Secret Formula for happy life...

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90/10 Secret Formula of Life

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10% of life is made up of what happens to you.

 

90% of life is decided by how you react.

 

What does this mean?

 

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to

us. We cannot

stop the

car from breaking down. The plane may be late

arriving, which throws

our

whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in

traffic. We have no

control

over this 10%.

 

The other 90% is different. You determine the other

90%! How? By your

reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can

control your

reaction.

 

Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you

react!

 

Let's use an example. You're eating breakfast with

your family. Your

daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your

business shirt. You have

no

control over what just happened.

 

What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse. You

harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee

cup over. She

breaks

down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your

spouse and

criticize her

for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table.

A short verbal

battle

follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.

 

Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too

busy crying to

finish

breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the

bus. Your spouse

must

leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and

drive your daughter

to

school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an

hour in a 30 mph

speed

limit.

 

After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic

fine) away, you

arrive at

the school. Your daughter runs to the building without

saying good-bye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find

you forgot your

briefcase.

 

Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it

seems to get worse

and

worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive

home, you find a

small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and

daughter.

 

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

 

Why did you have a bad day?

 

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

 

The answer is D. You had no control over what happened

with the

coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what

caused your bad day.

 

Here is what could have and should have happened.

 

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to

cry. You gently say

" It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next

time " . Grabbing a

towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt

and your briefcase.

You

come back down in time look through the window and see

your child

getting on

the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss

before you both

go to

work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet

the staff. Your

boss

comments on how good a day you are having.

 

Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both

started the same.

Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED.

You really do

not

have any control over 10% of what happens. The other

90% is determined

by

your reaction.

 

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.

 

If someone says something negative about you, do not

be a sponge. Let

the

attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to

let the negative

comment affect you!

 

React properly and it will not ruin your day.

 

A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend,

being fired, getting

stressed out, etc.

 

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?

Do you lose your

temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine

had the steering

wheel

fall off!)

 

Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do

you try and bump

them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why

let the blue car

ruin

your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not

worry about it!

 

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get

irritated?

It will work out. Use your " worrying " energy and time

into finding

another

job.

 

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule

for the day. Why

take

out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has

no control over

what

is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the

other passenger,

etc.

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

 

You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will

be amazed at the

results.

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