THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART IS THE WAY IT IS SAID

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THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART IS THE WAY IT IS SAID

 

The fourth point: the language of the heart is based more on the way

it is said; whereas the language of the mind depends upon what is

said. We may hear ten scriptures, twenty quotations, ten songs, four

languages. " Aha, what did he say? " " Plenty! " So the more said, the

more scholarly it is! There is the introduction, the development, and

then the conclusion. That is the language of the mind.

 

The language of the heart concentrates upon the way it is said.

Speaking about love generally is different to actually speaking to

someone you love. When you love someone, you speak softly, in a

delicate and tender way. You cannot handle the petals of a rose in a

rough way, can you? A rose has to be handled sensitively and softly,

so that the petals don't break off. The rose is not a piece of hard

rough wood that you can chop into pieces and toss around. So the

language of the heart is tender, sensitive and soft—it is all in the

way it is said.

 

You can easily see this when Swami talks to the devotees in the

language of the heart. He speaks about the Veda (Indian scriptures)

or the Bible, or the Quran, but the way He talks to us is more

important than what He is saying. The people love Baba not because of

what He talks about, but because of the way He says it.

 

 

THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART BRINGS ABOUT TRANSFORMATION

This is the fifth point: it is only the language of the heart that

will bring about transformation. The language of the mind is only to

convince people. It is violent because it speaks emphatically and

forcefully. It shouts repeatedly (as I do!) You are violent,

aggressive, and forceful! Why? To convince your audience of what you

are saying. The language of the mind, the pedantic, scholarly jargon

from the platform, will never change anybody. The language of the

heart is full of compassion; it transforms!

 

When Swami talks to people, His words are full of love and

compassion, the language of the heart. When Bhagavan talks to you,

you will notice one thing. He will listen fully and He won't cut you

off halfway. He allows you to argue to the end, exposing all your

ignorance and showing what a fool you are . . . and then He starts

speaking to you. (Laughter)

 

As Swami listens, you think you are telling Him things that He

doesn't know; this is an opportunity to inform Him, you think! That

is sky-high foolishness—but nobody on earth can help us in this

regard because God listens to us just like an innocent child.

 

" Oho, ha! " " What happened next? " " Oh, I see, and next? "

 

And as He nods His head and goes on listening, you don't stop

talking! (Laughter) But if a limit is reached, He knows how to put a

full stop to it. Suddenly He will say, " We will think of it later " or

He may say, " You know only that much about it; but I know a little

extra. " And He will tell you that something extra. So He knows it

all.

 

THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART ALWAYS THINKS OF YOU

 

The sixth point: as Swami talks to us, we realise that His language

of the heart is concerned solely with you. You are the focus of

attention. That is why people are up in the air when they come out of

the interview room. (Laughter) You are the central point, because the

language of the heart always thinks of you. That is why Baba wins our

hearts.

 

In the language of the mind, I am important. In the language of the

heart, you are important—we know that is so because Swami wants to

help us. So, in the language of the heart, the intention is to help

you; whereas, in the language of the mind, the intention is to help

oneself. That is the difference.

 

With the language of the mind, the aim is to build up your

personality, to build up an image in the public's sight. The

egocentric self says, " I don't want to help you. Instead I want an

invitation from you for me to give plenty of talks! And, if possible,

bring in lorry loads of people from nearby villages to hear me talk! "

 

All this has to do with self-praise, self-glory, and the ego. The

language of the mind is self- centred; while with the language of the

heart, you are the centre.

 

THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART THINKS OF THE INNER YOU

 

This is the seventh point. The language of the mind is concerned with

outer appearances. That is, it looks at the container. Is it an

earthen pot, or is it made up from glass or stainless steel? Is it

made from silver or gold? What quality is it? The language of the

heart relates to the inner aspect or the contents of the container—

the inside is more important than the outside.

 

I don't know how far you will agree, but it has been my experience

that in 5-star, 7-star, or super star hotel, containers are important—

even if they contain next to nothing! (Laughter) You will be given

the bare minimum of rasam (Indian spicy soup) in a very attractive

soup plate, served nicely with a broad smile. The container and the

table cloth are very important, and for that, you are charged fifty

rupees!

 

The language of the heart thinks of the contained, the inner you,

while the language of the mind thinks of the container (which should

be attractive), the outer you. For instance, when I speak, my

language should be flowery, with good intonation and pronunciation,

even if what I say has no meaning or substance to it.

 

THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART IS HEART-TO-HEART

 

I would also bring to your notice the eighth point. The language of

the heart talks only to the heart. It is called `heart-to-heart'. A

dialogue can be present even when there is no talking. For example:

there are two people who love each other very much. They don't talk,

but yet there is so much being " said " . That is, there is a flow of

feeling, sentiments or thoughts between them. It is not vocal—it is

heart-to-heart. That is why people may sit silently, but they still

know what the other is feeling, and sometimes thinking. Those seniors

who share memories going back thirty or forty years will agree with

my statement.

 

So many things don't have to be said, but still can be communicated.

Suppose there is a fight between the two of them (a couple). They are

not talking, yet each one will follow the other's dialogue. The

fellow returns home after office work . . . she is not talking, she

is not shouting; she doesn't open her mouth at all! But nevertheless,

he is disturbed and upset. There is no talking; it is all heart-to-

heart. The love between them created a bond, regardless of the

argument.

