Pujya Ramsukhdasji Maharaj

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When You see Other's Defects, You have Forgotten Your Duty

 

Those who do as you wish, make you full of pride, which is a

demoniac trait.

 

" Dambho darpobhimaanacshr krodhah: " (Gita 16:4)

 

Therefore those who do not obey you are doing you service, because

they are helping in removing the demoniac traits from you and

bringing forth divine virtues in you.

 

Now the question arises that people will become rude and impertinent

if they don't obey you. There are two view points - if they disobey

you, they become impertinent, but if they obey you, you become

proud. Think over both these situations.

 

If you don't behave with pride and authority, and instead behave

politely with them, they will be influenced by your good behavior,

and at the same time they will not be pertinent. Therefore we should

advice them politely. But if they don't accept your advice, do not

lose your temper and patience, because if they become impertinent,

they themselves suffer and their suffering will warn them and then

their impertinence will go away. But if you behave with pride and

authority, your influence on them may be momentary only. Therefore

the method to remove their impertinence, is to do away with your

pride.

 

You have to live with the members of the family. Therefore learn the

art of living in the family. The art is that you should perform your

duty to your wife, parents, sons, brothers, and other relatives. You

should not expect them to perform their duty, because as soon as,

you see their defects and their duty, it means that you have

forgotten your duty.