Fwd: Using Emotional Intelligence to Transform Stressful Feelings

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We haven't touched on emotional health for a while... Comments?

 

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USING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE TO TRANSFORM STRESSFUL FEELINGS © Carol James

 

Your emotions are often the most obvious sign that something is wrong. For

this reason, you can always use uncomfortable emotions - fear, hurt, worry,

discomfort, anxiety, etc. - as indicators that you have moved out of your

Flow Zone state (the state in which you are most alive and productive) and

into a stressful one. You don't have to watch every thought; just pay

attention to your feelings. Good feelings indicate that you're viewing your life

in a positive light. As long as you're feeling uplifted and empowered, you don't

need to monitor your thoughts because they're clearly serving you well.

 

By contrast, when you notice that you've started to feel bad, you can find

out why by identifying the negative emotion. Ask yourself, " How am I

feeling, and why am I feeling that way? " If you can give the emotion a

precise label - hurt, anger, sadness, depression, jealousy, rejection,

loneliness,

boredom, anxiety, worry or apprehension - you will have a clue to how you may be

perceiving a particular situation. Then you can follow this clue to its

trigger. Here are some common emotions with the perceptions that often accompany

them:

 

Hurt - You probably perceive someone's words or actions as intended to hurt

you.

 

Worried - There's a good chance you're thinking about some future event that

you either do not look forward to or fear might happen.

 

Angry - You may believe that someone has done something you do not approve

of or strongly disagree with.

 

Defensive - You may believe that someone doesn't understand you or is trying

to attack you.

 

Resistant - You may perceive something as undesirable and are trying to

avoid it.

 

You may not be certain which event triggered your negative feelings, but

labeling the emotion can help you trace it back to its source: your

perspective. However, don't spend an inordinate amount of time trying to

figure out exactly which emotion you're experiencing. Sometimes it's

sufficient just to notice that you don't feel good or you feel " off " or

" lousy. " Since the goal is to feel better, focus instead on ways to change the

perceptions that have triggered your emotional response.

 

Of course, the more adept you become at catching yourself as you transition

from feeling good to feeling bad, the more quickly and easily you can

identify the trigger that caused you to feel bad. Naturally, as with any new

skill, mindful awareness must be practiced and reinforced before it can

become a habit. Be patient with yourself, and know that each time you use this

process, you're improving your self-awareness.

 

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From Spiritually Speaking

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