Digest Number 1760-Jagannath

April 15, 2004

Dear Jagannath,

Regarding loneliness, I can say for sure that the

fight against loneliness is tough indeed. But every

lonely person has to ask himself/herself certain

questions. If you need a companion, you should get

one. If you dont have a companion, did you choose not

to have one, or did circumstances in life deprive you

of a comparison? Many people, especially sanyasins,

chose not to have a companion since they think it

would come in the way of spiritual practices. In one

instance, a chancellor of one of the universities n

Karnataka chose to remain single because he wanted to

dedicate his entire life to community service through

his contribution to education. He really lived and

still lives as a sanyasin although he did not join any

ashram. In other words, if we are not driven by a

strong goal in life that justifies the need to be

single, it is not worth choosing to be single. Do you

agree? In some cases, people are wrongly advised not

to get married and they may find out out later that it

is an uphill task to fight loneliness. There are very

good arguments for and against being single. We all

must decide what we want and why we want what we want.

Having said this loneliness can be fought by active

community service where you mingle with people always

and perform different types of services. This gives a

psychological satisfaction that after all, the person

would not have been able to accomplish all those

things if he/she had been married. All positive

activities which keep us busy throughout the day will

help to fight loneliness. Let me also share another

thought- persons who are married can also feel

loneliness because at some point, either the marriage

might have failed or due to other disappointments.

Life is strange-is in't it?

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