Beware of trolls ( was relationship and the undkindness of strangers)

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Ammachi , Mike Brooker <patria1818 wrote:

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>>>>>>>>> Don't quit this group because of one sour-puss poster.

" bluepearlight " , aka " tomgull " is a notorious troll, who seems to get his

jollies by savaging other devotees. Don't let the terrorists (or trolls) win.

Don't be the audience or victim that he wants. Don't reply to his messages.

Don't feed the troll.

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> Keval<<<<<<<<<<<<

 

.........dear Keval, i think that you are being a little too simplistic here....i

do honestly believe that there is far more to Tom than your label of

" troll " ....i believe (perhaps naively) that Tom really IS trying in his own way

to be " loving " ...in a " tough love " sort of way....i think that he truly doesn't

understand what he is up to, when being so hurtful. i honestly think that he

didn't intend to hurt Vaishnavi, with his statements, that he didn't really

examine what he wrote, and didn't really try to put himself in someone else's

boots.....but only reacted in that same old way that the old fashioned preacher

on the pulpit, or the imam in the wahabised mosque would react....excoriating

the " sin " AND the " sinner " .....it seems to me that he honestly believes what he

is saying, and that he does deserve the same respect that all others on this

list deserve, even though he may not give others that respect....or expresses

his respect in strange, off hand, seemingly disrespectful ways....

 

i think that vaishnavi's expectation that tom should have " got her " back " "

rather than attacking her was an innocent expression of her feelings, but that

it is also not very congruent with the reality of tom's posts....

 

......dear ones....knowing the style of writing that our dear brother Tom adopts,

and thus understanding that this is really just who he is...and not expecting

anything different from him; knowing all this, yet we should hold him in our

hearts with love and compassion, and to tom also return love for hate, and

kindness for unkindness...otherwise we are lowering ourselves into that same old

gutter of me and mine...that old gutter of defending ourselves against false

accusations, that old gutter of letting someone else's words get to us, raising

our blood pressure, and our cortisol levels as we get more and more stressed

out....

 

can we just, knowing tom's " tough love " approach, let it go? let Tom be

Tom....(with the occasional possible attempts to correct his obvious errors of

fact)...and hope that tom will let us be ourselves....because really if we do

not wish to damage ourselves along with others, that is the approach that we'll

have to take.

 

Much Love to all of Amma's children on this list!

 

in Her Divine Love,

and in Her Service,

as ever,

your own Self,

 

visvanathan

 

Om Amrtesvaryai Namah!

 

 

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