Like attracts Like

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Like attracts Like

 

 

Only a loving person — one who is already loving — can find the

right partner.

 

This is my observation: if you are unhappy you will find somebody who

is unhappy. Unhappy people are attracted towards unhappy people. And

it is good, it is natural. It is good that the unhappy people are not

attracted towards happy people; otherwise they would destroy their

happiness. It is perfectly okay.

 

Only happy people are attracted towards happy people.

 

The same attracts the same. Intelligent people are attracted towards

intelligent people; stupid people are attracted towards stupid people.

 

You meet people of the same plane. So the first thing to remember is:

a relationship is bound to be bitter if it has grown out of

unhappiness. First be happy, be joyful, be celebrating, and then you

will find some other soul celebrating and there will be a meeting of

two dancing souls and a great dance will arise out of it.

 

Don't ask for a relationship out of loneliness, no. Then you are

moving in a wrong direction. Then the other will be used as a means

and the other will use you as a means. And nobody wants to be used as

a means! Every single individual is an end unto himself. It is

immoral to use anybody as a means.

 

First learn how to be alone. Meditation is a way of being alone.

 

If you can be happy when you are alone, you have learned the secret

of being happy. Now you can be happy together. If you are happy, then

you have something to share, to give. And when you give you get; it

is not the other way. Then a need arises to love somebody.

 

Ordinarily the need is to be loved by somebody. It is a wrong need.

It is a childish need; you are not mature. It is a child's attitude.

 

A child is born. Of course, the child cannot love the mother; he does

not know what love is and he does not know who is the mother and who

is the father. He is totally helpless. His being is still to be

integrated; he is not one piece; he is not together yet. He is just a

possibility. The mother has to love, the father has to love, the

family has to shower love on the child. Now he learns one thing: that

everybody has to love him. He never learns that he has to love. Now

the child will grow, and if he remains stuck with this attitude that

everybody has to love him, he will suffer his whole life. His body

has grown, but his mind has remained immature.

 

A mature person is one who comes to know the other need: that now I

have to love somebody.

 

The need to be loved is childish, immature. The need to love is

mature.

 

And when you are ready to love somebody, a beautiful relationship

will arise; otherwise not.

 

" Is it possible for two people in a relationship to be bad for each

other? " Yes, that's what is happening all over the world. To be good

is very difficult. You are not good even to yourself. How can you be

good to somebody else?

 

You don't even love yourself! How can you love somebody else? Love

yourself, be good to yourself.

 

Your so-called religious saints have been teaching you never to love

yourself, never to be good to yourself. Be hard on yourself! They

have been teaching you be soft towards others and hard towards

yourself. This is absurd.

 

I teach you that the first and foremost thing is to be loving towards

yourself. Don't be hard; be soft. Care about yourself. Learn how to

forgive yourself — again and again and again — seven times, seventy-

seven times, seven hundred seventy-seven times. Learn how to forgive

yourself. Don't be hard; don't be antagonistic towards yourself. Then

you will flower.

 

In that flowering you will attract some other flower. It is natural.

Stones attract stones; flowers attract flowers. Then there is a

relationship which has grace, which has beauty, which has a

benediction in it. If you can find such a relationship, your

relationship will grow into prayer;your love will become an ecstasy

and through love you will know what the divine is.

 

Baba said

 

" Unless a man discharges satisfactorily and disinterestedly the duties of his

station in life, his mind will not be purified and unless his mind is purified,

he cannot get self-realization. " .

 

Baba is every where just feel him and keep on saying ‘Om Sai Ram’ to whom so

ever you meet.

 

OM SAI SRI SAI JAI JAI SAI!!! Let us pray at the lotus feet of Bhagwan Baba who

is the incarnation of all gods and protector of all, to show mercy on us, and

increase our devotion towards him

 

Jai Sai Ram

Swamy Mahadevan

Bow to Shri Sai-Peace be to all

Baba Bless you ever!!!