>

> Are you willing to give up the " god " in yourself, the loving of

your

> self...placing your faith in the externals, and that all will iron

> iself out in the end? What if it doesn't? What will " you " have

> left? A shattered faith, a shattered family?

>

> You are now losing the joy and peace of the present moment by

> projecting the fear of the unknown future. How very sad that your

> families cannot be happy for you. Continue to show nothing but love

> and reverence for the God in all, but most importantly love and

honor

> yourself first. Hopefully they will see your shining soul and rise

> above their perceived limitations of conformity. Stand firm in

> you...but make it good. You can be steadfast, and very, very kind

at

> the same time. You're an original...happily keep it that way!

>

> much love and light,

> sal.

>

>

> , " deejaykam " <amitsdesign@>

> wrote:

> >

> > Namaste,

> >

> > Good Morning to everybody, thank you for taking the time to read

> this

> > as I am in one of the most difficult situations. I am now turning

to

> > my religion for answers, clarity and the right path for me to

follow

> > with my life.

> >

> > I'll briefly try to explain some of the hardships I have been

> facing.

> > 8 years ago I began dating a young lady, not knowing much about

> > religion, and unfortunately still not knowing much. I continued

our

> > relationship and as the years passed, our hearts grew closer and

> > closer. We went through college together, we spent our early years

> > after college together, and she grew very close to my family.

> > Unfortunately, I never took into consideration her religious

faith,

> as

> > she is a liberal Muslim, and I have only seen my love for her.

> >

> > We discussed on how we would be able to be together, share both

our

> > religions with each other and our children, however there are many

> > differences that have left us lost without answers. She explained

> that

> > she needed a decision and that she could no longer carry this

> > relationship forward without a hope for our future to be

together.

> In

> > order to perform the act of marriage her way I would have to

> convert,

> > however we discussed that it would be " fake " and that she would

tell

> > her parents that I would continue to follow my religion and I

would

> > not be converting, however my family is extremely against

anything

> of

> > the sort.

> >

> > As accomodating Hindu religion is, unfortunately Islam is not. In

> > addition, I have an enormous burden over my shoulders because I

am

> the

> > only child of my parents, and they envision me marrying a Hindu

> woman

> > and having Hindu children. I am just now trying to search deep

> inside

> > myself to learn and absorb my faith because I am simply lost, left

> > without answers, debating to make a decision between the love of

my

> > life and my family.

> >

> > I am looking for guidance and reaching out for help. I cannot

> imagine

> > myself with anybody else, and all the things that I love about

her I

> > feel I cannot find with anybody else. We are amazing with each

other

> > without religion involved, however this is something that will

never

> > leave us, and we both wish to continue believing in our respective

> > faiths.

> >

> > Thank you for listening and I look forward to hearing your

> > knowledgable responses.

> >

>