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Hello Narsimhayeji. Thank you for your kind words.

 

Please suggest me a solution for my problem. I feel it a bit awkward

to share my story. But I m really worried what should i do.

 

The problem i was talking about is regarding the delay in my

marriage. Though i've crossed the normal marriageable age,Im not yet

married. Im a 28 yr old girl. I like someone whom i met online on a

matrimonial site last year. Though we are located at two different

cities, We became good friends, talked often. We have not yet met

personally. I developed a liking for him and i proposed to him and

talked about marriage. But he said he likes me, but only as a friend

and for marriage, we need to be in love. But after a few months, he

said that he also loves me. I was more than happy. I have pressure

of getting married from my family members. So i talked abt it with

him, but he keeps saying he doesnt want to hurt me, but he has high

ambitions for his career and can sacrifice anything for that and he

cannot me marry now. Though it may sound really stupid and

impractical to say this after hearing all this, but I still love him

and want to marry him and no one else.I cannot even think of a

relationship with anyone else. I dont know waht to do. All this has

affected my professional life (i've lost concentration in my work)

and also my personal life(m always depressed). I was pursuing post

graduation studies. But even that has been affected. I've started

using rudraksha beads. During the initial 15 days of use, I felt

quite energetic and started pursuing my professional as well as

academic studies with enthusiasm. On one occasion, i remember having

a do or die situation at workplace, i was given an important

assignment to work on which was just not getting through. I prayed

to God and touched the rudraksha(not directly) and like magic,

things went fine, in fact i received a lot of appreciation from my

seniors and i thanked Lord Shiva for helping me. I dont know why im

writing all this. Just got a bit nostalgic.

 

But the problem of marriage still remains. I like someone who

doesnot want to marry me now. Now he has got a career opportunity

out of India which can take up a year or two. I dont want to set

boundaries for him by forcing him to marry me, unless he himself

wants to marry now. But at the same time, my family members are

worried about my marriage. They know nothing about my liking and all

these issues. Even if I tell them, they would not want me to wait

for a person who hasnot committed. May be they are right in their

own way, but I dont know what to do, because i dont want to give up

a relationship just because there are obstacles. I want to do some

fasting and perform pujas to improve upon my situation. I've

recently started fasting on Mondays and worshipping Lord Shiva.

 

Im really very sorry for this long mail. But please suggest me a

solution.

 

Thank you

Regards

AR