RELATIONSHIP SECRETS

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RELATIONSHIP SECRETS

 

ANNIVERSARIES

 

Always celebrate! Whether it's the 1st or the 50th, each year together is a

triumph.

 

APPRECIATION

 

Let each other know how much you appreciate each other. You may already know but

hearing it from each other is always better.

 

BEST FRIENDS

 

Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend. Take time to know

each other so the relationship will be a deep one. Tell each other about your

crushes, dreams and problems. Make sure he/she is your best friend before

getting engaged. The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough

times.

 

BOND

 

Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other. Also

spend time alone w/ each other, so that at the end of the day you could both

share your experiences. This way, you stay interesting with your partner.

 

COMPLIMENTS

 

Always compliment each other. This will prevent feelings of resentment &

thinking that one is being taken for granted.

 

DATE

 

Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together. Make time & continue

to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good to maintain physical

attraction

 

DIFFERENCES

 

Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other's throat.

Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate

them.

 

FIGHTS

 

Fight w/the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other. The longer you

extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say something hurtful that you

don't really mean. As mad as you were w/ your partner, he/she is still the

person who laughs at your jokes & thinks you're hot. Hear each other out, don't

dig up old issues. Choose your battles. Make sure the fight will be worth it &

that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.

 

FLAWS

 

Know that the perfect person does not exist. Know that just as there are things

that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy.

We are only human with our own flaws.

 

FUN

 

Have fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that was there in

the early days. Allow yourselves to get silly - shower together, pee w/the door

open etc. Being able to make each other laugh & see the lighter, crazier, absurd

side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities,

adjustments in lifestyle & opposing viewpoints.

 

GOALS

 

Make sure you have similar goals. It would be difficult to keep your bond intact

if your views are complete opposite.

 

GRUDGES

 

Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don't recycle

it.

 

KEEPING IT HOT

 

Keep it hot by traveling to diff. places together. A new setting will do

wonders. Always have skin contact - be it holding hands, a massage or just plain

leg rubbing.

 

HONESTY

 

Don't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.

 

KNOW EACH OTHER

 

Learn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!

 

HUG

 

A hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.

 

IDENTITY

 

Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love w/you. Have

separate interest & activities to keep your individual, & to be able to

contribute more to the relationship.

 

INDEPENDENCE

 

Having your own income means you're the boss in your life.

 

IN-LAWS

 

Make rooms for the in-laws.

 

INTENTIONS

 

Wish each other well. Don't wish each other worst

 

ISSUES

 

Speak up about the awkward stuff now,like money & sex. The earlier, the better.

 

LISTEN

 

Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.

 

LOOK GOOD

 

Mind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other.

 

LOVE

 

It all boils down to your love, chemistry & respect for each other.

 

MEMORIES

 

Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each

other before. It may even be corny but it made you two together. Experience new

things together- from dining into a new restaurant to experiencing street food

together to exploring to new places. It's the little surprises that make great

memories.

 

MIND READING

 

No matter how long you've been together, do not think that you can read each

other's mind.

 

NEEDS

 

Be good to yourself, then be good to your partner. That's what love is all

about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy? Will she/he enjoy

it? Consider each other's feelings. Be very attentive & sensitive to each

other's needs, physically & emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the

same for you. Never take your partner for granted.

 

PRIORITIES

 

If one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other

things!

 

SORRY

 

Say sorry when you're wrong.

 

SURPRISES

 

No matter how long you've known each other, be open to surprises, both good

or bad.

 

TEAMWORK

 

Think for two & always work as a team. Consult each other before making a

decision because everything will always affect both of you. Strengthen couple

power. In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the

relationship in favor of our individual selves.

 

SUPPORT

 

Support each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions, support your

partner in his/her decisions & create new ones together. Two heads are

better than one.

 

TALK

 

Tell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast & its easy to see how easily

couple can grow apart. Whenever something funny, scary, exciting or juicy

happened to you or to someone you know, tell each other about it & have your

partner do the same. Keep each other in the loop of life, even by email if you

have to.