Guest guest Posted October 5, 2000 Report Share Posted October 5, 2000 At 08:51 AM 10/5/00 +1000, you wrote: >But my attempts to make friends over the last 10 >years have been singularly unrewarding. I think I have a defective gene - >inability to keep friends!! >Love, >Jo, in Sydney Jo, I felt the need to reply to this portion of your message because I may have some insight for you in this regard. We tend to think of friendships and relationships in general in a storybook " forever " kind of way. I have over the years found that a more realistic view is that they run in cycles. I personally have caused myself more grief than I can shake a stick at trying to hang onto friendships and intimate relationships that had served their purpose and needed to be released. I guess what I am trying to say is rather than think of yourself as being defective because you don't have the same friends for extended periods of time, think of yourself as lucky that you are able to allow people to flow in and out of your life. Let each relationship no matter how brief be of benefit to both parties and be prepared when it is not to let it go. Bright Blessings, Angharad Truthsayer aka Sandy Roberts We within us carry all the knowledge necessary to create a beautiful universe filled with love, laughter and joy. Begin today to find this within you and share it with the world. You will find that it will be the greatest journey you can ever imagine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 2000 Report Share Posted October 5, 2000 Hi, Jo. Sandy offered you a great deal of insight, and I think she is absolutely correct about the nature of relationships. I also LOVE the idea of de-stressing animals with Reiki (or just with loving energy). They're so responsive and appreciative! Please see below for a few more ideas on the nature of friendship in this new era of electronic communication: > > Jo, I felt the need to reply to this portion of your message because I may > have some insight for you in this regard. We tend to think of friendships > and relationships in general in a storybook " forever " kind of way. I have > over the years found that a more realistic view is that they run in cycles. Absolutely. There are fewer things more uncomfortable than a relationship where two people have grown in different directions, and one of the people cannot honor those differences. I've been on both sides of that issue, and can tell you that it's equally uncomfortable from either end. There is a time to let these relationships go. Not necessarily to cut the person out of your life, simply to realize that you are now different people than you were at the beginning of the relationship and need to pursue those separate interests...at least for the time being. > I personally have caused myself more grief than I can shake a stick at > trying to hang onto friendships and intimate relationships that had served > their purpose and needed to be released. I guess what I am trying to say is > rather than think of yourself as being defective because you don't have the > same friends for extended periods of time, think of yourself as lucky that > you are able to allow people to flow in and out of your life. Let each > relationship no matter how brief be of benefit to both parties and be > prepared when it is not to let it go. > I've been thinking a great deal lately about the nature of friendship, and how the whole concept seems to be expanding to include people one has no face-to-face contact with. As you know, I, too, work from home on my computer. My time is relatively limited, and I've not met many stimulating people here in suburbia. That's perfectly fine. The few " like minded " people I've found are a joy to be around. Probably more so for their relative rarity. These days, I find that some of my strongest friendships are online, with people that I very possibly may never meet. It simply doesn't matter. I've struck up some very strong and lasting friendships with people in different parts of the world...some of whom I communicate with on a daily basis; others, less frequently but with just as much affection and regard for their contributions to my life. Their friendship is no less precious or real to me because we are not in the same room (or state, or continent for that matter!). Jo, you and I are in the process of developing an offline friendship, and that makes me very happy. The fact that we will probably never meet in a face to face setting really has no bearing on the fact that we share common interests and will probably have a great deal to talk about in future posts. I wonder if it's time to rethink our definition of the word " friend " to include those long-distance relationships that can make our time " chained to our desks " so very much more rewarding...plus you never know when they might have an interesting relative or acquaintance in your neck of the woods! Keep smiling, and get out and walk--it's springtime in Oz, enjoy the scenery while you're doing your body a favor and showing the arthritis that You're in charge! Florie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 7, 2000 Report Share Posted October 7, 2000 When we feel it is necessary to " hold on " or " to have " then we are trying to possess that which can only come through letting go. If we are active seekers then we must be willing to live and let live, being ever mindful of the moment and the beauty therein. There is one friend that can never leave us and that is ourself. Honor and love that Self as if it were your very best friend. Watch the magic unfold. http://community.webtv.net/Talks-withtrees/PrayerChain Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 7, 2000 Report Share Posted October 7, 2000 This is beautifully said and I am sorry that I don't know your name so I can not honour you by saying your name. What you reminded me of and hopefully all of us is how important it is to be *our* best friend and to honour *ourselves* for surely we will always have that hopefully beautiful relationship - with ourselves. I remember hearing over the years " love thy neighbour as thy self " It seems that I always heard the 'neighbour' part but sometimes seemed to forget the 'thyself' part. An important little addendum THYSELF. And as I am responding to 'talks with trees', aren't trees some of our beautiful friends!! A majestic oak in a park close to where I live has been my dear confidant over the years. We indeed have a great friendship. best, Maya On Fri, 6 Oct 2000 19:27:21 -0400 (EDT), wrote: > When we feel it is necessary to " hold on " or " to have " then we are > trying to possess that which can only come through letting go. If we are > active seekers then we must be willing to live and let live, being ever > mindful of the moment and the beauty therein. There is one friend that > can never leave us and that is ourself. Honor and love that Self as if > it were your very best friend. Watch the magic unfold. > > > http://community.webtv.net/Talks-withtrees/PrayerChain > _____ Say Bye to Slow Internet! http://www.home.com/xinbox/signup.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 7, 2000 Report Share Posted October 7, 2000 Yes Maya trees are divine. My favorite children's book is " The Giving Tree " . I chose the pen name " Talks with Trees " because I feel very comfortable in their presence. In native american tradition they are the standing people:+) As a child I had twin pines that were my guardians.(a little hard to explain:+) Peace> Susanne < http://community.webtv.net/Talks-withtrees/PrayerChain Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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