Re:Depression/weight/negative friends

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Hi Gina - One thing we learn more strongly as time goes on is that

everything is related. You've already started catching on to that, it sounds

like. Well guess what? Depression can often be caused by too much negativity

coming from others, with nothing to counteract it. Depression makes people

want to eat all the time - nibbling on little snackies or sweeties. Of

course, weight gains result.

 

Continuing on, you can often tell what is causing a physical symptom by

describing it and thinking emotionally at the same time. With weight, for

example, you could say you are carrying more than your share of the weight

of the world (trying to solve all your friend's problems?) Or if you were to

describe it as " blubber " or " extra padding " it might mean you are protecting

yourself from the hurts of the world.

 

I would say that changing a few friends might be a good idea! You could

start with the most negative one that you kinda wanted to let go of anyway,

and then find a really positive friend (or activity) to replace them. You

could even think to yourself, " I can't go with you today because I'm saving

that time for . . . " (a fun class??) Once that's done, then replace the next

most negative friend and so on until you're satisfied. You won't necessarily

have to let go of all of them, because one or two are going to respond to

your increasing happiness by becoming happier themselves. Guaranteed!

 

Have fun - Susette

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, " Susette Horspool " <susinv@q...> wrote:

Depression makes people want to eat all the time - nibbling on little

snackies or sweeties.

 

I'm not saying being overweight is not a problem but:

I feel I am a part of an invisible minority here. I _stop_ eating when

I am depressed or stressed. If I *wanted* to gain weight it would be a

struggle. Almost every person I have ever told this to has *envied*

me. And I wonder: do they want to be colder than everyone around them?

Do they want to have blood pressure so low that bending over and

standing up too quickly causes 'brown-outs?' Do they want to be

anemic? Be uncomfortable sitting down for more than 30 minutes at a

time? Somehow, I doubt it.

Audrey

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Hi again Audrey:

 

My best friend and I from High School were physically opposite; the only

thing we had in common was our poor eating habits. She was slender, long

limbs and braces... it was the braces that ruined her appetite, she hated

eating. On the other hand, I was busy starving myself, and I was a rounded

Latina. I look at pictures of these young girls on TV now and wonder why I

thought I was fat, but it wasn't fashionable to have a rear end back then!

 

The unfortunate thing about my incessant starving to fight my genes was that

I snapped the handle off my appetite trigger. The only way I can tell if I

am hungry now is if I get nauseous, and that usually means my blood sugar is

bottoming out. So I have to remind myself to eat. Now, I read recently in a

joke post that it takes a special kind of stupid to forget to eat, but there

it is... I was a special kind of stupid as a teenager, and no one knew what

anorexia was back then.

 

If I could say anything to myself at that age (as if I would listen)I would

tell myself how beautiful I was, how it is a wonder to have energy and sleep

well, have that rosy complexion of youth and be able to walk around without

a brassiere ;-) I'd tell myself not to worry, that love comes when it is

supposed to and not because of how we look, but who we are. I'd tell my

friend what wonderful teeth she will have, and how I will envy that figure

when she goes to Barbazon for modelling lessons, and when I stand up beside

her at her wedding.

 

If we can learn to accept ourselves as manifestations of God in our everyday

lives, and care for ourselves in the best way we can with the best

maintenance and fuel, then whatever we look like will be what we are

supposed to look like... every temple is holy, whether it is a tiny grotto

or the Taj Mahal!

 

Blessings,

Crow

 

 

>audreylee

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> Re:Depression/weight/negative friends

>Thu, 22 Feb 2001 20:05:37 -0000

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>, " Susette Horspool " <susinv@q...> wrote:

>Depression makes people want to eat all the time - nibbling on little

>snackies or sweeties.

>

>I'm not saying being overweight is not a problem but:

>I feel I am a part of an invisible minority here. I _stop_ eating when

>I am depressed or stressed. If I *wanted* to gain weight it would be a

>struggle. Almost every person I have ever told this to has *envied*

>me. And I wonder: do they want to be colder than everyone around them?

>Do they want to have blood pressure so low that bending over and

>standing up too quickly causes 'brown-outs?' Do they want to be

>anemic? Be uncomfortable sitting down for more than 30 minutes at a

>time? Somehow, I doubt it.

>Audrey

>

 

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I wonder if the effect depression has on eating is

related to what food symbolizes at a larger level in

our lives. Maybe for you food is simply life and

nutrients and so a rejection of life would lead to a

rejection of food. For me food symbolizes an ability

to " feed myself well " which in some way means i'm

successful. My dad often reminded me when I was

younger that he was feeding me. those are the words

he used. so now food may a symbol of independence for

_me_. I think food and eating are issues very wrapped

up our upbringings.

 

 

 

 

--- audreylee wrote:

> , " Susette Horspool "

> <susinv@q...> wrote:

> Depression makes people want to eat all the time -

> nibbling on little

> snackies or sweeties.

>

> I'm not saying being overweight is not a problem

> but:

> I feel I am a part of an invisible minority here. I

> _stop_ eating when

> I am depressed or stressed. If I *wanted* to gain

> weight it would be a

> struggle. Almost every person I have ever told this

> to has *envied*

> me. And I wonder: do they want to be colder than

> everyone around them?

> Do they want to have blood pressure so low that

> bending over and

> standing up too quickly causes 'brown-outs?' Do they

> want to be

> anemic? Be uncomfortable sitting down for more than

> 30 minutes at a

> time? Somehow, I doubt it.

> Audrey

>

>

 

 

 

 

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That was Great Crow

 

Namaste,

Ariel