How to practise detachment

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Hi Sudhir,

 

Very difficult question to answer as most of

us are also beginners like you. But I will attempt to

answer you. First and foremost we need to get in mind

the saying of Sri Ramakrishna where he says " Live in

the world like a maid servant who looks after kids of

the household, She loves them as their very own but

her heart dwells on her home far away in her

village " .. This is what we need to repeat ourselves

consciously every moment. In the beginning it appears

to be only mere repetition but it does have effect

after you consciously try to repeat this to

yourself.In our case village happens to be our own

personal God. The first thing we suffer from is that

the mind wants to run to our wives and children, this

must be stopped. Will our wives and children come with

us when we die, why then this wild fascination with

our wives,husbands and children. We must love them but

remember that they are not an end in themselves, they

are meant to illustrate that things though sweet are

actually hindrances on your path. Mentally develop an

abhorrence for these bondages which bind you otherwise

when will you become free. Swami Yatiswarananda in

his book on meditation and spirtual life says "

Bondages should be avoided at all costs. Dont mix with

people who are not spiritual. If you mix raise a

shield around you and dont indulge in anything which

might be a reflection of weakness. Inner life and

outer life must not be in conflict. "

 

Me and you are bounded now because of our own mistakes

in the past. The way to rectify this mistake is to

understand the nature of the relation and then work

towards cutting off that deadly knot of bondage. We

have wives,parents and children. Accept this as the

wish of Sri Ramakrishna that you are meant to live the

life of a householder, but reject attachment to anyone

except god. This disease has become chronic and needs

allopathy not homeopathy says Swami Yatiswarananda.

Meditate every day for atleast half an hour and then

ponder over these questions every day. You will

realize that these attachments are not gross but they

are very very subtle. Until you go to the root of the

problem and discriminate at the very subtle level you

will not be safe. Doubts will come, they come to the

non meditating mind. Its idle talk to practise

detachment without meditation and japa. How will you

do it if your mind is in the lower three chakras.

Raise your energy consiousness to the upper planes and

dont let it go down. Be sattvic and then detachment

and pure thoughts will come, from here you can try

practising detachment. This is my experience and

through my tribulations I have come to realize that

unless you meditate you can never practise detachment.

Fix your gaze in the heart and raise your consiousness

level, even if it falls raise it again and again. You

will have to do it relentlessy day in and day out,

through depression and happiness till the very thought

of attachment makes your body burn.. In the earlier

stages I tried to be gentle with myself saying this is

enough for me, but truly speaking how can anything

less than total detachment be anything OK. I am a

beginner and a householder but unless we create in

ourselves such strong abhorrence mentally we are bound

to succumb to its extremely strong foe of kids, wife

and parents. Dont question,

first meditate and then contemplate. Never read more

than 2 pages from a book like GITA, is it a novel ??

 

These are in short the steps :

1. Read and meditate or meditate and read.

2. Keep your consiouness at the heart level or above.

raise it again and again if it falls.

3. Dont make any new bondages. Everything is included

here. Friends, children, relatives etc.

4.Cutivate company of saintly people. Try to see how

they live and try to implement it in our lives. Enough

of that idle talk where we say " Oh he is a saint, we

cant do that " . Do we atleast try. Try to keep atleast

something of their life in practise.

 

I read it in a book that " People mistake that for

Karma yoga we are allowed to do all the regular stuff,

this cannot be the case we must be pure and lead a

very ethical life to practise karma yoga " .

 

Though the tone of this mail is a bit harsh , i have

found that being gentle with my attachments and

delusions created a waste of time and only lead to

more confusion. I too like you have a long long way

before I achieve some higher form of detachment, but

since it must be done we should start immediately not

after 1 year or after we become old and all wasted up.

 

 

Sri Ramakrishna will bless you if you practise

sincerly.

 

Jai Ramakrishna

 

Vinay Mamidi.

 

 

 

 

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