re : 90/10 principle....

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Dear Hari Prasad,

 

Love and Love alone....

 

Yes, it is a very interesting narration. But, if implemented in one's life,

the life turns into a real blessings. It is not easy, but not that too difficult

too, if one has the will. As for me, I am trying, though it is a tough going. I

am sure I will succeed. I wish you also all the success in your efforts. Life

throws several such experiences and incidents and if we are open and learn from

then, we overcome and overgrow and become a torch bearer for many. Let us try

sincerely.

 

Love and Love alone.....

 

P. Gopi Krishna

 

hari prasad <harip30 wrote:

hi,

 

very interesting ... and it is really amazing...

 

u gave valuable information.

 

 

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hari prasad

 

--- On Thu, 5/15/08, Paritala Gopi Krishna <p_gopi_krishna wrote:

Paritala Gopi Krishna <p_gopi_krishna

www.telugubhakti.com 90/10 principle....

 

Thursday, May 15, 2008, 11:50 AM

 

Posted by: " prasad bulusu " prsdbulusu prsdbulusu

Wed May 14, 2008 6:34 pm (PDT)

 

Discover the 90/10 Principle - by Stephen Covey

 

What is this 90 / 10 principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens

to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

 

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what

happens to us.

 

We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late

arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off

in traffic.

 

We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You

determine the other 90%.

 

How? By your reaction.

 

You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction.

Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

 

Let's use an example.

 

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a

cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what

just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.

 

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse

and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the

table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change

your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy

crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

 

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and

drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40

miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and

throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter

runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the

office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day

has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and

worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find

small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

 

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

 

Why did you have a bad day?

 

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

 

The answer is " D " .

 

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted

in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

 

Here is what could have and should have happened.

 

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently

say, " Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time " .

Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and

your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window

and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive

5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on

how good a day you are having.

 

Notice the difference?

 

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

 

Why?

 

Because of how you REACTED.

 

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other

90% was determined by your reaction.

 

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says

something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll

off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment

affect you!

 

React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could

result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

 

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your

temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering

wheel fall off! Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do

you try and bump them?

 

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars

ruin your drive?

 

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

 

You are told you lost your job.

 

Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying

energy and time into finding another job.

 

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.

Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no

control over what is going on.

 

Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get

stressed out? It will just make things worse.

 

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at

the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle

is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

 

The result?

 

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials,

problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10

principle.

 

It CAN change your life!!!

 

Bulusu R S Prasad

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

P. Gopi Krishna

 

 

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