USE THEM FREQUENTLY & MEAN THEM

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I'll Be There

 

If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to

take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some

miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase

" I'll be there. " Being there for another person is the greatest gift

we can give. When we're truly present for other people, important

things happen to them & us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We

are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very

core of civility.

 

I Miss You

 

Perhaps more marriages could be saved & strengthened if couples simply

& sincerely say to each other " I miss you. " This powerful affirmation

tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired & loved. Consider how

ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from

your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say " I miss you. "

 

I Respect You / I Trust You

 

Respect and trust is another way of showing love. It conveys the

feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your

children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds & become

close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

 

Maybe You're Right

 

This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring

frayed emotions. The flip side to " maybe you're right " is the humility

of admitting maybe " I'm wrong " . Let's face it. When you have a heated

argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point

of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the

risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying " maybe

you're right " can open the door to further explore the subject, in

which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a

more rational manner

 

Please Forgive Me

 

Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would

admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable

to faults and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that

he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is

wiser today than he was yesterday.

 

I Thank You

 

Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the

companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily

courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for

their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose

circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the

attitude of gratitude.

 

Count On Me

 

A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an

essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue

that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to

be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there

indicating " you can count on me. "

 

Let Me Help

 

The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a

hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch

in and help.

 

I Understand You

 

People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other

person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so

many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful

tools for healing relationship. This applies to any relationship.

 

Go For It

 

We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to

conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no

matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that

are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to

follow their dreams. Tell them to " go for it. "

 

I Love You

 

Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling

someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest

emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be

wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to

hear those three little words

 

" I Love You. "