Guest guest Posted June 8, 2008 Report Share Posted June 8, 2008 Namaste Vish, Devas, Devis, This is a great question. I have no idea how to answer, but this came to mind: Sometimes when that friction festers between egos, you can say whether aloud or silently: 'I apologize for getting annoyed with you, I was the one who unconsciously got in your way.' Some incredible harmonies may issue forth from such an attitude. Next time you cut yourself while chopping vegetables, instead of getting angry at yourself and the knife, hold the knife near the wound, and you might say " Im sorry for getting in your way, I wasn't paying attention, please forgive me. " Such a wound may then heal more quickly than otherwise. Aim, Hreem, Kleem, Jai Maa, Jai Swami! Eric --- On Sun, 6/8/08, inspectionconnection108 <inspectionconnection108 wrote: > inspectionconnection108 <inspectionconnection108 > [www.ShreeMaa.org] Harmony > > Sunday, June 8, 2008, 2:48 AM > Namaste all: I find myself unsettled sometimes because I > cannot get > along smoothly with others all the time. I know that the > most > beneficail behavior is egoless, yet my ego pops up, and > without > thinking, I say or do something which creates discomfort in > another. > So I ask these questions of you all in order to gain a > deeper > understanding of my actions, and how to become more > harmonious devotee. > How does one become harmonious with one's family? What > attitude > should one take in order to get along with everyone, in all > situations? If one is not getting along with another, what > can one do > to become harmonious? > > Jai Ma Jai Swami > > vishweshwar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2008 Report Share Posted June 9, 2008 Namaste Vish and all, something which has helped me: when I had problems getting along with someone (in fact there was intense dislike on my part), I added 'for the welfare of (this person's name)' to my puja sankalpa in the morning. After a while, I realized the problem had disappeared. hope this helps, with love, Henny , " inspectionconnection108 " <inspectionconnection108 wrote: > > Namaste all: I find myself unsettled sometimes because I cannot get > along smoothly with others all the time. I know that the most > beneficail behavior is egoless, yet my ego pops up, and without > thinking, I say or do something which creates discomfort in another. > So I ask these questions of you all in order to gain a deeper > understanding of my actions, and how to become more harmonious devotee. > How does one become harmonious with one's family? What attitude > should one take in order to get along with everyone, in all > situations? If one is not getting along with another, what can one do > to become harmonious? > > Jai Ma Jai Swami > > vishweshwar > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2008 Report Share Posted June 9, 2008 Dear Vish, Thanks so much for this post, though not seeing the post before now, I walked to work today with the book Before Becoming This with the view to referring to sections from the book and asking Maa's help for the very same questions you have posted. I wanted to understand how Maa saw God in beings that caused Her discomfort - like when the family forced her to eat meat, or the teacher that flogged her - and how could i apply Her principle to my daily life. The good and bad resides within us all, how do we see only that God-good and overlook or ignore all that is not God? I pray that we can hear from Beloved Maa on your questions also. love, Kali , "inspectionconnection108" <inspectionconnection108 wrote:>> Namaste all: I find myself unsettled sometimes because I cannot get> along smoothly with others all the time. I know that the most> beneficail behavior is egoless, yet my ego pops up, and without> thinking, I say or do something which creates discomfort in another.> So I ask these questions of you all in order to gain a deeper> understanding of my actions, and how to become more harmonious devotee. > How does one become harmonious with one's family? What attitude> should one take in order to get along with everyone, in all> situations? If one is not getting along with another, what can one do> to become harmonious?> > Jai Ma Jai Swami> > vishweshwar> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2008 Report Share Posted June 9, 2008 Dear Vishveshwar and Family, Namaste. Thank you for this post. I have found myself struggling with the same thing several times, especially in my interaction at work. But somehow during my mental post-mortem of the situation, I reflect back and feel very bad. Many times, I feel like apologizing to that person but cannot always do so. Some introspection at various times have led to these thoughts: 1. I am confusing being straightforward/honest with bluntness and possibly end up being rude. 2. I have felt that if you have faith in God then you would not react so quickly to any situation. The times when I have reacted judgementally to situations has often been when I have felt the need to " fix things " and correct people immediately thus gratifying my ego but not truly " being just " . 3. I think for me it comes from a strong sense of doership and control. If I were not looking for immediate justice to be " meted out " by taking ownership of judgement upon myself, I would just let things take their course. 