Sai Ram - I am in a state of confusion (members replies)

Posted February 25, 2008 · February 25, 2008

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Your problem is peculiar for our culture to understand.What prevents

you from marrying your partner and get legitimacy to your

relationship with your partner? You should pray to Swami to give you

courage to comeout in open and marry. This will also help your child

in future.- Ganapathy Janardhanan

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SaiRam Kamini,

I do understand the feeling of motherlyhood

that too when you we have fertility problems.I don't know your

problem in not going for marriage.But I suggest to better workout

towards marriage.Here what ultimately matters is your and your'

families happiness and also your childs future.As a mother, I feel

that we should give all the rights to our child.Reading your mail I

felt you are very sensitive and soceity concious to take the task of

single parenting.Depending on the bonding with your partner ,the

courage you have and your self conciousness you can take right

decisions.During conflict or confusion I pray swamy,meditate,do

pranayamam thinking swamy, read lot of sai literature on related

aspects and sometimes even put chits before bagwan's photo and take

things as his divine will.

Take care my sister and pray for swamy and read

books on satya sai parenting(Rita Bruice).Things will happen as per

his Divine Will only.So why tension surrender to baba.Why fear when

He is there.

sairam.

Praveena.

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Sai Ram Sister Kamani,

You are right to feel blessed that you will be bringing a new life

into this world. You don't mention your partner's (and your own)

attitude towards making the union official. People (family,

relatives, gossip mongers) have a tendency to remark on things for a

while and then move on to another target. Your concerns should centre

around what sort of life you are making for your unborn gift - if you

and your partner are so inclined, you can opt for a quick ceremony

which removes any social stigma from yourselves and the child.

God is all forgiving and is not going to punish an innocent life

being brought into this existence. Society, however, can be fickle -

but you still have time to do things to its requirements and look

forward to a blissful family life. And if you don't (or can't?) -

give the child all the love you can and make it proud of its parents

and the environment it grows up in.

Keep well, and remain blessed.

Vinod Parmar

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DearSir,

Sairam.

I am very much pleased at the inclusion of me

in the saibaba of india group and thank you very much for accepting

me by the grace of Sri Sathya Sai Baba who is the LIFE AND BREATH of

all of us.The voluntary service rendered by the devotees of swami

forSAIBABA OF INDIA group for the entire humanity of the globe is

nothing but a divine service with the grace,kindness and love of

Swami without HIM NOTHING MOVES EVEN A FRACTION OF A CENTIMETER.

Just now I have gone through the agony of

Radhika of Warangal who is an unwed mother.As a doctor I fully

sympathise with her condition and pray good and sound health both to

the mother as well as the infant in the womb.But as a human being

with moral,ethical and cultural values I feel it is better for

radhika to get married atleast through official registration of Hindu

Marraiges Act as early as possible to be a part of the social

fabric.Infact every human being and citizen has got certain

limitations and restrictions with values of various nature which have

to be respected and honoured irrespective of our

whims,fancies,desires and pleasures.Swami gives utmost importance to

our culture,heredity and human values.Let Radhika not bring the name

of swami in her adventure of becoming an unwed mother and it is

purely her own personal affair as long as she has broken the basic

norms and foundation of of our culture.Now the ball is in the court

of Radhika.Let a good sense would prevail over this unwed mother.

Dr.JP REDDY,

NALGONDA 508001. AP.

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dear kamani Sairam

it is not clear in what ambiece u are but i feel strongly that u must

immed. get married to ur partener if u want everyone incl. urself to

be happy as well as following Swamy's

dictum " DaivPreety,PaapBheeti;SanghNeeti "

SAILOVE

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Dear Sai sister,

Do not worry for the what other people's opinion. Follow yr heart n

soul. nomateer what u do, people will always talk. Your soul is yr

God. just listen the inner soul n be happy.

Sai Ram.

Dr.Pravin

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Sai Ram - I am in a state of confusion

" I am in a state of confusion & don't really know what & how to feel.

