The Art of Freeing Yourself from Hurt Feelings ... Contd.

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We cannot go through life expecting every one to be careful with us.

As often as you feel hurt by someone, let your thought be, “No

matter, Let me give love, let me give understanding.†Constant

practice makes for continuous progress. Be happy that God is giving

you an opportunity to rise above negative feelings †" an opportunity

to express love and kindness toward someone who has misbehaved toward

you. As Jesus said, turn the other cheek. Gradually, the time will

come when you will have such control of your feelings that you will

not fall into over sensitivity again.

 

When your feelings are hurt, that means you are thinking of yourself.

Try not to let self enter into things so much. Always give others the

benefit of the doubt. Say to yourself, “Possibly they don’t

understand.†Sometimes it is simply thoughtlessness on the part of

others that causes them to say and do things that hurt us, not that

they are intentionally being mean. That effort on your part to

understand them will help to eliminate your hurt feelings.

 

The ideal is to rise above over sensitivity in ourselves, but never

be insensitive to others. To neglect being thoughtful is one of the

most common failings in human relationships, if your husband or wife

is speaking to you about some personal difficulty or illness, how

callous it would be to respond by saying; “Well, that’s your

problem.†Such behaviour, when persons do not try to empathise with

each other, causes so much unhappiness and inharmony.

 

No one can make you a saint; you have to do that for yourself. And

you do it by recognising the blessings in confronting whatever

problems or difficulties are presented by the environment in which

you have been placed by ‘God and your karma. How are you going to

improve and grow stronger unless you meet problems? The divine law of

karma, which works ultimately for our benefit, draws together souls

of diverse personalities and temperaments and puts them in situations

that reveal their weaknesses, so that they have the opportunity to

see and deal with their mental and spiritual defects and be healed of

them. Divine perfection is already within your soul; but they have to

work to realise and manifest it, to rub of the mud of ignorance so

that the gold of your soul can shine through. There is a simple way

to rediscover the godliness in yourself and others: love.