4. However, it may happen that sometimes it might be your duty to intervene and correct the situation but in that case, I have to learn to probably do it with utmost gentleness and kindness. I am still working on this...but somehow felt I could connect with what you are saying. Thank you once again, Jai Maa, Prathibha , " inspectionconnection108 " <inspectionconnection108 wrote: > > Namaste all: I find myself unsettled sometimes because I cannot get > along smoothly with others all the time. I know that the most > beneficail behavior is egoless, yet my ego pops up, and without > thinking, I say or do something which creates discomfort in another. > So I ask these questions of you all in order to gain a deeper > understanding of my actions, and how to become more harmonious devotee. > How does one become harmonious with one's family? What attitude > should one take in order to get along with everyone, in all > situations? If one is not getting along with another, what can one do > to become harmonious? > > Jai Ma Jai Swami > > vishweshwar > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2008 Report Share Posted June 9, 2008 Namaste' Dear Vishweshwar... I wish I had a better answer to your question. I know how difficult it can be to be in harmony all the time when we live with others and they have their own trips and agendas that may or may not be in alignment with our own. What I have found to work best for me is to do my best to keep my own mind in harmony. If I can do that it will generally give me the time to think before I speak and consider if my words will be helpful or hurtful. With a little time I can consider whether my response is coming from a place of simply wanting my own way, or if my ideas truly are the best for all of us (which, of course, I like to believe they are ;-) ). I need to pay attention to my mind in order to do this though. Sometimes when my mind in inharmonious I don't even notice it until I've said something I will need to make amends for later, and the disharmony usually doesn't even have anything to do with whatever has set me off. If I am unable to do that, I go chant for awhile. By the time I'm done my ego is defeated and I am able to come back to the conversation with greater clarity and love. I don't even know if it is important to get along with everyone all the time. When there is friction it shows us where our work is. I hope this was helpful. JAI MAA JAI SWAMIJI OM Shanti Morningsong , " inspectionconnection108 " <inspectionconnection108 wrote: > > Namaste all: I find myself unsettled sometimes because I cannot get > along smoothly with others all the time. I know that the most > beneficail behavior is egoless, yet my ego pops up, and without > thinking, I say or do something which creates discomfort in another. > So I ask these questions of you all in order to gain a deeper > understanding of my actions, and how to become more harmonious devotee. > How does one become harmonious with one's family? What attitude > should one take in order to get along with everyone, in all > situations? If one is not getting along with another, what can one do > to become harmonious? > > Jai Ma Jai Swami > > vishweshwar > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2008 Report Share Posted June 9, 2008 to the extent that we are clear is the extent that we become a mirror. if people are not ready to look at themselves then they will avoid looking into the mirror. i find that often we get guidance but our own insecurity or fear filters it from being clear. we are so afraid it will come out offensive or unclear, or not heard right, etc. that it does! but the guidance is coming from ma and its clear! reminds me of the chapter in the gita. god is the do-er we are just the vessle. ive found that the desire to be around certain people diminishes as i purify myself. as does also my tolerance towards others. its an interesting paradox because i am seeking unity, yet those who wish to remain in duality consciousness bring out my worst. ive found myself getting very frusturated with peoples dramas and wanting to just get back onto my assan in front of my altar, preforming my puja and path. yet at the same time i know intellectually that my assan is everywhere world and my altar is the whole world. and the only good any of this practice does is enable us to love more and accept more. what do others do about this paradox i wonder? thanks everyone for being, dan , " sharanam_lalitambike " <prats74 wrote: > > Dear Vishveshwar and Family, > Namaste. Thank you for this post. I have found myself struggling with > the same thing several times, especially in my interaction at work. > But somehow during my mental post-mortem of the situation, I reflect > back and feel very bad. Many times, I feel like apologizing to that > person but cannot always do so. > > Some introspection at various times have led to these thoughts: > 1. I am confusing being straightforward/honest with bluntness and > possibly end up being rude. > > 2. I have felt that if you have faith in God then you would not react > so quickly to any situation. The times when I have reacted > judgementally to situations has often been when I have felt the need > to " fix things " and correct people immediately thus gratifying my ego > but not truly " being just " . > > 3. I think for me it comes from a strong sense of doership and > control. If I were not looking for immediate justice to be " meted > out " by taking ownership of judgement upon myself, I would just let > things take their course. > > 4. However, it may happen that sometimes it might be your duty to > intervene and correct the situation but in that case, I have to learn > to probably do it with utmost gentleness and kindness. > > I am still working on this...but somehow felt I could connect with > what you are saying. > > Thank you once again, > > Jai Maa, > Prathibha > > , " inspectionconnection108 " > <inspectionconnection108@> wrote: > > > > Namaste all: I find myself unsettled sometimes because I cannot get > > along smoothly with others all the time. I know that the most > > beneficail behavior is egoless, yet my ego pops up, and without > > thinking, I say or do something which creates discomfort in another. > > So I ask these questions of you all in order to gain a deeper > > understanding of my actions, and how to become more harmonious > devotee. > > How does one become harmonious with one's family? What attitude > > should one take in order to get along with everyone, in all > > situations? If one is not getting along with another, what can one > do > > to become harmonious? > > > > Jai Ma Jai Swami > > > > vishweshwar > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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