I am 32 years old & proud to say that I am going to be a mother. My

partner & I are very excited about my pregnancy. However, we are not

married . We prayed about a child, because both my partner & I were

told that it will be very difficult to conceive a baby & if we do

plan on having a baby, we must both go on fertility treatment. By

the grace, of the Almighty, we were blessed with this little miracle

growing inside of me. I am 14 weeks pregnant & look forward of the

arrival of my little miracle. The problem is that I feel that I am

extremely under a lot of stress. I prayed hard to Swami, to give me

the courage & strength to pull through the next few months. My

friends were overjoyed when I told them about my being pregnant, the

response & feeling that I got from my close friends were over-

whelming. It's the way my family feels, that concerns me. They all

say that they are happy for me, but deep inside I feel a sense of

rejection. I know that they are disappointed over the fact that My

partner & I are unmarried, but I accept this blessing & miracle as a

GIFT FROM GOD. I always put the feelings & well-being of every-one

before myself & have always been there for people in Good Times & Bad

Times- I know that maybe now is the time for me to change & put

myself first & my unborn baby. I am constantly thinking about how

everybody else is feeling about this pregnancy & wondering what they

saying behind my back. Why could they just tell me that they are

unhappy & then at least I know where I stand. My immediate family

(Mother,Father,Brothers, Sister) is happy about the pregnancy. People

like my aunts,uncles etc. are the ones that I getting these vibes

from. I have been praying to Swami to please remove these stinking

thinking thoughts & feelings of anxiety. I am even reduced to tears

when I think about it. Even though no-one has spoken to me about it,

I still feel the pain & hurt deep within. The arrival of a new life

should be one of excitement & a joyous feeling. I feel that I am all

alone and have no one to turn to except for Sai. I am sorry for

spilling this out to you all, but please can I have some guidance &

words of encouragement. I always accept everything that happens Good

or Bad- as the Will of Swami. Do you think that Swami is punishing

me?????? I am living with my 2 cousins & although they say that they

are happy for me – I feel the tension & anxiety in the air. To date,

no one has asked me " HOW DO YOU FEEL.ARE YOU OK?????? " I am

extremely emotional.

Thank you for listening to me & may Swami bless you all.

Sai Ram "

Posted February 26, 2008 · February 26, 2008

sairam,

whatever happened is good. pls follow swamy's footsteps.We are not here to correct u or go for a debate abt what u did is a mistake or not and it is not sai devotee's job to correct anybody.It is swamy's job.As far as possible let us all try to be a good devotee and not to deviate from swamy's sayings. Pls pray swamy and get married immediately and seek his blessings. Our norm is to get married and produce a child. First job in front of swamy and with the blessings of both the parents, get married and i pray Baba that in yr next mail u shd confirm that u r married.

JAISAIRAM

Krishnamurtiy p n

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SBOI Group

Tuesday, February 26, 2008 2:04 AM

Re: [sBOI-post] Sai Ram - I am in a state of confusion (members replies)

