Pujya Ramsukhdasji Maharaj

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Give up Desire for Happines from Others

 

When a child is born, then whether he will grow up or not, whether

he will study or not, whether he will get married or not, whether he

will have children or not, whether he will have wealth or not, etc.

in all of these there is some element of uncertainty. But whether he

will die or not, in this there is no uncertainty. There is no doubt

whatsoever. He will definitely die.

 

If we do not grasp this understanding, without any doubts, then,

what is it that we will hold on to? If we do grasp this

understanding, without any doubts whatsoever, then we will not have

to be unhappy. Rather that whose separation is a certainty, accept

it's separation in the present. That whose separation is certain,

why must one have any expectation of happiness from them? If we have

the expectation of gaining happiness from them, then on our

departing from them we will have to cry and on their departure too,

we will have to cry. From the very beginning if we give up the

desire for happiness from them, then there will be no need to cry.

 

When the girl gets married and goes to her husband's home then at

that time she cries. On separating from her mother and father, she

feel sad and cries. But once she settles into her new home, in due

time she becomes so immersed and blended in her new life, that she

forgets her parent's home. When she becomes a grandmother or great

grandmother and when the children or grand children brings their

fiances / wives home, then at that moment she feels that this

outsider from a different family is ruining my family. She

completely forgets that at one time she too was an outsider. This is

called attachment. She has considered this home her own as if she

always belonged here. She internalizes - I am a mother, a grand

mother and these are my children and grand children. etc... And they

all are my very own. In this there is a certain kind of enjoyment.

 

This perceived nectar, will later be the root cause of immense

sorrow. This enjoyment will not remain forever, but it will leave

behind sorrow. The bird will fly away, but it will leave behind an

egg!