Pujya Ramsukhdasji Maharaj

[Guest guest]

Harm Caused by Arguing and Criticizing

 

Criticizing anyone's viewpoint increases the conflict among each

other. If we criticize anyone's view, then he will also criticize

our view, which will lead to more conflict. So if it is possible then

peacefully share your view point with others, and if they do not want

to listen then become silent. You may consider this your defeat, so let it be

the case, but don't engage in any dispute.

 

This is an incident at the `Teacher Training College' in

Sardarshehar. One gentleman said that - Whatever losses and

destruction that has taken place in our nation, it is only due to

disputes related to God and Religious Beliefs. I remained silent. So

the gentleman said - `Say something!' Thereafter I replied

" You have spoken the conclusions that you have arrived at. You

don't agree to my views and I too do not agree to yours. Now there

is no scope for speaking and also there is no need for it. " In this

way, if someone attacks us, then endure it. By enduring and remaining

composed and free of any agitations, our viewpoint, principle become

strong, but not by dispute. The power that lies in remaining composed

is not there in any other solutions. If you cannot bear your favorite

deity's (Ishth's) defamation or criticism, then get up and walk away

from there; close your ears, don't hear it; because to such people

even favorable advice also seems contrary.

 

Vibhishan gave good advice to Ravan but Ravan kicked Vibhishan!

Therefore remaining silent is a very good thing. If we cannot endure

something then it is our weakness. This is Thakurji " (God's) Divine

play (lila) to make you strong! If you cannot bear it, then pray to God that `O

Lord! I cannot bear it. Please have mercy on me! Grace me

with the strength to bear it.'

 

If someone criticizes our view, our favorite deity (Isht), then we are

offended and hurt and we begin to defend our view. But in reality by

defending and propagating about our Ishth, it's fame will not spread.

Rather simply remain silent. As Kaakbhusundji in his previous life went to Saint

Lomash and asked him how to meditate on Lord Ram, then the Saint considering him

as proper candidate (of path of knowledge) gave him a discourse on that

knowledge. Lomashji time and again repeated the Knowledge, but Kaakbhusundji

didn't accept it and told his own view point. Due to this Lomashji became angry

and cursed Kaakbhusundi saying that `You are afraid of my words like a crow; go

and become a crow!' Kaakbhusundji became a crow. Even after becoming a crow he

neither felt fearful nor he felt inferior – `Nahi Kachu Bhay Na Deenta Aayi'

(Manas 7/112/8). Lomashji when he saw such forebearance and tolerance, then he

lovingly called him near, and enunciated him in Ram-mantra and meditation. In

this subject Kakbhusundji said -

 

Bhagati Pachcha Hatha Kari Raheu Deenhi Maharashi Saap

Muni Durlabh Bar Payahu Dekhahu Bhajan Pratap (Manas 7/114B)

 

" I stubbornly upheld the cause of devotion, for which the great sage

Lomash cursed me; but eventually I obtained a boon which is difficult

even for the sages to obtain! Witness the efficacy of worship. "

 

What was the worship? Forebearance- endurance, remaining calm and quiet, by this

efficacy of worship the sage gave him a boon that in which ever hermitage you

will reside, ignorance (Maya) will have no access within a radius of eight

miles. Therefore in remaining calm and quiet there is lot of strength.