- Scroll down to the bottom of this page to read the message "I am in a state of confusion"----------------------Re: [sBOI-post] Sai Ram - I am in a state of confusion (members replies)Your problem is peculiar for our culture to understand.What prevents you from marrying your partner and get legitimacy to your relationship with your partner? You should pray to Swami to give you courage to comeout in open and marry. This will also help your child in future.- Ganapathy Janardhanan--------SaiRam Kamini,I do understand the feeling of motherlyhood that too when you we have fertility problems.I don't know your problem in not going for marriage.But I suggest to better workout towards marriage.Here what ultimately matters is your and your' families happiness and also your childs future.As a mother, I feel that we should give all the rights to our child.Reading your mail I felt you are very sensitive and soceity concious to take the task of single parenting.Depending on the bonding with your partner ,the courage you have and your self conciousness you can take right decisions.During conflict or confusion I pray swamy,meditate,do pranayamam thinking swamy, read lot of sai literature on related aspects and sometimes even put chits before bagwan's photo and take things as his divine will.Take care my sister and pray for swamy and read books on satya sai parenting(Rita Bruice).Things will happen as per his Divine Will only.So why tension surrender to baba.Why fear when He is there. sairam.Praveena.-------------------------Sai Ram Sister Kamani,You are right to feel blessed that you will be bringing a new life into this world. You don't mention your partner's (and your own) attitude towards making the union official. People (family, relatives, gossip mongers) have a tendency to remark on things for a while and then move on to another target. Your concerns should centre around what sort of life you are making for your unborn gift - if you and your partner are so inclined, you can opt for a quick ceremony which removes any social stigma from yourselves and the child.God is all forgiving and is not going to punish an innocent life being brought into this existence. Society, however, can be fickle - but you still have time to do things to its requirements and look forward to a blissful family life. And if you don't (or can't?) - give the child all the love you can and make it proud of its parents and the environment it grows up in.Keep well, and remain blessed.Vinod Parmar---------------DearSir,Sairam.I am very much pleased at the inclusion of me in the saibaba of india group and thank you very much for accepting me by the grace of Sri Sathya Sai Baba who is the LIFE AND BREATH of all of us.The voluntary service rendered by the devotees of swami forSAIBABA OF INDIA group for the entire humanity of the globe is nothing but a divine service with the grace,kindness and love of Swami without HIM NOTHING MOVES EVEN A FRACTION OF A CENTIMETER.Just now I have gone through the agony of Radhika of Warangal who is an unwed mother.As a doctor I fully sympathise with her condition and pray good and sound health both to the mother as well as the infant in the womb.But as a human being with moral,ethical and cultural values I feel it is better for radhika to get married atleast through official registration of Hindu Marraiges Act as early as possible to be a part of the social fabric.Infact every human being and citizen has got certain limitations and restrictions with values of various nature which have to be respected and honoured irrespective of our whims,fancies,desires and pleasures.Swami gives utmost importance to our culture,heredity and human values.Let Radhika not bring the name of swami in her adventure of becoming an unwed mother and it is purely her own personal affair as long as she has broken the basic norms and foundation of of our culture.Now the ball is in the court of Radhika.Let a good sense would prevail over this unwed mother.Dr.JP REDDY,NALGONDA 508001. AP.---------------dear kamani Sairamit is not clear in what ambiece u are but i feel strongly that u must immed. get married to ur partener if u want everyone incl. urself to be happy as well as following Swamy's dictum"DaivPreety,PaapBheeti;SanghNeeti"SAILOVE-----Dear Sai sister,Do not worry for the what other people's opinion. Follow yr heart n soul. nomateer what u do, people will always talk. Your soul is yr God. just listen the inner soul n be happy.Sai Ram.Dr.Pravin ----------------Sai Ram - I am in a state of confusion "I am in a state of confusion & don't really know what & how to feel. I am 32 years old & proud to say that I am going to be a mother. My partner & I are very excited about my pregnancy. However, we are not married . We prayed about a child, because both my partner & I were told that it will be very difficult to conceive a baby & if we do plan on having a baby, we must both go on fertility treatment. By the grace, of the Almighty, we were blessed with this little miracle growing inside of me. I am 14 weeks pregnant & look forward of the arrival of my little miracle. The problem is that I feel that I am extremely under a lot of stress. I prayed hard to Swami, to give me the courage & strength to pull through the next few months. My friends were overjoyed when I told them about my being pregnant, the response & feeling that I got from my close friends were over-whelming. It's the way my family feels, that concerns me. They all say that they are happy for me, but deep inside I feel a sense of rejection. I know that they are disappointed over the fact that My partner & I are unmarried, but I accept this blessing & miracle as a GIFT FROM GOD. I always put the feelings & well-being of every-one before myself & have always been there for people in Good Times & Bad Times- I know that maybe now is the time for me to change & put myself first & my unborn baby. I am constantly thinking about how everybody else is feeling about this pregnancy & wondering what they saying behind my back. Why could they just tell me that they are unhappy & then at least I know where I stand. My immediate family(Mother,Father,Brothers, Sister) is happy about the pregnancy. People like my aunts,uncles etc. are the ones that I getting these vibes from. I have been praying to Swami to please remove these stinking thinking thoughts & feelings of anxiety. I am even reduced to tears when I think about it. Even though no-one has spoken to me about it, I still feel the pain & hurt deep within. The arrival of a new life should be one of excitement & a joyous feeling. I feel that I am all alone and have no one to turn to except for Sai. I am sorry for spilling this out to you all, but please can I have some guidance & words of encouragement. I always accept everything that happens Good or Bad- as the Will of Swami. Do you think that Swami is punishing me?????? I am living with my 2 cousins & although they say that they are happy for me – I feel the tension & anxiety in the air. To date, no one has asked me "HOW DO YOU FEEL.ARE YOU OK??????" I am extremely emotional.Thank you for listening to me & may Swami bless you all.Sai Ram" Save a tree...please don't print this e-mail any documents unless you really need to.--Experience classic luxury and legendary Taj hospitality at our landmark UShotels: The Pierre, New York; Taj Boston and Campton Place, San Francisco.Visit www.tajhotels.com for reservations andadditional information.--