 

So, in heart-to-heart language, the talk is non-vocal, without the

help of words. In love, there is no need to talk. Here is a simple

example. Baba sits there in the evening and He does not talk, but we

feel like looking at Him. He sits there, that is all. He is not

talking to you. So why don't we go home? He is just sitting there.

But not so, He sits silently, yet He talks heart-to-heart. It is a

silent, wordless talk. It is a sound heard in silence, because many

people say to us afterwards, " Do you know what Baba said to me? "

 

" But He sat there silently. He did not speak. "

 

" No, no, no! I got a message. "

 

" What was the message? "

 

" He told me… " and the person tells of his experience.

 

 

THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART IS THOUGHT-TO-THOUGHT WITHOUT NEGATION

Baba is sitting there silently, but some people get messages because

it is heart-to-heart. The language of the mind is not like that.

 

Suppose I say, " This is a very bright morning " , the other person will

say, " No sir, it was brighter yesterday. "

 

" Today is very pleasant. "

 

" No, no, no! Yesterday it was more pleasant! "

 

There is argument in the language of the mind. There is no argument

in the language of love, the language of the heart. We don't argue

with Baba; how can we? You can't open your mouth! He does not ask you

to shut up, but you are always in that state! Why? He knows His love

that locks your mouth, and the key is in His pocket. He will open it

up when He wants to. You sit there for hours and hours. Why? " I don't

know " is the heart-to-heart reply.

 

Without being asked, you will do what the other man or woman wants;

whereas the language of the mind is full of argument and debate.

Suppose I say, " Let us meet at two o'clock this afternoon. " Somebody

will say, " Three o'clock is better. " Then the advantages of the

earlier or later time are debated—a lot of unnecessary debate and

argument. This is the language of the mind; whereas the language of

the heart is thought-to-thought without negation.

 

THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART CAN BE CONVEYED BY GESTURES, LOOKS OR SMILES

 

The ninth point to this: the language of the heart gestures. We see

Swami move His hand and some people will say, " I got a

message. " " What was it? " " Swami wanted me to go home. "

 

Another person might say, " Sir, I got this message from Swami: what I

am doing is fine—carry on. "

 

So the same gestures, the same smile, the same look means many

different things to many devotees.

 

A person might say, " He looked at me and I was so afraid that I

started to sweat. "

 

The other man says, " He looked directly at me! What a blessing it

was! "

 

Or, " He looked straight into my eye. I feel released like a fountain

full of joy. "

 

When Swami smiles, one man will feel, " Ah! It is like moonlight. " The

other man will say, " It is like a rainbow. " Then another says, " I was

up to mischief so He gave me a mischievous smile! "

 

He does not speak; He gestures. Sometimes I see Him simply move a

finger and the correct fellow understands that he is required. That

man will go directly to Him; whereas you and I, even if we shout the

person's name, somebody else comes to us, certainly not the right

person! Even if I call out a name loudly over the microphone, the

right man never comes. Yet He simply communicates like that

(gestures), and the exact wanted person will be there. The language

of the heart can be conveyed through gestures, looks or a smile. But

the language of the mind has to put it in words only—there being no

other alternative.

 

THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE IS THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART.

 

Therefore, the final and tenth point is this. Once we are in front of

Swami, all our doubts go, whatever they are. But until then, we have

these doubts . . . whether I should do it or not . . . should I get

His guidance . . . should I get clearance . . . what does He mean by

that? But when you are in front of Him, no doubts! However, when the

interview is over, the doubts come running after you again. Why?

 

The reason is that when there is total love, you face reality

directly. There is no question of " To be or not to be. " No, duality

is gone when there is love; it is love that dissolves duality. This

language of love is the language of the heart.

 

So as Baba said:

There is only one language, the language of the heart.

 

We will meet next week.

 

Thank you very much for being here. (Applause)

 

THE DIAMONDS OF SWAMI'S STATEMENTS

 

My talk to you today does not mean that I am going to talk to you in

the language of the heart next week. No, no, no! I will make use of

the language of the mind only. If I go to the classroom and say to

the boys, " I will talk to you in the language of the heart " , they

will successfully fail in the examination. (Laughter) So I use only

that language there, too.

 

But Swami's statement made me think seriously about the meaning of

the language of the heart. So let us collect the gems of Truth, these

diamonds of Swami's statements, and reflect upon them. We can discuss

them in detail so that we can understand and enjoy them, instead of

meaninglessly repeating them like a parrot.

 

Thank you very much for your presence.

Sai Ram.

 

Om Asatoma Sadgamaya

Tamasoma Jyotirgamaya

Mrutyorma Amritamgamaya

 

Om Loka Samastha Sukhino Bhavantu

Loka Samastha Sukhino Bhavantu

Loka Samastha Sukhino Bhavantu

 

Om Shanti Shanti Shanti

 

Jai Bolo Bhagavan Sri Sathya Sai Babaji ki Jai!

Jai Bolo Bhagavan Sri Sathya Sai Babaji ki Jai!

Jai Bolo Bhagavan Sri Sathya Sai Babaji ki Jai!

 

Ram Chugani

Kobe, Japan