The Art of Freeing Yourself from Hurt and Feelings --- Concluded

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Understand what love is. It is not possessiveness or expectation of

response from others. Love means compassion; it means striving always

to give understanding, to be patient, to let others express

themselves. If you are asked to give advice to others, then give your

opinion; otherwise do not meddle. It is not good to try to cram your

ideas down the throats of others. People grow in their own way, in

their own time.

 

Persons whose minds are strong and positive cannot be affected by any

amount of negativity from others. However, just as a loving person

attracts and is moved by the love sent by others, so also on whose

thoughts are constantly revolving around criticism or meanness makes

the mind receptive to all the negative thoughts and behaviour of

others. The negative person is frequently upset by the darkness or

animosity of other individuals, and suffers throughout life from

their unkind words and thoughts. That is why, it is essential to

become more positive …quot; to have more faith, more love, more

cheerfulness.

 

Negativeness generally stems from deep-seated fears. Those fear come

from a sense of insecurity. And what produces that insecurity? It

stems primarily from a lack of love. It is love that gives the heart

and soul a sense of security, a healthy psychological and spiritual

foundation from which to meet everyone and every circumstance in a

positive, constructive way.

 

Human beings who do not receive the normal expression of love will

seek for it in abnormal ways. If a child is denied the natural love

of parents, family, and others around him, the child will withdraw

within himself, but will still have yearnings for love. If that lack

of love and caring persists in one’s life, those yearnings will

gradually begin to be perverted and express themselves in unhealthy

ways; dysfunctional relationships with others; and addiction to

alcohol or drugs or food or sensuality; or simply a chronic inability

to feel positive or loving or secure.

 

Those people in your life whose unkindness or negativity have hurt

you deeply, whom you fear or who you think do not love you …quot; their

suffering is possibly more than what they have inflicted on you; more than you

can know. When you meditate and feel God’s peace in your heart, and are in

communion with Him, send those individuals your love. That is the highest way to

heal yourself of hurt feelings as well as to help those who may have been unkind

to you.

 

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This is the concluding part of the article on " The Art of Freeing Yourself from

Hurt Feelings " . This article, I have taken from the May month magazine of " Ideas

Exchange " . This is an Extract from a talk given by Sri Sri Daya Mata, during

Satsangam at Self-Realization Fellowship International Headquarters. She is the

present Head of the Yogoda Self-Realisation International Fellowship,

eastablished by Paramahamsa Yogananda, the author of the famous book " An

Autobiography of a Yogi "