The Art of Freeing Yourself from Hurt Feelings --- Sri Sri Daya Mata.- 1

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Whosoever wants to live in this world with any degree of inner peace

must learn how to deal with hurt feelings. It is so easy for the ego

to take offense when people rub us the wrong way.

 

Many persons think that they should pity themselves when criticised,

and that sensitiveness brings a little relief. But such people are

like the opium addict; everytime he takes the drug he becomes more

steeped in teh habit. Be as firm as steel against sentiveness. Never

be touch or harbour self-pity. An oversensitive person frequently

suffers in vain; generally nobody has any idea that he has a

grievance, much less what it is. So he feels further hurt in his self-

created isolation. Nothing is accomplished by silently brooding over

some perceived offense. It is best to remove by self-mastery the

cause that produces such sensitiveness.

 

Of course, it is good to be sensitive in the right way. God has given

us senses, a mnd, and feelings so that we can relate to others in

this world, so that we know we are alive! Feelings motivat the way we

react and respond to our environment. God does not intend us to shut

ourselves off from that communication with the wrold. But he expects

us to learn to control those insruments. WE can communicate through

positive feelings -- reacting to people and circumstances with love,

kindness, understanding, compassion; or through negative feelings --

resentment, hatred, anger, jealousy. It is upto each of us to learn

that self-control which brings happiness to ourselves and others.

 

" Sensitiveness expresses itself in a lack of control over the nervous

system, " Master went on to say, " A thought of being offended runs

through the mind and the nerves rebel against it. In reacting, some

persons seethe inwardly with anger or hurt feelings and show no

irritation outwardly. Others express their emotions in an obvious and

instant reaction in the muscles of their eyes and face -- and often

in a sharp retort of their tongue as well. In either case, to be

touchy is to make oneself miserable, and to create a negative

vibration that also adversely affects others. To be able always to

spread an aura of goodness and peace should be the motive of life.

Even if there is good reason for being excited because of

mistreatment, one who instead controls himself in such a situation is

mater of himself. "

 

.... Contd....

 

Love and Love alone....

 

P. Gopi Krishna