Guest guest Posted March 14, 2009 Report Share Posted March 14, 2009                         Beyond Expectations  Can you do a work and expect no results for your sake from that? If you answer in the affirmative, congratulations !You can skip this chapter ..Hey, but read it any way. If you answer in the negative, then ponder on these points : Why should we benefit from any work we do ? Can’t we do some work where there will be no personal gain?      When you expect a result from a work or a particular response from a person of a certain out come from a situation ,you feel unhappy when it doesn’t happen as you’ve wanted it to happen .Why don’t you leave the result or outcome part and concentrate on your part alone?  What if what happen is not to my liking?- this is the question that comes to your mind .Isn’t it ?  Why should anything be to your liking in this world ? who are you ?  Develop such thoughts.Think along those lines. You understand that it’s not what has happened that causes unhappiness to you, but it is the feeling that what you have wanted to happen has not happened that causes the feeling of sorrow.   If you look if someone behaves as you have expected ,and feel happier if he hasn’t behaved so. Don’t worry if a work doesn’t give the expected result .Result is not your concern .That is what the Gita says. Slowly you’ll grow into a state where there’ll be no expectations. It’s the state beyond expectations.         My friend Prasad  had two sons .As he is a doctor, naturally he wanted one of his sons to become a doctor, But the elder became a software engineer.When the time came for the younger one to choose his line of specialization, he also followed his brother Prasad was depressed .He wanted to hand over his practice to his sons. But it didn’t happen. When he came to me, Iput only one question to him : ‘Are you not happy that your sons are achieving success in fields of their choice ?’’ He said. ‘’Yes. ‘’Then why do you worry? Find some young and enthusiastic doctor and hand over your practice to him. Allow your sons to grow big in their fields, ‘’ I adviced . A few weeks later he called me and said, ‘’yah,I now understand.Thanks for your advice.’’ Expecting something from a person is imposing your will on that person. Expecting some result from a work is like demanding some result from a work is like demanding service in return to service rendered. Both result in unhappiness and sorrow. Why should you invite sorrow into your life?  Put on a paper what you expect from people around you.Check how far your expectations have been fulfilled.Now put a cross against each name and write ‘’ I don’t expect anything from this person.’’  ‘’Blessed is he who expects nothing for he shall never be disappointed.                                         \                                         --Alexander pope’’ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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